How soon after getting rejected by one person you ask out should you get back out there and try again on another person?

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So a number of women here said on my other question here: (https://www.girlsaskguys.com/dating/q4852214-how-would-you-feel-if-you-somehow-learned-that-you-were-the-5th) they would feel bad being the 5th choice by a guy who asks out but gets rejected by four other women...

so my question is how soon do you think someone should wait before getting back out there and trying again? Guys go through rejections all the time... and it is very much a numbers game of sorts really. the more you ask out you are likely to get at at least one yes at some point. But i guess some people don't like this? So in that case what would make you feel less like you were just another option somewhere down the line and more of the person they really want to be with? Does that mean you should wait a little bit after asking someone out and getting rejected?

or maybe we should just not mention how many we ask out before dating you? and we just kinda remain blissfully unaware of that?

How soon after getting rejected by one person you ask out should you get back out there and try again on another person?

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Whenever you're ready.

It irks me when people say, "Get right back out there!" Because that's not the case for everyone! It varies based on the person and how long it takes him/her to bounce back after a rejection.

I know after I'm rejected by someone, I don't even want to think about pursuing anyone again for a while. I need time to heal and get over them. Yeah, some people are able to get right back out there the next day, or a few weeks later: Good for you!

But emotionally, you know when you're ready to pursue someone else- assuming they're right for you that is. It's unhealthy to jump from one person to another- why? It makes you come off as needy or too dependent on relationships for happiness.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

Right away but best to not let anyone know that they were down the line.

For me, I don't necessarily rate people 1 to 5 etc... in the order I want to ask out, it is more here is the 5 or 10 guys and sometimes #7 might come up as a option to ask out right away where the others are not in ideal situations to ask them just yet.

coachTanthony · Answer

Right away. The key to rejection is this statement, write it down. "I would rather be rejected and understood than ambiguous in my actions." So many men go in with a half ass attempt of approaching a woman and get rejected. That is what stings the most. It's afterwards when you are thinking to yourself damn I should of done this or said that.

If you give it all you got and leave everything out there and get rejected then so what you gave it your best shot. You aren't rethinking it over and over again. So it's much easier to go on to the next one. The sting of it is short lived.

When clients come to me and say, "I can't believe I got rejected, what's wrong with me?" I simply tell them it's fucking arrogant as hell to think you should be everyone's cup of tea and that everyone on the planet should like you. Get rid of the EGO and go find YOUR person.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

It's really up to you on when you get back out there.

I don't think it's the sheer number that is turning women off to your proposals, though.

It's one thing to get to know five people, asking them out as you reach that point, being rejected, and continuing on to get to know others.

What's weird, though, is it seems there's a mentality that landing a girlfriend benefits from the same shotgun approach landing a job does.

Generally, people - not just women, either - enjoy when someone takes time to get to know them and then decides to ask to date them. There's usually gonna be a want for some deeper connection - common ground, the mysterious "click", attraction, and so on.

If you're just going from girl to girl without learning what makes her special, what makes her smile, what makes her happy, what burns her waffles, what she enjoys and dislikes, etc - then yeah, no one really wants to be just "Girl Number 5".

You can ask someone out immediately after you've been rejected, but you're not going to look or be perceived as "good" because of it. You'll be (rightfully) seen as desperate, shallow, and surface level. Generally, undesirable traits.

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

You need to get right out there and try again! Okay so ONE woman didn't like you, so what? Maybe the next woman will like you. I think the least attractive (or most repulsive) trait a man can have, except for violence/temper issues, is self pity! Those guys who even though I said I would have dinner with him, even though I showed up to the date on time, he still spends the evening going on about how hard HE has it, and how everything is so easy for us women. Especially when they start going on about how many girls said no to him before I said yes… So you’re a loser, but I'm even worse, because unlike smart girls, I couldn’t detect your insanity? Just get back on the horse, and try again!

curiousscorpio89 · Answer

How will the other women know you have recently been rejected if you don't tell them? It's honestly none of their business and would only hurt your chances. If you get rejected than just move on and accept what is. Than immediately try again. Why not? Rejection is part of life. The sooner you realize that and decide not to let it slow you down the better your life will be.

SoftCliff · Answer

I feel it's a personal choice. For some people it takes more time than others to get over being rejected. But I don't think it's necessary to know the number of girls he was interested in before you.. It's not smart to reveal that information, you're sabotaging yourself

Slartybartfast · Answer

I used to try to force myself to ask one women out a year, I really hated doing it but it's a man's life to do the unpleasant jobs.

At a certain point the costs/risks/social pressure not to approach, exceeded my positive expectations and I stopped.

Zolly99999 · Answer

I have asked a girl out and when she rejected me I turned to her friend and asked her immediately.. she said yes.. the one the rejected me first was pissed and followed me around all night.. I told her she had her chance and it's not my fault.

If i ask 10 girls out i WILL get rejected at least 9 times.. I'm use to it and I move on immediately.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Wait a period of time before trying again (say how long you think is enough time to wait) Try again in about 3-6 months after I was rejected and just date to try finding the right girl.

affectioncrave · Answer

Depends on the person. It would take me a long time to find a potential love interest again. I'd also feel like I'm using another person as a "band-aid" to heal my pain.

menina · Answer

I would say it's a personal choice Wait until you're comfortable to ask someone else.

petitedollbabee · Answer

Whenever you’re comfortable to do so. There’s no universal rule for how long you should wait.

jengeorge26 · Answer

When you fall off the horse, get right back on

llorando · Answer

Whenever you personally feel comfortable trying again. its a personal choice really.

Guardian45 · Answer

There are NO rules when it comes to Love. It depends.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

“PUT IT BACK, IM GONNA STARVE *accidentally knocks over whole tray of fries* AAAAAAAaAA-“

TacosRAwesome · Answer

When you find someone else you're actually attracted to. Once you're rejected you should be open to that opportunity.

anon1903 · Answer

Depends on how serious you were

UnknownGagsUser · Answer

A couples of days to gain back my confidence lol

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