Me and my unrelated aunt had a sexual attraction one to another. A lot of time has past but I can not forget about her, her smell, her image, isit ok?

[Unknownstranger0112]

I am 33 years old and she ( my not related aunt is about 48. She and my own uncle live separately now, they have 2 adult children. She is not married, probably single.

We live in different towns, I wanted to get to her in social nets. But I'm scared of a possible publicity of this in our families.

And actually somewhere inside of me I still feel my self as a young boy secretly looking at his aunt. She was also attracted to me back then.

I don't now how she will take it now, many years have past. Definitely, I don't want to heart my siblings.

But I can't forget the way we interact secretly sometimes, pretending we casually caress each other under the table.😀When I grew up she became bolder in showing her sympathies.( probably she wasn't' satisfied enough in her marriage) I was just simply scared how it could affect our families.

Even though the relationship between our families are pretty toxic, now when we live separately, members of our families (I mean me, mother, and my 2 sisters, her, and my cousins) do not call each other and all this stuff, I am very grateful to her as a woman who was there when I grew up, as a woman who I wanted so badly😀

sometimes I think that if we just had a friendly talk with each other, it would be easier for me. But our families have been at odds for many years, and it will be difficult for me to even just explain why I added her as a friend.

Her image still leaves inside of me as a desire...

Girls, I will be grateful for practical advice in this topic

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I've never talked with anyone about this, hope it will help me to figure it out. Thank you for your honest response.

[SnowedIn]

You ask if it's okay. Well, you say both of you are over the age of consent in all the U. S. states. Sounds like you're both consenting. So, from those hurdles, yeah, it's okay.

Also, she's not a blood relation. And, if she is in fact divorced, then she's not an in-law relation either. So, you're good there too.

Here's the deal: stop telling people she's your aunt. If you get arousal from the fact that she was your aunt, fine. But no one is going to validate you on that even if you meet the thresholds I wrote about in my first two paragraphs. No one. Then, stop talking about you doing something when you were younger. That's nasty behavior and no one is going to validate that, or your arousal from it.

If you want to have a relationship with a woman and you both as old as you are, go forth and enjoy. But don't make connections for people that don't need to be made and expect validation.

[Unknownstranger0112]

Actually it's my first time sharing this. And sometimes I do want get to her, just as woman, not my uncle's ex.
But it seems kinda hard, how would it look like for our family members? Would it be possible to hide it? Why do I need to hide intentions to the woman I like? But my family matters a lot for me either, and list goes on and I'm

[SnowedIn]

Your family members are not going to like it. They will still see her as your aunt.

[Unknownstranger0112]

Yeh, and I kinda blame my self for my intentions towards her behind their backs.
I love my family they mean a world for me.

[SnowedIn]

Hang on a second my friend. They may not like it but I don't see it as something you should blame yourself for. If you could be happy with her and you both can live with the crap your family is going to give you, go for it. Otherwise, have a beer, tell yourself it is a great memory, and move on.

[Unknownstranger0112]

🤝👍

[Guy13]

Back up off the Family, redneck in the mountain of West Virginia

[Akam93]

@Guy13 he said she wasn't related to her. 🤷‍♀️

[Akam93]

I met him. Lol

[Unknownstranger0112]

@Akam93 yep, she is my uncle's ex.

[Anemone978]

Bro she's your aunt, she is the mother to your cousins... She sounds like a pedo... best move on from it I bet even if you got with her you will realize why your uncle ain't with her anymore...

[Unknownstranger0112]

Yeh, from one perspective I was thinking the same. But I tried to move on, and here I am writing about it here.
It's my first time to sharing it, hope it will help.

[Anemone978]

How old were you when she used to flirt with you?

[Unknownstranger0112]

You know, it's hard to make it clear now. But when I was 14 she asked me for a massage. At 12 I've discovered her female attractiveness for me.

[Anemone978]

Did you not feel it was wrong at the time? How did you know she was attracted to you?

[Anemone978]

if you dont want to talk about it here you could always dm me

[Unknownstranger0112]

Sometimes I did think that it could be wrong, and it always stopped me from some random stupid actions.
Probably, I 've realized that she attracted to me at age of 20, I came home and she was flirting with me pretty straight, like a woman that needs a man.
I

[Unknownstranger0112]

I tried, but my current lrvel doesn't allow me. Today is my first day here.

[Anemone978]

Oh I see... Well I guess you could hit her up though it is a bit weird, and see if you two actually like each other now but I def wouldn't rush into anything... since the family dynamics...

[Unknownstranger0112]

Yeah, but a part of my soul is captivated by that experience, I can't go over it for years, and my family means a world for me, I love them so much.
I fell my self guilty for my intentions towards her. I felt same at 12. Maybe she doesn't care at all now.
I wish to have a healthy marriage and happy family. Don't now how to get out of this memories and desires towards her. Sometimes I think we two just need to have an honest conversation. But I don't know how to get to her, and would it be really helpful?

[savagewolf22]

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[LimitedBenefits101]

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[Akam93]

I mean it seems strange but I've heard worse.

[Unknownstranger0112]

Thanks for your honesty. I just needed to share it with some body. Some times it's hard to figure by your own.

[Anonymous]

Nothing wrong with that. Why you ask?

[panamared1]

Go for it