Met this guy off tinder a few weeks ago. We'd seen each other every week since and have had 4 amazing dates so far.
Until last week I thought everything was going well, I noticed he's still using dating apps which is fine but sent me into a spiral because this is the most fun and the furthest I've got with someone in a long time. I like him and really want things to work out.
He was consistent with texts, seemed interested in our conversations and even had an idea of organising a weekend away at some point. He cancelled our date last week saying his boy is ill which is fair enough but I have an issue with trusting people so felt anxious. I offered a compromise to do a face time which he accepted and I felt a little better. He apologised for cancelling and said we'd see each other today (which has been the case for the last few weeks).
I feel like his interest level has dropped as he doesn't seem as engaged in conversation over text anymore and yesterday he left me on read all day despite being online numerous times. I sent him a goodnight text and to let me know if today was still on. He messaged saying he's not well, hopefully he'll feel better in a few days so we can get together. I can't help but feel that he's trying to fade me out and wonder if I should just give him the opportunity to leave now by saying that I feel his interest has dropped and if he wants out then this is his opportunity? I've asked if he'd like a phone call later and he's agreed
Last week I kinda touched on the subject of my triggers and he tried to pry a little more but I shut it down in fear of scaring him off. Maybe I should've opened up? He knows I'm having counselling to try and battle my anxiety
What should I do here? it's still early days but I really want this to work out. Can it be seen as coming on too strong if I ask him? In which case could be self sabotage?
