Will I get her back after being needy?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been with my girl over a year. She say that I was the best thing that happened to her relationship wise. We had a disagreement cause she wanted me to purpose to here within a year. After that, we’ve been off and on. Last time I was with her was early December. Spent a whole week at her place. We had sex and I went to work. Her father came into town. She wanted me to see him. As I did, she said that she wanted time with him and the kids. So she asked for space. I did, but I would call once a week to check in. She didn’t like that and she to give her space on Christmas Eve. I called again on NYE and she had an episode saying that she’s going on a hiatus and deleting everybody of her phone and social media.

I told her to give it time and think about it. I again called yesterday. She got a little upset at me saying I still in space and she told me a couple of times. When she’s ready she will call me. Only reason why she’s answering my calls is because I hold a special place in her heart and don’t want to blocked or shut me out. She also told me her mom was upset at the fact that she shut her out also and leaving me in the dark too. Also that I’m a good guy that she’s shutting out. And she needs therapy cause her past relationships. I just trying to be there for her. It’s been a month and she still wants space. Why is she doing this?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang bro, that's a tough situation. It sounds like you really care about this girl, but you might have come on a bit strong by still trying to contact her when she asked for space. Girls need their space sometimes, you know? When they say they do, you gotta really give it to them or it will just push them away more. I get you wanted to check in on her, but calling every week was probably too much. She probably feels smothered and like you aren't respecting her boundaries. The best thing to do now is really back off and give her the space she's asking for. I know it's hard, but you gotta play it cool and let her come to you in her own time. Don't contact her at all - don't call, text, or try to see her. Let her miss you for a change. In the meantime, stay busy with your friends, your hobbies, whatever. Don't sit around moping about it. She'll notice if you're living your life and staying positive. With time and space, she might start to realize what she's missing. But you gotta be patient - could take a month or more. If you try to force it now, you're just gonna push her further away. Hang in there and I'm sure she'll reach back out when she's ready. Just don't be too needy in the future, y'know?