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So I don't know if he is interested but disorganized or uninterested or whatever but I can’t handle him apologizing to me once a week for who knows how long every time “ he can’t make it” 🤦🏻‍♀️

It’s the most stressful thing someone apologizing for something they have no need to apologize for but I’m told I have to accept it. anyhow it’s all so artificial and I just don’t like the assumption that just go onto him feeling sorry. What can I do that’s life 🤷🏻‍♀️

… and what if I meet another guy there and one day this guy shows up bc I did say ANY Thursday, I’ll be mortified. He will just think “ oh! I bet you I bring ALL THE BOYS to your fountain!!! Lol for real it’s just that’s my say off and I’m relaxed after I swim so it’s a nice time to get to know someone. 🤷🏻‍♀️ That’s all there is to it. It’s not a lair lol

I don’t want to say hey you nvm bc I did say any Thursday is ok at the sane time I do think there should be a tine limit. Maybe one month 🤔 lol I should’ve said the first Thursday of every month. That way I could have 4 guys a month without traffic jam 😅. I’m JOKING 🙃

I think to make it casual but unambiguous “this Thursday or next Thursday @ 8 pm”. That way we’d be done by now & no pressure is left. He could always ask me out after it’s no big deal. I definitely made it a bit too casual, it’s not good for anyone 😬

I will tell him I’m still ok with any Thursday but he seems overloaded (bc he keeps saying so) & just let me know if he wants to meet up On a Thursday. That way we are both free from the spectre of expectations 👻

When I asked initially, I wasn’t Interested in dating I just wanted to try hanging out so I couldn’t imagine complications, but I’m seeing how disruptive this plan is potentially.

To reiterate: I’m NOT asking how to make him like me or meet me or if he likes me or to get him to DO anything at all… I’m asking how to get out of this mess bc it’s stressful 🙏🏼

I don’t think he does based off something that happened today, but I definitely have strong feelings for him.

This is a long story so buckle in.

I’ve been friends with this guy who’s almost 10 years older than me since I was 19. He went to back to college, and that’s how we met. We’ve always just been friends and never crossed any lines with each other and are part of the same group. He graduated 3 years ago and moved back to our hometown (turned out we’re from the same city), but we’ve stayed in touch and I see him almost every time I visit.

Last year we were hanging out and the topic eventually went to dating (not each other just in general). I described my perfect guy and he said something like, “oh like how we do?” And that’s the moment the light bulb clicked in my head. Ever since then I’ve been developing feelings for him. I felt like he wasn’t returning my feelings, so I backed off to try and readjust my emotions.

A couple months ago, he called me out the blue and we’ve been texting/calling/watching shows through zoom together practically every day the last few weeks. My feelings for him are back and are definitely getting stronger. I’m not sure how he feels. It’s like he’s hot and he’s cold, he’s definitely sending mixed signals. He’s asked me what my plans for grad school are, wanted to know if I’d move out of state to go to the same school as him, stays on the phone with me while I share my location while in traffic, etc. In a show we watched recently, they were talking about date ideas and he kept telling me he wanted to take me to those places, so I started to feel like he might feel the same as me. Today I finally had enough of wondering and texted him that I’m wanting his attention more and more, and he deflected it and made a joke.

When we met 8 years ago, I was just a kid and he was pushing 30. I’m worried he still thinks of me as a kid and doesn’t see me as the woman I’ve grown into.

Is he just a good friend? Does he want more? What do I do?