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I have a non romantic relationship with a guy. We have a history dating back to high school where we started as crushes, became friends and planned a relationship. Things did not work out and over the past few years we have lost contact and reconnected a few times. He is in a relationship, I am single and focused on completing a goal. Just to make it clear we do not flirt, or revisit the past so we are 100% platonic. In the past we spoke non stop. At present we just randomly message each other with well wishes or if we need to talk something over. The frequency of our interactions makes me believe we are acquaintances. The conversations are usually why have I not done this or am I wrong. The topics feel like a conversation one would have with a friend. I am not sure what to consider him, friend, acquaintance or neither?

(Assuming she is physically attractive to you).

Men complain about getting bored with women (including their partners), get annoyed by their emotional needs and anxieties, get repulsed and frustrated when facing a discussion that is not faced with with logic; complain about women wanting gender equality, thinking they wouldn't do their part or that they wouldn't offer enough on the table in exchange; complain about women being difficult to talk with and "expensive".

Now, imagine a woman who counters the complaints: she shares the same interests as yours with the same depth, has a technical and goal-oriented mindset, is confident and insightful about any topic you open, takes a lot of initiative to drive the day, is not anxious, doesn't feel gender inequality effects, doesn't need a boyfriend (but accepts one), is very logical and assertive during conflicts, coherent, chill and very easy to start any conversation with, men have an unusually very good esteem of her, she manager herself alone by a lot, reasons like a man would, knows what she wants, is generous, trustworthy.

All this can easily come with a cost that is typical of any "too" independent individual: she is sometimes cold and drastic, likes sex but doesn't easily commit to a relationship, doesn't perceive your authority, puts in you in circumstances that imply gender equality, is often too busy for your emotional needs and fully absorbed in her interests, doesn't reply fast to your texts, can't fall for any mind game or power struggles and reads your intentions in advance, doesn't forgive you by just by "missing" you, fights about strongly grounded opinions, is not afraid to offend you with a "no", has male friends she shares interests with, she needs alone-time and if you don't follow her initiatives she leaves you behind.

Is that a cost you would pay?