Search Results: want more than dating

I am on a site called Match. Put bluntly as a woman with self-respect, who hasn't slept with many men, etc., most of the men aren't worth contacting. And it's not for fickle reasons

Men poising like roosters in selfies, hats on backwards, etc. so obviously not mature for their age / likely not responsible & likely looking for flings. Never married but with 1 child or multiple children. "Currently separated" which means most are married, not living in the family home but not legally divorced & yet looking (no wonder the marriage didn't work), etc. As well as "is it happy hour yet", and profiles that indicate there's a problem or another.

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Am I being unreasonable? I don't think so. I want a decent partner. I'm on it to get away from the locals of this small town I work in - I am not local - as drugs, alcoholism, etc is very common

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And I've been told by a few of the more decent men that women on the site are predominantly no better - dressed skimpy, can't string a conversation together, etc., etc. - than the men I ignore.

Ok here we go again, so whenever someone asks me out, or if I’m interested, I tend to go from “hmm oh ok cool” to “nvm forget it 🤦🏻‍♀️ “ pretty quickly, bc ultimately I know we are going to want diff things or at least, go at very very very very very very very different paces.

yeah I’m sure I’ve asked something like this before, but I’ll go it again.

If you are dating someone and you have not done more than hug, maybe kiss, and no one has said anything, how many days until you seek it upon yourself to inquire? or do you say anything at all? Do you just wait & then at some point say ‘it’s not gonna work’?