I slept with my best friends brother how do I make up excuses to avoid him?

[Anonymous]

I feel so ashamed of myself and embarrassed I don't know what I was thinking.

I've been bestie with this girl for about a year now but it feels like we've known each other a lot longer. She's such a good person and she's bettered me too.

We met at work and not long after she started her little brother joined the team too he's only 18 and I'm 25 which is why this is so wrong as well. He was really shy to begin with but he started to get used to me and became much more comfortable. I thought he was really cute and sweet and as if I needed to protect him.

He's always hanging out with me and my bestie now and we all really get on well.

Until around October time I came round for a sleep over at my besties and we'd had a bit to drink and my friend had gone out to pick up the takeaway. So I hung around with her brother playing video games. Then out of no were he kissed me and then it happened. It was honestly the best sex I'd ever had and unfortunately I remember every single part. We were very loud so I'm glad my best friend wasn't around as she'd be just as tormatized as I am now. I asked him if it was his first time after and he said no which was somewhat a relief but not a surprise he managed to do things that men I've been in long term relationships with haven't.

I'm still so embarrassed to be around him at work but luckily are shift patterns have been different the past couple of weeks. I mean he's seen a side to me most people don't get to see and he's seen everything I'm not that type of girl who jumps into bed with anyone.

He saw me at the work Christmas party last weekend and he kept asking me to come dance with him I told him no and but his sister can never find out about us and he said he was hurt but I felt that way as he really likes me and he's not like the way he is with anyone else.

I do like him but he's too young and if things don't work out that's my me and my best friend over with plus I don't think she'll be happy about it either.

Updates

4 mo

I'm really attracted to him and he does little things that just makes my heart melt. Like he'll brush his hand on my mine or touch my hip or my back pay "accident" or he's "just trying to get by". Or he'll leave a chocolate bar by my desk for me with little notes on. He gives me this look and I hate it because I feel so bad inside and I hate myself for it and for what I did with him.

[Summeroflove]

Here is the thing. You both did it. You can’t be mad at him because you are equally to blame. The fact that you feel ashamed. Having sex outside of marriage is a sin. It means it isn’t too late for you because we all sin. If you feel bad. You aren’t turned over yo a reprobate mind.

You don’t need to lie to him and make up excuses. You’re going to make it worse. You need to talk directly to him. It’s cowardly to sit there and lie to him and make excuses. Instead of sitting down and discussing what happened and how you feel about the whole situation.

It’s not wrong for you to like him. But it’s normal to feel bad about engaging in sex with someone number one you aren’t married to and number two you don’t even see a future with at this point. Which you also need to tell him that.

The first thing you need to do is pray. Repent of what you done. The next thing you need to do is talk to your best friends brother. Tell him how you feel. Don’t be nasty about it. It needs to be a serious conversation.

If you want to go about this the right way. Talk to him. Talk to your best friend. Go out on a date. Do something non sexual and save the sex for later.

[Summeroflove]

You see all the older people saying. Don’t regret this? Unfortunately many of them have long passed the point of feeling any sort of guilt for anything.

Yes it was wrong. You got carried away. I get it. But if you repent and genuinely feel bad God will forgive you. You just have to have boundaries

[Exterminatore]

Outside of anything written in the Bible you have no reason to be flipped out about this. If you were devoutly religious I could see you being upset about your decision, but it doesn’t sound like you are.


A cute guy seduced you. So what? Happens all the time. Adults f*ck. Pardon my language here but I can’t think of better way to make my point. Not a big deal really. Sometimes…well a lot of times really, sex just happens. This probably won’t be the first or last time it does. Shouldn’t be a point of same for you or for anyone to put it on you. People like orgasms, and particularly with people who are attractive and good at giving them. Where is the big cause for shame in that?


You also know as well as I do that it’s hard to find a good lover. I used to hear girls complain to me about other guys and their lack of abilities regarding that all the time. You had fun, you didn’t hurt anyone. Chalk it up to you both enjoyed yourselves, that you’re both adults and that’s what adults do.


Maybe you should consider seeing him. The age difference is not a big deal. When I was in my late teens and 20’s I used to hook up with 30- 45 yr olds regularly. Nothing weird about 2 adults giving each other orgasms and having a good time.

[Anonymous]

well, avoiding him is pretty rude and not the right thing to do. you need to sit down and talk about what happened and what you want moving forward.

[EmmaMary]

Congratulations on winning a Troll of the day award.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah that’s heavy. Sleeping with your bestie’s little bro is seriously not cool. You’re gonna have to end that before it goes further and blows everything up.

I’d say gently let the bro down and set some boundaries. Like “hey I care about you but we can’t happen, it’d hurt my friend.” Make it clear you just wanna be cool at work and keep things professional from now on.

