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Brad & I started long-distance dating through an online app in Nov 2023. We met in person in Feb. I managed to move closer to his city because of school from March-June, so once I came, we began living together & he proposed to me in May. A school situation happened where I got dismissed, so my sister came to move me back home in June. My family didn't like him during his visit since he was focused on taking me back to his home & not caring about my mom needing me/my school situation. I decided to stay with family & Brad disliked that since he hoped I'd leave that day. He left & gave me a hard time about my decision since then. My mom said she planned a Sept party where I could move back in with him more honorably than if I had just left. Brad didn't want to do it, but I did. We waited until Sept & then I found out my mom lied. I fought with her, she apologized, & now booked the venue in Nov by showing me confirmation. She told his parents so they could see if she would keep her word. Brad distrusts her & said if I didn't leave my home by the end of the month, then he'd end the relationship. I told him if my mom started to do anything fishy before Nov, I'd leave, but it didn't make sense to end the relationship over this, especially since I planned to visit. He sent me a goodbye/breakup texts the past week & fighting with me about this party. I told him that if he meant what he said about ending things, then he needs to stop communicating with me unless he decides that he's willing to do the party for my sake in Nov. He said he didn't want to wait that long, but I don't know if he'll change his mind. I texted him a couple of texts since me saying "don't talk to me", but he hasn't responded. I saw him following another girl on social media too, reached out to her, but she didn't respond to me. Do you think he's taking time to think & will reply soon? Or do you think he'll leave me? Why did he still text me even though he claims he ended things a long time ago?

I'll explain. Neighbor upstairs let her kid run, jump and stomp for hours on end. On top of her and 3 other adults in her household stomping, dropping things, staying up all sorts of night and I couldn't sleep, rest or relax in my place.

There's a lot of reasons why I couldn't find the place I wanted. The main reason is they've allowed me to break my lease and my lease is up soon anyway. I didn't want to renew and be stuck in hell.

So I found a new place (God is good 🙏🏽) and it's the top floor with nobody above me. It's a downgrade in comparison to my old apartment but doable. I just want peace. I figured I'd only have to be there for 1 year and can move and find an apartment that I think is more aesthetically pleasing for me down the line.

I plan on staying to myself and not making too much noise so the people below won't complain.

We’ve been dating for 3.5 years. He moved out of town about 6 months ago. The last time he came to visit him and his kids stayed at my house the whole two weeks. We were planning for me to visit him soon & I told him I’d have to bring my son this time. He said ok no problem. Then the following day he said sister asked if his nephew can fly down with me. So I said um okay two kids shouldn’t be too hard. He was like well I want my kids to come they haven’t been here yet. I said understandable but it’s only one of me, that’ll be 4 kids 5-9 years old plus luggage, I’d love to bring them but that’s going to be too difficult. I’m bringing my son this time because I have to. So he said if I don’t bring them my son can’t come.

Little back story! He was a single father when we met & I took care of his kids up until about 3 months before he moved. They’ve stayed with me while he was working even times when my son was with his dad or spending the night with family members. I took them to school when he needed me to, treated them as my own. Their mom came back in the picture after years of refusing to take them while living in the same city. She would take them a few times a month then when I came in the picture she got even more distant. She would always take their daughter but NEVER the boys. So I stepped up.

If I could’ve driven just so everyone could go I would have but I can’t drive my car that far & he knows that. None of the kids have flown before. 2 are afraid of heights. Not only would I have to fly I’ll have to get an Uber, train & another Uber because he’ll be at work. I can count on one hand the amount of times I needed him to keep my son or do anything for him. So for him to basically say my son is not welcome to his house without his kids being there, after EVERYTHING I’ve done for his children with or without my son being there is soo unbelievable. I broke up with him. Was this situation worth it?