Major mixed signals... any thoughts?

[Anonymous]

I have a co-worker who I really like. We've worked a ton of 1-on-1 together. Like a lot. He is super insecure, a lot introverted, anxious, and I think depressed. We're a lot alike though, and in some ways have become super close. I don't know what all he has put together or how much he's realized, but we're good for each other, and truly understand each other. It creeps me out every now and then with how much we have in common. And like today another co-worker literally told me to marry him. And then yesterday another co-worker asked if I like him. I can't figure him out though. One day we're the best friends ever, and the next he wants nada to do with me. Even after a fight, we'll be fine the next day, but after we get real personal, it's like he realizes how close we got, and gets scared. Last week for example, we ended up holding hands when we were messing around. And the next day we wrestled for a water bottle. But our eye contact has been iffy since then when it had been stellar, and he barely wanted anything to do with me today or yesterday. And I think he tried to avoid me a bit yesterday. Although what he did want today, he was showing me marker all over his lower body. Near certain areas. He's insanely nervous about certain things with me, i. e, he won't let me listen when he plays his instrument. And then outside of work is a whole other ballgame. Sometimes he's like trying really hard to get me to come with the group, others it's like he could care less. He never accepts my invitations to do things. They mostly involve food and he doesn't like eating in front of other people, but still. He doesn't joke with me a lot, and he will others. And like he does know I'm insecure and I think he really respects me in some ways, but... I'm just so confused. The body language and chemistry are there. But I can't figure him out. He makes no effort the majority of the time. I don't know. We're working mostly 1-on-1 together tomorrow, so I'll update then.

[Jamesshinobi]

yeah i think he is gay and he likes you like a sister. he probably knows you like him and he is ashamed. thats why he acts cold, in the hopes that you will not like him romantically but as a brother.

[KanarulSacko]

I'm sure that these same coworkers are probably asking him the same things. The bad part about "shop talk" is everything gets around. He could be embarrassed. Other co workers could be harassing him

[rtran0325]

I would just be honest and ask him.