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Call me boring but I want a traditional life.
I want to go on dates & be asked to be someone’s girlfriend. I want to get engaged / married and build a family. I want to stay at home cooking / cleaning / taking care of the kids.
I want to find a man that is in his masculine energy so i can be in my feminine energy. I want a man who is happy to provide.
Does this mean i’ll milk him of every penny? Of course not. I can and want to have my own part time job or own business. But I want someone who makes me feel safe and secure.
It seem like these traditional values have become lost in todays society. Everyday I see grown men wanting to live off of women. They expect everything to be 50/50 due to “equal rights” but when it comes to any domestic stuff they don’t move a finger to help.
Feels like us women have just taken on the burden of more daily work / problems for ourselves. We don’t even get surprise dates / flowers or little love notes anymore 😭😭 !!

where are the men who want a traditional woman? Where are the gentlemen that arnt ashamed to “simp” over their girlfriend & shower her in love?

are these just stories from fairytales?

ps. Age isn’t a factor because I’ve dated 30/33 years olds & they all have this same modern man mentality. Everyone just wants to be nonchalant 👎🏼

Long story short, my ex didn't believe our daughter is his, dna test came back and proved it. We were still being respectful to each other during the whole time but barely talked since he didn't want to get involved until a dna test.

Now he wants to be involved which I appreciate for our daughter.

At 7 months pregnant I moved back home (from us to Europe) to support my daughter and make the best life possible for her having no support from him. I informed him about everything.

Its been almost 2 years since we broke up , saw each other and maybe talked like 5 or 6 times... until recently when the dna came back.

He wants to come out here and spend time with his daughter which I am actually happy that her father wants to be involved. We live in a one bedroom apartment and he wants to stay with us. I told him I would like him to get a Hotel room. we had barely any contact for 2 years I just dont feel comfortable with him staying here. He can spend as much time as he wants over here but I would appreciate him not to permanently stay and have a room to get back to. We never lived together and I just kinda like having our own little place for my daughter and I.

He got all mad at me saying he is already spending a lot on plane tickets and he can't afford a hotel as well. He says I would be keeping him from his daughter as he already lost so much time. I dont want to stand between them but dont want to compromise our safe space for a man I haven't seen in 2 years.