What are the chances of someone changing their mind after they reject you?

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Has this ever happened to anyone? Say you don't contact them at all, they know how you feel, and do find you physically attractive, what are the chances they will decide to give you a shot?

Jlawson118 · Accepted Answer

I did do this actually, but I think it is because the girl changed her appearance and then I got slightly jealous when she started seeing my friend.

See back in college, her friend was in my class and snapchatted a picture of me, and she kept replying saying I was hot and handsome and all of this and I thought she was taking the p! ss at first but then I got home to find she'd added me on Facebook and Snapchat, and she was suddenly really clingy and I didn't feel the same about her so I was never really interested.

But anyway after so many months she'd suddenly lost a lot of weight and she looked absolutely gorgeous in herself. Think she started wearing more make-up too but I'm not a fan of too much but overall she looked really nice and I sort of regretted not picking her up sooner but I just got on with it. But what made it worse then she got with one of my close friends and he's got a bad reputation with girls because he likes to get what he can get out of them and then gets bored and stops talking to them, I tried to warn her but she didn't listen to me and she got her heart broken. But my point to this is, yes I did change my mind about her but because her appearance changed.

They did get back together for a few months but they aren't together any more. She has a different boyfriend now, I have a girlfriend and I think my friend is currently talking to somebody but not sure if they're together

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Happened me, i was friend zoned by a girl at work, i would speak to her when i see her, but i stopped texting and emailing. After exactly 2 weeks exacltly she texted me asking how i was and if i wanted to go to the cinema. So far we've had one cinema date and one group meal nite out. It's moving very slowly but i don't think she's in a rush so i've to give her time. This person will comeback just give time. good luck

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I had this happen to me. They came to drop some stuff off. They couldn't even look me in the eye. Then a week later suddenly they had found something else and wanted to drop it off. This was a few weeks after we broke up. We then sat and spoke to each other. I was acting confident and happy. They started trying to talk about where it ha gone wrong. They said they were sorry and did I think it could work out. They had slept with a couple girls as a rebound and had planned to have a date with another soon but said if we were to give it another go they would cancel. Fast forward a year and they have been hot and cold with me since. Had actually been seeing a girl when we had broken up (perhaps even after) and carried on talking to her. As well as sexting other women. On and off ever since we were back together. Then I found out a few weeks ago and they dumped me a week ago when we were on holiday saying they didn't have the energy to try anymore or try to fix it. So my dear. Be quite sure you would take this person back. Think of the reaons behind rejection. If you can truly see a long term attraction and stregnth from both parties to work at it, as relaionships have real tough patches. If someone rejects once, they will find it easy to do again.

Esplorare · Accepted Answer

The odds of someone changing their mind after rejecting another seem to depend on three things...
1.) How much pride they posses
2.) What or who else is alluring them in life
3.) If you made an impression on them

Something like that happened to me once. I was crazy over this unbearably, tiring complicated guy who couldn't figure out if he wanted a legitimate girlfriend or a hoe. He couldn't decide if he wanted to sink into pure, genuine, full-scale intimacy or if he wanted to dive into the intrigue of selfish, reckless, greedy, egotistical lust. He blatantly said he wasn't rejecting me, but it felt like he was because he was telling me that he didn't want to me with me. So, I cried for a bit then my friend reminded me of my capabilities :) I partied hard, sewed ballgowns, modeled, participated in a marathon, got straight A's and one month later after complete absence and exile from my life, he was begging like a pitiful, neglected puppy on an ASPCA commercial. :) Literately at my doorstep with my favorite Boston cream pie Milano cookies.

Nomad2 · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't wait for someone to change their opinion of me. If they can't see beyond physical attractiveness it might simply mean they are only interested in your body and by rejecting you they actually trying to protect you from being used for your looks. It is not a bad thing to be rejected on this ground, although it still hurts.

