Hello, I am a 22 years old guy who is still in college. So I have a close friend who is a woman and I know her for like 2-3 years. She is also 25 years old.
Her ex (who was also my roommate in the past) introduced me to her. She had a bad, toxic relationship with him for about a year or so and after a break up for about a year they still did not know, if they wanted to quit it for sure or not. Now they decided on it and all of us three barely meet since the day I left my old flat. The weirdest part is that she felt better and safer with me than with him and it seemed as if she tried to avoid her ex.
This girl is pretty extroverted and her behaviour may seem a bit flirty when she is with men. Sometimes its hard for me to realise, if she sees me as a friend or not, especially that we also have some mutual friends with whom we meet and her behaviour towards other men are not very different from how she acts with me. Despite it, when she needs some advice, help or just wants to open-up, talk&fun I am mostly one of few people she contacts me first. She is not even afraid when I try to touch her (like a hand, hug, put my hand on her waist, etc). We would even go to a movie, cafe, restaurant and etc.
I had a small crush on her in the past and gave her some hints but she mostly just saw it not seriously (for example, I said "Your ex keeps asking me teasingly if we are dating, since you spend more time with me than with him. I just joked that we are friends with benefits" and she replied "Its none of his business! Just because I am a girl and you are a guy we can't be friends? If we would be dating he would be the person I would hide it the most!"). I wanted to try and ask her directly, if she sees me as a friend or not but I did not do it, since I was fine with her being just a friend.
Still I am a bit curious. I have a few close people in my life who are girls but this is the first time that a woman acted this way, as if we are dating though we are friends.
Her ex (who was also my roommate in the past) introduced me to her. She had a bad, toxic relationship with him for about a year or so and after a break up for about a year they still did not know, if they wanted to quit it for sure or not. Now they decided on it and all of us three barely meet since the day I left my old flat. The weirdest part is that she felt better and safer with me than with him and it seemed as if she tried to avoid her ex.
This girl is pretty extroverted and her behaviour may seem a bit flirty when she is with men. Sometimes its hard for me to realise, if she sees me as a friend or not, especially that we also have some mutual friends with whom we meet and her behaviour towards other men are not very different from how she acts with me. Despite it, when she needs some advice, help or just wants to open-up, talk&fun I am mostly one of few people she contacts me first. She is not even afraid when I try to touch her (like a hand, hug, put my hand on her waist, etc). We would even go to a movie, cafe, restaurant and etc.
I had a small crush on her in the past and gave her some hints but she mostly just saw it not seriously (for example, I said "Your ex keeps asking me teasingly if we are dating, since you spend more time with me than with him. I just joked that we are friends with benefits" and she replied "Its none of his business! Just because I am a girl and you are a guy we can't be friends? If we would be dating he would be the person I would hide it the most!"). I wanted to try and ask her directly, if she sees me as a friend or not but I did not do it, since I was fine with her being just a friend.
Still I am a bit curious. I have a few close people in my life who are girls but this is the first time that a woman acted this way, as if we are dating though we are friends.
