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Over my life I’ve had to deal with all sorts horrible incidents with women. Being ghosted. Being (unannounced) friendzoned. Being stood up on dates. Being insulted over things I have little or no control over (physical features I was born with).

All of that sucked. However when I find myself in a role reversal situation I usually try to treat others how I wish I was treated.

For example when I broke up with last girlfriend I really didn’t want to see or talk to her. I knew she was going to go berserk and not take it well at all.

However my girlfriend before me completely ghosted me (after dating for 9 months). The girlfriend before that treated me like I was less then human we broke up (despite me maturely accepting her decision) and gave me virtually no closure. Some of the things she said to me back then still haunt me to this day

Anyway I planned to do neither to my last girlfriend. As excruciatingly uncomfortable/painful as it was I broke up with her face to face and the whole ordeal lasted over 2 hours. She screamed, yelled, cried, made a huge scene and culminated with her threatening to commit suicide. It got so bad her grandmother had to call the police to have her placed on psych evaluation. On one end I truly felt bad for her but another end she inadvertently gave me closure and helped me confirm I made the right decision. I look her up on social media form time to time and thankfully I know she’s still alive

So as horrible as that was at least I was able to walk away knowing I did the right thing. I gave her full respect and closure. Let her say everything she wanted to say. She can look back and know she got it all off her chest. I know that will help her move on faster.

However I have never once in my life had a woman give me that kind of respect. But still do people generally treat others worse when they are mistreated in romantic scenarios?

We worked together for months, I always liked her but never interacted with her or any other coworkers due to my social anxiety. Few weeks ago we had to work together sometimes and she was so sweet and playful. Still we never interacted much beside that.

One day I made a cartoon artwork for her and I was anxious to show her, but when I did she really loved it and I was happy. It was the first time we talked outside of work stuff. I told her that showing her my art was very awkward for me and she said she was really glad I did and she loved it very much.

The next day we weren’t interacting at all. I wanted to talk to her but I was still very anxious and there was no work reason to talk to her. Usually it would have been a normal day cause I never talk to any coworkers unless I have to. Although I wanted to talk to her whole day I never did and it was bothering me. I noticed that we were looking at each other more often then usual and eye contact with her was awkward. I felt she was somewhat moody whole day. I think that she might low key creeped out of me because I drew her and she only pretended to like it.

She is a nicest person I know and I always considered she would like the gesture and she did. But now my cousins say that she was under pressure to pretend to like it.

I do have a crush on her but it was just fine when we never interacted and now I can’t stop thinking of her and worrying that I might creeped her out. I can’t just talk to her because I have extreme social anxiety plus she is my crush. Now I think I made everything incredibly awkward for her.

I feel like the entire situation is stupid like why would she like that some random coworker she almost never talked drew a cartoon of her. So she might have pretended she liked it.

I don’t know what to think. She was always so sweet with me and thought of creeping her out like that just kills me. I probably shouldn’t ever interacted with her it was so much easier…

soo, i got this anxiety about misreading situations and social cue's and thus embarrassing myself, furthermore I was raised in a rather old-fashioned household which implied heavy emphasies on being a gentleman and being very well mannered, which is why asking if I can kiss the girl seems like a better option to me considering the aforementioned points.

but I want to ask whether girls would like that in general, or would it kill the romantic mood or whatever hollywood has kinda put its dent in these kinds of situations by having one of those scenes where they lock eyes and they immediately know they wanna swallow each others tounge