Emotional connection is equally important for boys and gals to have a chance of a healthy relationship. If they tell you it is only physical attraction - show some respect for yourself and move on. It is also about showing respect for them and their decision.

The chances of them starting to pursue you are much higher when you have already moved on. It may turn into somewhat chase potentially, so be still mindful of the fact they find you physically attractive. In a case with guys, some of them get thrill out of chase only - these are not worth waiting.

Azara · Answer

would you want someone who changes their mind one minute to the next?

for me if i ask someone out its not just to see if they are interested.

its to get an idea how they handle the situation and treat me.

and to decide what to do. of they say no i know to move on.

if they say no bc its not a good time or whatever and are polite then id give them a shot if they became interested. but if they are just like no fuck off they dont get a chance. and if they go from uninterested to interested its unlikely ill give them a chance.

1 bc ill probably have moved on.

2 bc i dont trust erratic behavior.

3. its a turn ff for someone to not be interested when i am.

alecz · Answer

I really think it depends on how you act from the start. If you start off by making them feel like they are your world, then the less chances you might have of winning them over but If after you got rejected they think they've had some impact on you, then I think your chances are now very slim. Be very casual in telling them you like them in the first place and then afterwards live fun, do interesting things and act as though you never got rejected, I think this might give you at least 50% chance. We are never normally attracted to people who are head over heels for us because we really just want someone who is comfortable with themselves.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it really depends on the reason for the rejection. For example - a guy might reject you because of bad timing (just got out of a relationship, too many other things going on in his life) and I'd say in this case he could change his mind when the timing is better. He may also reject you if he feels inadequate - some guys seem to fear not having enough to keep the girl happy so will not get into a relationship at all for fear of getting hurt. He may mature and/or become more confident and could change his mind then. So I think it is possible for him to change his mind; however, keep your options open...

DBJ0314 · Answer

It's impossible to say. So much depends on the two people involved, how you met, what your relationship is like, what both of you look for in a relationship, etc. More likely than not, if someone can't see themselves being with you early on, they probably never will.

Whatever you do, don't try to change their mind. Don't be nice to them, or be their friend, or whatever to try to show them they should be with you. If you try to change their mind, you'll guarantee it won't happen because they'll see right through you and no one's going to fall for someone who's practically begging for their approval.

Just go about your life, focus on yourself, and whatever happens, happens.

bloodmountain1990 · Answer

Very unlikely, there's also been times where a girl I talk to says they're interested and then ignores me out of the blue but comes back a few months later. I'd be very skeptical of those people unless they have a damn good reason like a health issue or an emergency because in those events usually the person found someone else, got dumped or left and is coming back for attention and validation. I have no patience for that shit.

I mean if you and the person then just want a hook up then why not but if you try to be in a relationship with them in those circumstances, you're setting yourself up for failure and hurt.

Anonymous · Answer

I guess it comes down to the people and the situation.
This happened with me and my boyfriend aha.
The first time he asked me out I rejected him cuz I said I felt like I needed to get to know him a bit better first. We stopped talking for a while after cuz I guess it wasn't exactly the most comfortable situation. But I really did mean it when I said I wanted to get to know him, so I'd try talking to him as friends. A year after we start talking again, and I got to know him better. Then he asked me out again and yeah, been together for about a year and half now.

Caty7 · Answer

It can happen. Man are so undecided. They don't know what they want so one day they can reject you, next day they can want you so badly just keep him interessed. Don't be all over him, show him you have other opinions that way he will see what he's losing so he fight for you. Kiss*

notanexpert101 · Answer

I think someone else may have made a similar statement before this, but some people reject to attract (evolutionary psychology). So whether it is a case of that, or just a case of honestly being rejected, I guess the question you have to ask yourself is - "do I want someone who is going to play games with me" (given the 1st case of reject to attract), or, "do I want someone who didn't really want to be with me to begin with" (the simple rejection scenario).

