What are the chances of someone changing their mind after they reject you?

Has this ever happened to anyone? Say you don't contact them at all, they know how you feel, and do find you physically attractive, what are the chances they will decide to give you a shot?


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  • Happened me, i was friend zoned by a girl at work, i would speak to her when i see her, but i stopped texting and emailing. After exactly 2 weeks exacltly she texted me asking how i was and if i wanted to go to the cinema. So far we've had one cinema date and one group meal nite out. It's moving very slowly but i don't think she's in a rush so i've to give her time. This person will comeback just give time. good luck

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    • Thank you so much for your answer. I'm glad it worked out for you and I hope the same happens for me. :)

    • Am sure it will :)

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  • The odds of someone changing their mind after rejecting another seem to depend on three things...
    1.) How much pride they posses
    2.) What or who else is alluring them in life
    3.) If you made an impression on them

    Something like that happened to me once. I was crazy over this unbearably, tiring complicated guy who couldn't figure out if he wanted a legitimate girlfriend or a hoe. He couldn't decide if he wanted to sink into pure, genuine, full-scale intimacy or if he wanted to dive into the intrigue of selfish, reckless, greedy, egotistical lust. He blatantly said he wasn't rejecting me, but it felt like he was because he was telling me that he didn't want to me with me. So, I cried for a bit then my friend reminded me of my capabilities :) I partied hard, sewed ballgowns, modeled, participated in a marathon, got straight A's and one month later after complete absence and exile from my life, he was begging like a pitiful, neglected puppy on an ASPCA commercial. :) Literately at my doorstep with my favorite Boston cream pie Milano cookies.

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    • That's awesome. Did you go out with him afterwards? I hope the same happens to me. I feel the same way that I have a lot going for me.. and it's only been a little over a week since we have not had contact so I know there is still time.

    • I took him back later to find out that he was doing the same sneaky, shady, dramatic BS behind my back except in an even worse way. It ended with him getting smacked in the face.

      However, we were in an actual relationship so it may be different if you just have a crush. We were in love so that situation is a bit more complex. What's your situation?

    • We have mutual friends, have known each other for almost a year, and are attracted to each other. We have hooked up multiple times, which I'm sure did not help anything. We have a lot in common and get along well. I met him back in my party type days, which I don't really party anymore. It's complicated since I'm sure he thought I only wanted sex and was a slut, but I'm actually very monogamous and faithful. I guess you could call it a crush, except things did happen and the attraction isn't just one-sided. I never shared my feelings with him until a week ago.

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  • -10000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000% there is no chance of anyone changing their mind after a rejection, if they said no, they meant it for a reason, it's because they don't like you, it sounds cruel but it's true, moving on is the only way

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    • For a credibility check, I'm saying this because I've made this stupid mistake all through out high school, I've never had a girlfriend because I chased the same two girls for 4 years, they constantly rejected me, yet I wasted my time them. I was a pinball I got rejected by one and I asked the other one going back and forth constantly getting rejected by both. Then boom! 4 years wasted, an 18 year old with not even a kiss! Now I'm going to the most preppy school in the south where women high rocket high expectations, I'm essentially screwed because I have no dating experience. All I'm saying is moving after rejection. It's the only way to live a good sane life

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    • I'm thinking it's more case by case since everyone is different and thinks differently.

    • Well Im sorry but your wrong, pepole say no because they do not like them, call me a pessimist but not only have I fallen for this trap, but multiple of my friends did the same and they are miserable. If you wanna have false hope, then go ahead, but the cruel truth is real life isn't an 80's teen movie, pepole do not like pepole. Again it's your life just remover not to waste it for nothing like me, all I'm saying

  • I did do this actually, but I think it is because the girl changed her appearance and then I got slightly jealous when she started seeing my friend.

    See back in college, her friend was in my class and snapchatted a picture of me, and she kept replying saying I was hot and handsome and all of this and I thought she was taking the p! ss at first but then I got home to find she'd added me on Facebook and Snapchat, and she was suddenly really clingy and I didn't feel the same about her so I was never really interested.

    But anyway after so many months she'd suddenly lost a lot of weight and she looked absolutely gorgeous in herself. Think she started wearing more make-up too but I'm not a fan of too much but overall she looked really nice and I sort of regretted not picking her up sooner but I just got on with it. But what made it worse then she got with one of my close friends and he's got a bad reputation with girls because he likes to get what he can get out of them and then gets bored and stops talking to them, I tried to warn her but she didn't listen to me and she got her heart broken. But my point to this is, yes I did change my mind about her but because her appearance changed.

    They did get back together for a few months but they aren't together any more. She has a different boyfriend now, I have a girlfriend and I think my friend is currently talking to somebody but not sure if they're together

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  • I think someone else may have made a similar statement before this, but some people reject to attract (evolutionary psychology). So whether it is a case of that, or just a case of honestly being rejected, I guess the question you have to ask yourself is - "do I want someone who is going to play games with me" (given the 1st case of reject to attract), or, "do I want someone who didn't really want to be with me to begin with" (the simple rejection scenario).

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  • For me it's happened, but they changed their mind after I had lost some weight. I was still the same person and had too much respect for myself to make anything of it. I respected their feelings when they rejected me, they should also be able to do the same.

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  • Ignoring that you find them attracted and "pretending" that you are over the crush will make their mind be like "what? hmm. maybe i missed out on something." there are chances they will start to chase you then the ball is in your court.

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    • That's basically what I'm doing. Not contacting him or anything. I just stepped away basically. He does seem to enjoy chasing people I noticed, so I'm hoping that will work with him.

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  • It can happen. Man are so undecided. They don't know what they want so one day they can reject you, next day they can want you so badly just keep him interessed. Don't be all over him, show him you have other opinions that way he will see what he's losing so he fight for you. Kiss*

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    • Yeah I'm not going to text him again. I used to quite often but I think he will miss me more if I ignore him.

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    • Thank you. :)

    • You're welcome, anytime :)

  • There are chances, only I couldn't say if they're high or low. My advice in any case is not to expect anything and not to be waiting for a call or something. If happens, great, if it doesn't happen, at least you're not gonna be wasting time and energy in an illusion :/

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  • There was one guy I wasn't even interested in but he rejected me bc he thought i liked him 'cause we were just chatting. I didn't care and let it go as but a month later, after he realised I don't pay attention to him he started chasing me. He sent me friend requests, liked my photos, wrote me love letters and said he loves me. This happened many many times. But I didn't give a damn anymore. No one likes a good girl until she doesn't give a darn anymore.

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  • Sometimes they will come around. But in all honesty, he/she rejected you..
    why would you want someone who rejected you in the first place then decided to give you a shot? Move on :)
    Find someone else! I'm sure you're worth way more than waiting around for someone.

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  • It's possible. Someone can change their mind being an unexpected chance. They probably realise that there feelings for you may have gotten stronger or even developed at this stage. So it can happen.

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    • Well I'm thinking because I used to text him often, and now I'm not texting him at all, that maybe he will decide that he misses me and wants to give me a chance. We knew each other for several months and he had no idea how I felt. So I'm thinking he may re-think it as time goes on. I know he finds me attractive and all.

    • Have you told him you like him and that you would like to see if things worked out between the two of you?

      Guys don't take hints, like they can't take the most obvious hints, unless you are like "dude I really like you"

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