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Let's be brutally honest, women prefer taller men. That's just the truth.

I am 5'6". Women hardly notice me. If only I was 6 inches taller I would be in a much better spot.

Also to point out, I have NEVER had a real girlfriend.

Even short, petite women want a taller guy.

At almost 28, I am not growing any taller. I was rejected because of my height to a girl who went into marry someone else. My only option is invasive height increasing surgery.

I’ve only been in this situation twice in my life and both were my happenstance. I didn’t try to set it up but rather coincidentally more than one woman liked me and they were fighting with each other over it.

I’ve been the opposite situation before and it really sucked. I have “won” a few but also “lost” a few. When I won it was because I was “sorta” attracted to the girl but almost always lost when I really liked the girl. Many women tend to be more attracted to the guy who is less interested in them

I am also not the type that plays dirty by throwing other guys under the bus. Reason being is I get turned off if another girl trash talks the other girl who was interested in me.

Some people think that is the way to go and don’t care. But I rather I want the girl to make a clear conscious decision on who to go with.

But I noticed a lot of women really get off on this love triangle bullshit. Some of them intentionally set it up. They don’t look at the long term consequences. They think the guy they reject will be just be happy and fine with a friendzone when it’s said and done. There is no medal or prize for second place in this game though. No other way around it. The rejected guy just needs to self respect himself and cut his losses. Disappear. But he takes a lot of pain in the process.

So a number of women here said on my other question here: (https://www.girlsaskguys.com/dating/q4852214-how-would-you-feel-if-you-somehow-learned-that-you-were-the-5th) they would feel bad being the 5th choice by a guy who asks out but gets rejected by four other women...

so my question is how soon do you think someone should wait before getting back out there and trying again? Guys go through rejections all the time... and it is very much a numbers game of sorts really. the more you ask out you are likely to get at at least one yes at some point. But i guess some people don't like this? So in that case what would make you feel less like you were just another option somewhere down the line and more of the person they really want to be with? Does that mean you should wait a little bit after asking someone out and getting rejected?

or maybe we should just not mention how many we ask out before dating you? and we just kinda remain blissfully unaware of that?

I am 5' 9" and that is very average for an adult Caucasian male in the US. I have been rejected by a few girls who were taller then me. It was a bummer but I survived. Most of the girls I have dated have been 5' 0" to 5' 2" but I have dated a few girls who were 5' 8" - 5' 9".

I hear short guys on this site whining about how girls all want a guy who is at least 6' 0" tall and it souds like nonsense to me. Sounds like butthurt boys looking for an excuse! Think about it: if girls refused to date guys shorter than 6' 0", then that means that 85% of all guys would NEVER have a date. You know that's not the way it really is.

I believe that SOME girls are size queens about a guy's height, just like SOME guys refuse to date a girl smaller than 36D, but thse are just outlier lunatics. But YOU aren't a lunatic, so do you have a height requirement for guys you date? (And if you post a comment, can you please state your height?)

I came so close to being a girl's first love and first everything.

Back in 2020, I was in a coding forum and met this devout Catholic girl who was homeschooled. She was 17 at the time, almost 18. I remember the very first conversation we had till this day. We really hit it off.

She later disclosed she never had a boyfriend or a first love. She had a crush on a guy but she was never close to him. In fact, she never had a male friend before she met me.

We talked every day and formed an online thing. I remember us talking about getting married at one point, where we would go on our honeymoon, and how we would name our kids. I was anticipating on marrying her.

A week after her 18th birthday, I went to go see her. She rejected me upon meeting in person. I was crushed beyond words.

Fast forwarding, she recently married this guy a few months ago who got to be her first everything. I still have nightmares about it. I had to be hospitalized because it was so traumatizing to me.

My biggest fear is not being able to find another woman like Rachel was when we first met. I fear that I will not find another girl that has never had her first love.

Usually these two things go hand in hand, and most girls say they like guys who are direct and/or confident. Genuinely good shy guys hear about this, and they work on being direct and confident, but sometimes, girls think the guy is a player because he's one or both of these.

It's perfect if the girl and guy just understand each other with no insecurities, but it isn't always as easy as it sounds. No guy loves that someone lacks trust in him, especially when he has done nothing wrong, so how can a guy meet a girl without worry about rejecting and at the same time not losing her trust?

Do you see how this process is so difficult for guys? I personally find this process absolutely fascinating, but I'm kinda weird in that way, and I know a most guys don't feel the same way. I am not saying it's definitively more difficult to be a man, but I know there are plenty of people who would say it's definitive, and to not acknowledge this issue for guys is just plain wrong.

Guys, you can feel free to chime in too.

I am 27, almost 28, and I never had a real girlfriend. I am a frontend software engineer that makes good money. I work remote from home, so I spend a lot of my time alone.

I am seeking a woman that has the same inexperience as I am. I am wanting a woman that has never had a boyfriend or a close romantic bond with a guy before, especially from her youth. I want me and a woman to be each other's first loves.

I came very close one time to getting that. Two years ago, I met this girl online. We hit it off and talked every day. She never had a boyfriend or even a male friend before she met me. She was also a virgin, a devout Catholic, and homeschooled with 6 other younger siblings. Sadly, shortly after her 18th birthday, she rejected me upon meeting in person. She eventually met another guy who she married and got to be her first everything. I am still devistated about it till this day. I want to find another woman like her when we first met.

I am starting to think I may have to look for a wife abroad, like over in Asia like Vietnam or Thailand to find what I am looking for.