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Hey, so I met a guy around 7 yr ago while I was working in a restaurant, he asked for my number &then a few weeks later I got a train to see him for the weekend. We got on really really well but I didn’t sleep with him as wernt officially dating, we spoke for months after but I ended up going travelling& when I got back he had a girlfriend, I ended up in a 3 year relationship but then we both somehow ended up single at the same time, he contacted me (as must have seen I deleted all photos of ex) we went on a date and the date was just amazing I can’t explain the butterfly feeling he gives me. Still didn’t sleep with him as I’m old fashioned and we weren’t exclusive.. anyways after the date I got back with my ex and we didn’t speak. A year later I’m single & he gets in touch asking if I’m okay and randomly turned up at my house with flowers to cheer me up. we end up talking for a few weeks and he’s asking me why I never make effort to talk to him and why he’s always chasing me (he’s a basketball player so I’m kind of wary that he’s talking to loads of other girls & I’m a bit shy I’m nowhere near as hot) by the way we still haven’t had sex but just having a really nice connection. Again he goes radio Silent on me.. so fast forward a few months and he rings me drunk saying I’m the only person he’s ever loved and he’s so nervous around me etc.. I thought I would make more effort with him so I start finally messaging first and stuff and we plan to have a night away and we talk about having sex & it gets quiet passionate. then again he goes radio silent. so a month goes by & after hearing nothing from him he pops up merry Christmas I love you & one day your going to be my wife which is random as hell since he practically ghosted me twice this year? Then after talking every night on the phone he’s gone silent again? am I reading this all wrong does he even like me or what? or am I just not making enough effort? & no he doesn’t have a wife or a girlfriend I know his family

I used to have a Girls ask Guys account in high school when I was just a confused little teen asking about my crushes. I felt like at the time it was mostly other confused teens and young adults trying to figure out what feeelings were. but that was an old account thar I have abandoned and forgotten how to login

I created this burner account to ask about my current social and some past mistakes but I feel like this site is a lot more toxic then it was 4-6 years ago. that's not to say it was great then. There were people asking for nudes or spilling there messy abusive relationships. but now this site seem more politized and angry. There are constant post on how feminism ruined everything or how every girl is a moody lying slut. there are very thinly veiled post about gender roles and society that try to pretend they're just about dating advice.

I know this kinda content isn't just on G@G, I always seen this on Youtube, Reddit and any densely male populated site. I also noticed that most of the replies to questions are more male. even on very popular questions. this entire place feels like I'm on r/redpill or r/askreddit or r/amI theasshole

I just feel like men have gotten angrier in general but I can especially see it on this site. I am wondering if it's the kinda of content I've been engaging with or if this is what everybody sees.

I need advice from you to help me decide who is the right man for me. I grew up innocent without any knowledge and much experience with men because my parents are strict. I just got out of my parents' hands this year, now that I am 27. I met two guys in my life.

I know Daniel, a year ago, on a dating site. At first, he was very persistent towards me. I didn't like him at first because he is too old for me but he was serious by calling me every day, being there when I was depressed, and, giving food and gifts as a surprise. However, after 7 months, I'd noticed on his Facebook, that I was not the only foreign girl he added, and gave a flower to another girl who he met online with a letter saying "Smile, it is another day." I got mad and the girl stayed away from Daniel. After that event, he doesn't care about me anymore, no calls, no gifts. He always punishes me by not talking to me for one to three months. He even accused me of wanting him for money or a visa even if it was not even true.

Due to my anger that Daniel didn't talk to me for 2 months. I went back to the dating site and I met Kostas. He is very interested in me and even wants to meet me even just after 3 weeks. He flew to visit me because I rebelled against Daniel's abandonment. I did sleep with him. Kostas was really kind to me online, but when I met him, I realized he cannot really treat me right. He got fed off of my problems and, worse, he left me at the mall alone and threw my stuff because I didn't want to follow what he wants. But after a day, he apologised to me. If we ever have a disagreement or fight, he is willing to communicate through it. Unlike Daniel, he had to punish me first by not talking for one to two months. Or worse, more months.

Please advise me, who should I choose and marry? Or what should I do?

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