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2021: Me (31) has romantic interest in somebody I work with (21). She also had romantic interest in me. We started flirting and hanging out. One night she comes over and we have a couple of drink (measured 3oz of liqour in mixed drink with ice). I get up courage to ask to kiss her and she says yes. Night progresses and we end up in bed together and she spends the night with me. In the morning I intimate intimacy again, shortly after she leaves. I messaged her about how special I thought the night was and how happy I was to spend the night holding her (I was head over heels for her for MONTHS before but she had a boyfriend), she tells me that I raped her. I tell her to tell the cops and get a rape kit done, that I'd plead guilty in a second if she pressed charges (as a guy it's not my place to define rape). She says no, we end up dating for about 9 months. During that time she makes a few subtle comments about me what happened, and after talking to her for a bit and realizing she's been unhappy for a while and reccomend therapy. She's goes to therapy and a few months ago left for finishing up school overseas and broke up with me. At this point I had already told her I loved her (felt like I had for a very very long time, since before she even messaged me I couldn't stop thinking about her). While she's been gone I have sent her a message here and there, ar first she responded normally seemingly wanting to have a conversation and even wished me a happy birthday unprovoked. I sent her a video about a month ago that was funny, no message, just trying to give her some laughs; she told me "please stop messaging me". So I have since then until yesterday, which I only said congratulations for graduating college, no response though I'm sure she has me blocked. Anyways to the point. I am still head over heels in love with her. She's been gone for months but is always prevalent on my mind and I know starts working again in a few weeks. . . Can she ever forgive me?

An interesting MHO that I came across while on GAG

"I can't speak for every guy but I'd say a woman's RMV (relationship market value) is cut in half once she has a child with another man.

I always like to say that a single mom to a man is about attractive as a homeless guy is to a woman. And if women would listen rather than just reacting with anger they'd understand why!

A homeless guy is a gamble! He might be a good guy but something put him in that position. Same as a single mom. She's a gamble. Something put her in that position. And here's where women will make excuses such as He left her, he knocked her up and dumped her. He was abusive. Etc. What do all these cases have in common? HER. She CHOSE this "wonderful" man. In short if a woman is a single mom, it's indicative of her judgement. Why would a guy want to be with a woman who makes bad choices? Would a woman want to be with a guy who makes bad judgements? No!

To make things worse most guys are smart enough to realize in many of those cases the biological father is never out of the picture. How would you women feel about a guys ex always being in the picture... yeah I thought so!

And I haven't even mentioned the financial aspect. It has been estimated that each child is a cost of 160,000 USD (Let's not quibble on the number).

The point is if she had 3 kids you're already in the hole for a half million. Now ask each woman if they want to take a half million dollar gamble on a guy they choose. I rest my case!

Sorry ladies make good choices and save yourself this problem. Single moms, you made your nest... sorry you have to lie in it."