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Ghosting in dating is an unfortunate common issue. Although flaky people have always existed the advent of digital technology has enabled people to indulge in their cowardice/insecurities even more so.

Anyway this started with women ghosting men in romantic scenarios, then more men started ghosting women, then women now ghost their friends and I wonder if guys will start ghosting their buddies more.

I have had it happen once but i know my former buddy was dealing with some very serious marital problems. I guess things got real ugly (he has a kid) and he doesn’t want me to see what he has become. I was friends with him and his wife for a very long time.

But as for guys it still does go against the bro code to do that. But who knows? But there is poll data that women ghost more

https://www.bustle.com/p/women-are-more-likely-to-ghost-someone-theyre-dating-than-men-theres-a-very-good-reason-for-that-8963133

The journalist tries to justify this behavior as women are “raised to please men and do not want to hurt them with confrontation”.

However I completely disagree with that theory. If a women understands men she will know we care about being RESPECT. And ghosting is very insulting. 95%+ she ghosts out of selfish cowardice.

But now more guys are doing this crap. I just hired a web designer for a minor project recently and he had gone MIA on me despite being very dependable on earlier on several projects.

I would like to believe that maybe something came up in his life. But it’s been over two weeks now and I was depending on him. Something tells me he changed his mind about an agreed upon project and decided to bail.

10 years ago this would almost never happen.

The whole premise of this website is to ask the opposite gender about dating and relationship questions. Given we are anonymous it’s easier to ask questions and get responses without worry about losing face.

And yet I find that most women I talk to do NOT often give good dating advice. I feel that they usually respond to “protect the team” i. e. tell me what to do which is in best interest to another random woman vs. really trying to understand my POV.

For what it’s worth it’s extremely difficult to think and understand the opposite gender. But I don’t always respond to “protect some other guy” depending on the circumstance a woman is going through and asking about.

Sometimes i see women talking about emotionally abusive relationships and encourage them to get tough and draw the line. They struggle because they have feelings which are compromising their judgment (can be true on the man’s side as well). But I don’t like seeing dbag guys get away with that crap. I sure as hell won’t tell the girl to keep enabling them.

But I feel that most women on here (and in general) always give the other woman the benefit of the doubt when they are giving advice to guys. Guys aren’t looking for the answer they want to hear on here. They want the truth so when we ask questions we rarely embellish our circumstances.

Anyway when I am dealing with tough dating situations I find that other men usually give better advice then women. Reason being they are feeling emotions I am feeling so they can look at issue more clear headed. It might be not what I want to hear. But what I NEED to hear. That is what matters.

Recently, I was speaking with a trusted work colleague and friend. We spoke two days ago, and have worked closely on many issues over a number of years, but we don't speak outside of work.

This morning, I was advised that he has been arrested and is the prime suspect in a case of first degree homicide! I don't know the victim or her relationship to my colleague, but she was stabbed to death and set on fire! None of this makes sense with person I know!