JohnStamoist · Answer

For me it's happened, but they changed their mind after I had lost some weight. I was still the same person and had too much respect for myself to make anything of it. I respected their feelings when they rejected me, they should also be able to do the same.

jogabonito · Answer

Be careful because at times guys will know how you feel about them so they won't make you a priority because they feel like they can always just hit you up and you'd be down to hang out or what not so if he knows how you feel about him and he still has not contact you or don't show any motives i would suggest you move on don't wait around.

extremityman · Answer

If some girl rejects me, I'll never give her another chance as long as I live. She may be alright in the friend zone, which is where most ladies belong anyway.

I understand why women have rejected me in the past. While I don't blame them, I've moved on. They failed to see the real me that's inside. So now that there's more of an attractive air about me, what I have to offer a woman is not for them. If you can't get what you want, try for something better.

I can get real deep about this if I need to, but I'll spare you (for now).

shelikeshimalot · Answer

There was one guy I wasn't even interested in but he rejected me bc he thought i liked him 'cause we were just chatting. I didn't care and let it go as but a month later, after he realised I don't pay attention to him he started chasing me. He sent me friend requests, liked my photos, wrote me love letters and said he loves me. This happened many many times. But I didn't give a damn anymore. No one likes a good girl until she doesn't give a darn anymore.

FrugalMoogle · Answer

Just move on. If you try to get with them more than once then you come off as desperate and that'll only push them farther away from you. Let them come to you now. Go and live your life and perhaps start a relationship with someone who really wants to be with you.

RedRain · Answer

There are chances, only I couldn't say if they're high or low. My advice in any case is not to expect anything and not to be waiting for a call or something. If happens, great, if it doesn't happen, at least you're not gonna be wasting time and energy in an illusion :/

Anonymous · Answer

I'm possibly going through this right now. It's kinda complicated though. He friend zoned me, I accepted it and moved on (started talking to other guys and a date or two), but we continued to talk to each other and hang out as friends. he is coming around.

But I don't consider our circumstances typical. He recently has been going through something emotionally, and our friendship has been very unusual from the beginning.

martyfellow · Answer

I think if you stay friends, work on yourself, don't get angry with them and are there for them when they are in trouble, they'll eventually give you another evaluation!

But you have to show some responsiveness to criticism they make of you...

sugamsbc · Answer

Chances are very low. Well it depends upon how you had interacted earlier, how you spent time with him, what kind of words you share and jokes you crack on each other. If you had all these crazy experiences the there is definitely the high chance of changing his mind :)

Zerican · Answer

Ignoring that you find them attracted and "pretending" that you are over the crush will make their mind be like "what? hmm. maybe i missed out on something." there are chances they will start to chase you then the ball is in your court.

live4love · Answer

Well every guy that rejects me comes back into my life, also I've had a couple guys tell me they regretted rejecting me and that they want me now. Except I moved on so that gets awkward!

mooky06 · Answer

It's possible. Someone can change their mind being an unexpected chance. They probably realise that there feelings for you may have gotten stronger or even developed at this stage. So it can happen.

Ayobro · Answer

Pretty high if you act like you're no longer interested.. A lot people want what they can't have and are turned off by people who express a high interest in them.

That being said.. It's probably not a good idea to get involved with someone of that nature. You'll end up getting hurt in the long run.

Idontkeren · Answer

Very slim... if they rejected you the first time, likely they honestly don't like you for you and you should accept that and move on.

Veronica152 · Answer

Sometimes they will come around. But in all honesty, he/she rejected you..
why would you want someone who rejected you in the first place then decided to give you a shot? Move on :)
Find someone else! I'm sure you're worth way more than waiting around for someone.

Streamhopper · Answer

All depends on the person and the circumstances. I've had it happen. Did the confessional thing, got soundly rejected, ended up dating later. I'll admit, it was an exception, and I was lucky.

