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I’ve been living with my fiancé and his grandma for about 7 months now. Lately she has been getting even sicker (she’s on oxygen 24/7) so that also contributes to her having some breathing issues as well. It’s been a few days since she’s been back home from the hospital since her last visit not too long ago. Everything has been turned upside down!

No drama but everything is about her. I work full time M-F get home at 6pm so majority of my time is there since he doesn’t work but get $ monthly. She was already dependent on him but now it’s worse! He has to feed her, and walk her to the bathroom, clean up after her and clean the house all the time.

NYE was the first time in days we’ve spent more than 1 hr together.. IN THE SAME DAMN HOUSE!!! I’ve been asking him for months for dates, more than 2hrs of quality time, to get away from the house since his grandma is home ALLL the time!! We have no privacy and no peace and quiet at all cause he’s always chasing after her. Anytime we leave the house together it’s pretty much for her benefit not for a good time.

I don’t want to sound selfish but I’ve been helping him before her health declined but it makes me not want to help since there hasn’t been any balance in our relationship. It’s all about her and did I forget to add we’ve only slept in the same bed 5 times the whole 7 months I’ve been here.
I explain to him I want things to change that I want to go out and do things but I get an okay and nothing changes.

We had plans to spend the night at a hotel for NYE but had to cancel cause she need him on the hour by the hour 🙄. Our sex is always good but I’m checked out because if you can find time to have sex with me you can set aside more than an hour of your time!

We had a pregnancy scare but I’m thankful I’m not pregnant because I’d honestly leave this house. Myself nor my baby will sit there and be on the back burner. Not for no no one!!

!!! please no judgement!!

My fiancé and I have been together for 4 yrs-engaged for 1 yr. I moved to his home state and into the home of him and his grandma. There’s no real drama except our relationship is done it seems

Today is his birthday (12/14) and he sends me this text.

His grandma was out of the house since she was in the hospital leaving us alone almost 6 days. For once he didn’t have to keep doing everything little thing she asks him to do and he had peace for once. But I noticed he was “bored” a lot. That alarmed me since he wasn’t taking advantage of the peace and freedom he had for once.

We are in our mid 20’s and he has never had the house alone in years! So it’s weird he wouldn’t enjoy it. But I’ve come to the conclusion that he likes taking care of her EVERY single need even if he has no energy to focus on himself let alone OUR RELATIONSHIP.

Don’t think I’m jealous & inconsiderate & don’t want him taking care of his grandma, that’s what I admired about him. I work all day so by the time I get home @ 6/7pm I only get 1-2 hrs of his time and in the mix of that she’s calling him to get something else.

it’s to the point where we haven’t had any dates but our weekends consist of running errands for her. I tell him I wants dates but that’s hasn’t happened.

I tell him we need quality he shuts down and gets upset as if I’m asking for too much. The topic of getting or saving up for our own home is now contingent on his grandma’s at home nurse capabilities on taking care of her. But 2 months earlier we agreed to start saving.

Is he breaking up with me?