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started seeing a guy became close friends with benefits for two months. his ex girlfriend (one he thought to marry) came back. told him to go for it, he did, we remained friends but then I left as a friend to make sure they wouldn't break up with me in picture. they broke up 6 month later he came back. we messed around eventually he asks me to date him to be his girlfriend I said no as he's rebounding and I don't wanna be that girl. we continue seeing eachother, we get close again. I ask for 6 month if he was sleeping with anyone else he said no. I had a feeling and addressed it he later confirmed he slept with 4 other women. we weren't labeled boyfriend and girlfriend however thought it was exclusive as I was with him. I said he ruined my chance to have a hot girl summer before we settled into a relationship. we are official noe but I wanted to break up because of having doubts if he maybe could get away with again cheated. we came up with agreement that this summer I can have hot girl summer and sleep with 4 people to make him pay for it and help me get over it. I have feelings for him and only want him but have this feeling he may cheat in our relationship. he said no because he wants to marry me someday to do this and we will be even and move forward from it. I said ok. however I'm not sure actually what to do?

I found out recently that my boyfriend and his ex were still sending each other pictures of NSFW fan art for the first month of our relationship then stopped because they realised it was inappropriate.

For context they were in a long distance relationship and used to send each other NSFW fan art all the time. They broke up when we started dating and she ghosted him for 2 weeks, then when they started talking and hanging out online again they started sending the pictures again.

It's been over a year since this happened and they stopped but they still hang out online together often. I only found out that they used to date recently and then I found out about the pictures and i feel hurt and a bit betrayed.

I want to know if what they did is considered cheating or if it was just really inappropriate.

I'm not sure what to do and having some clarity on this might help me figure it out.

After talking to my boyfriend about it I've forgiven him and he has agreed to stop spending time alone with her and only to talk to her when she's hanging out with our mutual friends but I feel like I should confront her because she kept this from me and befriended me while sending these pictures to my boyfriend and not telling me about their relationship.

If you guys dont consider it cheating then I'll let it go and try to move on but if you do consider it cheating then I feel like I have a right to bring it up despite it being in the past and at the very least demand an apology from her and at worse cut ties with her completely. This whole situation really pains me because I did like her as a friend.

I meet a guy a few years ago. We were neighbors. He started washing my car every week. I tried to pay him and he wouldn't take the money. I then found out he was living with his girlfriend at the time. Then they moved out. Then I hear from him a few months later telling me he has crush and wants to take me out and that him and the girl he was dating broke up. But then he kept making excuses when it came time to hang out. Then when questioned I found out that he decided to go back to the same girl he was living with. Now in 2023 we happened to run into each other and reconnect and he still saying he still wants to hang out and that he knows he made a mistake before and that he and the girl ended up broking up shortly after that. However it's been almost a month since we've been in communication and he is still making plans only to cancel or take a raincheck. He asked me to be his valentines and then said oh well I have to bring you the gift I got you early cause I'm working on Valentines day. But on valentines day morning told me he would be able to come see me. Then at the last minute says he cannot get off work and has to stay late and can we go on a date this coming weekend. He is consistently making plans and then canceling or asking for a raincheck. We have yet to actually go on a date. Am I just being paranoid in thinking maybe he is still involved with someone. Am I just wasting my time thinking this guy is going to ever step up? Or does he just want to hook up and potentially ghost me afterwards?