As for the bestie - no way you can tell her the truth. She’d lose it. Just play it low key for now and keep some distance so she doesn’t suspect anything’s up. Maybe make an excuse about being stressed with work or something so you can’t hang as much.

Hopefully over time this will blow over and you guys can stay mates. But you really gotta break things off clean with the bro, no mixed signals. And never ever speak of it again! Good luck, what a messy situation.

[Tim2nice]

I don’t know what you’re worried about. You’re adults and can do what you like. If my best friend wants to date or just hook up with my sister and she’s up for that I’m cool. 2 adults being happy makes me happy. If you break up you can still remain friends. It doesn’t have to be the end of the world

[Alex-Snow]

You both are adults and made the decision to have sex and it sounds like it was great sex! Now it sounds like he wants to hookup with you again. I guess you need to let him down gently and tell him while you had fun it is best for both of you to move on.

[MrCharlie13]

Stop lying to yourself. You like him and shouldn't feel regrets. You can tell yourself you are not "like that" but you know things happened and if the conditions are met, it will happen again.

Now, apologize to the guy you had sex with and then ghosted. You've been a bitch to him. Eventually you'll have to come clean to your bestie. But it is less hurtful if you are dating the brother instead of being "that bitch" who slept with him once.

[PeachyPie93]

If you like him I don't see the problem. Don't hide it from your friend just tell her, and if you and her brother break up later don't let it burden your friendship. It should be fine, follow your heart <3

[JacobJordan]

If you ever heard that actions have consequences? Well if not now you have. This is one of those actions with a consequence. You need to be honest with your friend and accept the consequences of that choice.

[rachel776]

everyone has slept with their friend's brother at some point, the friend shouldn't really care

[Exterminatore]

Agreed. This is not uncommon at all.

[pickles77]

This is common? Lol

[Exterminatore]

I did one of my sisters friends when I was 14. I’ve heard many other similar cases. I think so.

[HawkPerception]

I see nothing wrong with sleeping with him other than you should have been open with your friend since the beginning. I don't think she'd have an issue if she thought you were a good person.

[Anonymous]

why exactly are you ashamed? you're both over 18, both consenting adults.. i see no issues here. not unless you some how see him as less than you, and if you do, that makes you someone who is unworthy of him.

[Asker]

No I don't see him as unworthy at all it's because he's so young, I feel I've taken advantage of that. He thinks we're in love or something when I'm at a age or I don't really want to put that kind of pressure on a 18 year old to catch up with me

[Asker]

Like I want someone's I can settle down with and I think its cruel to expect the same from a 18 year old lad

[Opinion Owner]

I understand that. But there is still nothing to be ashamed of. If you were say a decade older or more, i may have some issues with it, but only if there was some kind of power imbalance. but with you being 7 years apart i see no issues here.

[hbkfan]

Don't feel ashamed you a grown adult no need to make excuses just face your fears and explain calmly what happened and hopefully your friend is ok with it

[Ironic_Method]

It's fucked that you slept with your best friend's brother, but aside from that you're two consenting adults.

[riverrat3]

The only down side is your friend and your fear of how she may feel about it. Your relationship with him is fine. Tell her you would like to go out with him, gauge her response

[Staximus]

Stop thinking with your vagina if you don't want to lose your friend.

[Luckycharms12]

Common enough. And you both like each other why not date

[jimmy2]

Well two wrong don't make a right
You already know you should of not so forgive yourself and tell him you need space

[elaphe]

If you both like each other, I don't know why your friend would mind you two dating.

[Shedzij567]

I don't even know why you feel so ashamed

[Billlewis]

@Shedzij567 Oh my goodness... you are so magnificent, Goddess ❤️

[DreamLife7]

Ur a tramp and a retard

[Asker]

And your a bitch who needs to get a lifr

[Asker]

Life

[DreamLife7]

Ur the one who got used not me 🤣

[Asker]

Probably because your used by date is best before

[DreamLife7]

U got used lol

[Asker]

Your fake account lol

[DreamLife7]

Ur a tramp and a retard babe

[Asker]

Your a slut and basic bitch and your mom hates you

[Asker]

And you have fat thighs too

[DreamLife7]

Ur ugly that's why u got played 🤣 and u a tramp

[Asker]

Your grandmother said you eat you smell like dog shit

[Asker]

And *

[DreamLife7]

My grandma's on a cruise ship with my grandpa lol. Nice try but you're still a tramp who got rejected

[Asker]

Your a whore who can't read. Probably on a cruise to get away from you and the smell of fish 🐟

[DreamLife7]

Ur still a tramp and a rejected retard. Won't change hun lol

[Asker]

When did I get rejected?

[jjj101010]

U haven’t done anything wrong

[Sabretooth]

you don't.

[Sabretooth]

You need to tell her.