Marttinez · Answer

It's really hard to tell. I'm going through the same this right now, but at the end as much as it hurts it's better to be single and not with someone who doesn't know what they want.

helpha · Answer

Not going to happen. Be with someone who's crazy about you, not someone who rejects you then comes back.

hypno-trip · Answer

If they reject you and then easily change their mind they are not a decisive person...

neofuture · Answer

-10000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000% there is no chance of anyone changing their mind after a rejection, if they said no, they meant it for a reason, it's because they don't like you, it sounds cruel but it's true, moving on is the only way

JohnBhoy94 · Answer

Flip a coin.  I don't really know the story behind this question, so I'll need more info.

timmy111 · Answer

It happens, but dont wait around for it, go live your life, find better

JustinCaseUDontKnow · Answer

I really think there is a 50/ 50 chance of anything coming out of it..

ixi10 · Answer

Almost zero. They rejected that person for a reason. Most likely they won't change their minds

AnnVdB · Answer

Dont know but I would never want someone who has rejected me

anothergirl23 · Answer

i think if you made an impression they'd see you in a new light and maybe give you another chance.

RationalLioness · Answer

No way to know because it depends on many factors. Yes, it's happened to me and I wasn't interested.

Anonymous · Answer

One guy did it to me. I gave him a second chance bc he said he wanted to be friends. He then said he wanted to go on a date with me. He stoode up and ignored me for the rest of the year.

nirali792 · Answer

Times can change many decisions You gotta be patient enough to see the results

Xoxoxooo123 · Answer

Honestly it's never happened to me but I don't know how I'd feel if it did

missjayne · Answer

He said he is not interested. Enough said. Move on. Sorry.

Anonymous · Answer

Ironically, this is happening to me rn... I asked a girl out a while ago, she did not know me that well at the time. Now we are in a summer course together and she is flirting with me. Her friends are trying to push her towards me and she gave me her cell number. Being new to the whole "girl" thing, I'm very confused and pretty mindfucked. So, I guess I would say that it is possible. Just take it slow.

SakuraChii · Answer

This hasn't happend to me. The men who have rejected me are usually dead set in their opinon.

KFettario · Answer

Get to know the person. Closeness softens peoples hearts.

Takada · Answer

Not likely. It's best not to count on it and just move on.

FreyaDiermayr · Answer

I've been the one to change my mind quiiitteeeee a bit

Anonymous · Answer

If i reject someone i never change my mind. I'm not an indecisive person , so once i make up my mind... that's final.

Anonymous · Answer

From my experience, the chances are very slim. They might think what would have been if they'd said yes but that's all. No regrets, cause they wouldn't have rejected you if they'd like you. Sorry.

genericname85 · Answer

I only rejected a few girls. Yes i would "maybe" change my mind if they lost 50-80 pounds.

plinkett · Answer

Why would you want them to change their mind? If they rejected you to begin with, chances are there is a reason for it.

zayzay2424 · Answer

my girlfriend and i broke up and stayed friends and now were dating again. So if you stay friends then you should still have a shot

Keyspirits · Answer

U have to work for it and prove ur effort that how worthy u are 👌🏼

chrisbigman · Answer

I don't know. I'm not sure that's happened yet to me.

baka01 · Answer

got rejeted, year late nothing chaged, and she said it never will. so ill wait some more :p

Anonymous · Answer

Lol yes, I rejected the same guy twice and now I regret doing it...

Anonymous · Answer

Given the circumstances, I think there is a chance. I wouldn't rely on it though.

Anonymous · Answer

I've changed my mind a total of once in my life and that was in primary school.

Anonymous · Answer

To be honest if you guys haven't talked at all it's pretty slim.

Prof_Don · Answer

The odds of change is very little, unfortunately.

TanyaTate · Answer

Happens all of the time.

HereForTheDay · Answer

It can happen. But it won't happen usually.

LovesTVDx · Answer

Lol this is exactly what I want to know too

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