Is it possible to still find a traditional man in todays society / generation?

[blackrose8]

Call me boring but I want a traditional life.
I want to go on dates & be asked to be someone’s girlfriend. I want to get engaged / married and build a family. I want to stay at home cooking / cleaning / taking care of the kids.
I want to find a man that is in his masculine energy so i can be in my feminine energy. I want a man who is happy to provide.
Does this mean i’ll milk him of every penny? Of course not. I can and want to have my own part time job or own business. But I want someone who makes me feel safe and secure.
It seem like these traditional values have become lost in todays society. Everyday I see grown men wanting to live off of women. They expect everything to be 50/50 due to “equal rights” but when it comes to any domestic stuff they don’t move a finger to help.
Feels like us women have just taken on the burden of more daily work / problems for ourselves. We don’t even get surprise dates / flowers or little love notes anymore 😭😭 !!

where are the men who want a traditional woman? Where are the gentlemen that arnt ashamed to “simp” over their girlfriend & shower her in love?

are these just stories from fairytales?

ps. Age isn’t a factor because I’ve dated 30/33 years olds & they all have this same modern man mentality. Everyone just wants to be nonchalant 👎🏼

Yes

No

Honestly who even knows

[aceleon]

if your idea of traditional man is a provider and simp, there are tons of them even more so then before this disease spreads very quickly. pathetic but still exists so don't worry i am sure you will find a (even though i hate the wording and such ) beta male in no time but please stop making the mistake of confusing being a beta and masculine together because neither providing or simping is a masculine trait, what you call traditional male is an eyewash for robbing guys from their masculinity under a false sense of virtue and making them fit into what society found functional.

masculine means manly, male natural code is spreading theregenes as much as possible aka having sex with as much woman as possible and when it is needed protecting but no male animal provides anything aside from protection (and providing protection is not providing resources) why do lions are considered the king of the beast even though tigers and bears are stronger predators? because lions lives like a king and everyone wants to feel like a king if they are some kind of falsely groomed losers or masochists.

[blackrose8]

Honestly most men don’t like to provide anything other than headache lol. And we human are a bit more evolved than animals. I wouldn’t say having sex with many women is masculine. Being masculine means being leader, proving stability / safety , providing financially. We don’t hunt for food we go out and buy it so we need someone with the resources (money) to buy it. We don’t mark our territory and build a nest to sleep in we have to buy a house or pay rent to live. We arnt cavemen anymore.

[aceleon]

İf your idea of being evolved is being weak, spineless, capitalistic and settle for less than we actually desire we might as well never stop being cavemans because your description is not a Man, it is a weakling Who is desperate for woman.

[sawno]

Yes, but society changed so you may have to compromise on marriage. Marriage used to be commitment until death, now its no fault divorce and the guy gets screwed. More traditional loyal guys like me will still not want to do something that has no benefits and puts us at risk. So unless you can come with a reason why marriage has benefits and a way that the court won't rule his belongings away if you decide to leave expect that he is willing to commit for life, but may not be willing to do the legal contract part.

[laly520]

having part time job n ur own business?
most of traditional men would ask u to stay at home especially after having kids
u can't have both at same time
either settle down with a real traditional man n do it the way they do it or go for another type of guys
traditional men aren't as simple to deal with as what they seem like
me myself, in a relationship with a traditional guy, he is caring n a true provider plus loving but he has his own beliefs n rules to live life

[blackrose8]

By part time work I mean maybe freelance or twice a week. Just so I have some of my own money & something different to get me out the house

[laly520]

well if he will be ok with it then why not since lot of em won't be ok with that

[blackrose8]

Really? I’ve never seen older (45+) men who are provider have an issue with their wife doing something on the side for herself. But then again everyone is different. One thing I’ve never seen is a man under 35 being a traditional man

[laly520]

my boyfriend is in his 20s n he is a traditional man
they do exist but rare to find in new generation

[blackrose8]

Yes I 100% agree very rare to find

[LazerBean]

Sure. But they're mostly going to expect you to prioritize taking care of the kids over your job.

[blackrose8]

Of course and I 100% agree with this. Kids , husband & house come first. If you can spare 3 hours in the day to do something for yourself then why not right !

[Delle123]

Yes but it's rare, especially in the U. S. and Europe. Latino men and Arab men are usually providers but a lot of them will expect you to speak their language, practice the same religion, etc, so proceed with caution.

[BoopBoopBeep]

For the women who bring enough to the table, we're out there. Don't give up hope.

[Anonymous]

I would love to have a wife stay at home, tend to the house, kids, cook for me, etc while I pay the bills but it's unaffordable. Truthfully if I can't support a woman and two children on one income then I'm not going to put a woman through the stress of working and having kids at the same time I'll just stay single. Love can't pay a house payment and I'm not going to build resentment by not being able to provide fully for a wife.

[blackrose8]

Hmm never thought about it like this.. this is an interesting point of view & I completely understand

[boggboss]

U want a traditional marriage but want to work or have a part time job interesting

[blackrose8]

Nothing too crazy maybe work twice a week so I can have my own money too & I don’t have to keep bothering anyone for pocket change

[boggboss]

U understand the baises for traditional marriages are just that single income households right this is what confuses me people say they want something then change what that thing was to their liking if u want a oldschool traditional marriage your husband wpuld have to finance u as thats what happened in those marriages

[blackrose8]

And you know that back in those days while the husband provided the wife would either look after someone else’s kids or bake for the town or do sowing or take the neighbours clothes to hand wash all as a way of getting some extra money for herself. These were the side hustle back then. Side hustle today could be any domestic stuff or office based things

[boggboss]

No thats not somthing all women did for a fact some may have that needed extra money but no thats not somthing all did if u get a traditional husband I hight doubt he will be wanting u to have a job lol

[blackrose8]

At least this was how a traditional marriage used to work back in my country. Which like the rest of the world , its lost its traditional marriage values

[boggboss]

Yep maybe that's how it worked in your country

[blackrose8]

Of course not all women did this. Each household has their own rules. But you are saying it’s 100% impossible to have a traditional marriage if the wife is doing extra bits here and there for money & im saying that’s not true for all. Yes a traditional husband would want you to stay home but as long as your domestic work is done , food is on the table ready for when he arrives I don’t think he cares if you spent 3 hours of the day doing something to make yourself a little change

[boggboss]

Fair enough if that's what u think but that's not my understanding of what a traditional marriage is and I have never heard a guy saying that's what he expects from a traditional wife as from what I understand it was always her not working

[Nikki1989]

Yes, but you have to find one that hasn't been brainwashed by social media and popular culture in general, and that is not easy.

[Wwwyzzerdd]

Wants a traditional man

Prob not traditional herself

Double standards?