When it comes to my relationship, I have an odd side of it due to my mom. My parents are both very religious but mom tries to be around and active in my life every chance she gets. This usually means either staying with me or having me stay with her 3+ times a week. I 27F recently started dating my boyfriend 30M and things have been rocky but we finally reached a good place.
Today though he asks me what I’m doing and I say I’m doordashing with my mom and spending the night there. Now he works in the same town mom is in. We haven’t seen each other in a week and haven’t slept over in over a month. Both of us are busy but if I ever have free time other than mom I try to make it available for him. It is very rare he would ever ask me to spend the night on a Tuesday but he did today. Usually he is off Wednesday and I’m not busy Wednesday so I assumed we’d see each other tomorrow. He suddenly tells me he took a job that starts tomorrow and so no I couldn’t sleep over. Just to tell mom I’m staying with him
Mom is very conservative and it took me 2.5 months to tell her we were dating, so saying I was sleeping over is gargantuan. I tried to explain this, but it made him upset. He thinks if I want a real relationship. I just need to be honest with her and stop acting like we have to sneak around. I feel like that we can still have an adult relationship without having to hurt her and make her worry that I’m in some kind of sin. But this makes me only see him times he can either come to me or I can go late enough that she’s asleep. I’m afraid he will get tired of this and break up with me but I’m terrified of my mom and that she will be up crying and worried all night. Which of us is right here?
