boyfriend and I (both 27) have been together 3 years and just moved into my parents place to save for a house together. He has paid off college loans and is in the clear financially after being in the red for the last 2 years. Only after having real talks about finances did he tell me that he has taken out small loans in the past without my knowledge. This concerned me and I told him if he can’t afford something to be honest with me.
Alongside an house deposit, we are also planning a once in a lifetime trip to Australia for 20 days in Sept which we are saving for. This is something I told him I really wanted to do since we started dating as it’s a life wish to go to Australia and see the majority of my family who moved there. Better to do it now before making the financial commitment to a house. This trip we likely be €3-5k each.
His best friend got engaged a couple of months ago and it has been announced that the Bachelor Party will be a 4 day trip to Las Vegas with accommodation in the MGM Grand hotel. One of the guys can’t go as he can’t afford it which sucks. Everyone I have spoke to has said it is very presumptuous and unfair of the groom-to-be to expect all his friends to be able to afford to travel all the way from Ireland to Las Vegas AND stay in an expensive hotel. Flights + Accommodation alone is €1k so can only imagine how expensive food, drink and activities will be.
Oh and they have decided to go to Vegas 1 week after we come back from Australia.
We are saving for a house and have committed to going Australia and I don’t want the experience of my dream trip to be in anyway sacrificed cause he wants to go on a crazy expensive Bachelor Party.
Im afraid that the progress he has made with his savings are going to be impacted by this trip to Vegas, and with his history of relying on small loans to fund himself that it will have an negative impact on our future mortgage application and plans to buy a house together.
I really don’t want him to go to Vegas.
