Girls help,2weeks ago I posted how ldr guy isn’t replying much and is distant but a twist happened?

[Anonymous]

Hello everyone , it’s going to a long post maybe some English errors bc I’m not American but please help me clear my doubts , hurt emotions.
I’m too tired of love and 31 years old.

Probably 2-3 weeks ago I posted how me and this guy I met 2 years ago we are in a long distance relationship. We also made plans how he will come live here or I go to his country and live with him when I finish my school/graduated! But this guy became very distant , I would contact him message him but he would reply to me that he is busy he can’t talk right now. He used to contact message me mostly daily or every 2-3 days. Now it’s weekly or more.
Mostly of gag users told me that —he is not interested and I’m not his priority. And not to be with him anymore etc etc. — In a way this relationship is dying itself no one is saying anything. Even nowadays til this day.
Because I liked this guy a lot and made plans I feel hurt still can’t move on..
BUT
It’s been 2 weeks I met a guy who’s living same city I live. He is not my boyfriend yet. But I don't know what happened we talk daily. Share our thoughts. He also older 36. I can tell he wants a family too. And he is already done with games. As I said we are not dating , it’s more like me and him sharing our life moments etc

Meanwhile the ldr boyfriend it’s been a week he hasn’t even said not even a hi !!!

This ldr guy has for sure hurt me. And i feel so stupid and dumb. I feel like me talking to this new guy I’m the the bad girl. Because I’m still lingering through this ldr guy. When he isn’t even clearly caring much about me.
I get more hellos form this new guy rather than the ldr boyfriend I “have”

Why do I feel like I’m doing wrong ! I’m not dating this guy. Is it because I still like the ldr boyfriend deep down i want to be with him.. ? this new guy makes me happy. The ldr boyfriend feel already so distant.. but I am also hurt of the current ldr boy too

So I’m in a mess of emotions
Maybe I’m
Being too kind

[LostGirl9]

Break up with the boyfriend, not hearing for a week with someone you’re in a long distance relationship with is a bit of a red flag.
Also I don’t think the reason you “feel bad” is because you want to be with the boyfriend, I think you could be feeling guilt, you haven’t done anything wrong but maybe you unconsciously feel bad because you like this other guy or maybe because you want to break up with your boyfriend or both
Hope I was clear, English isn’t my first language either

[HollyK21]

Break up with the LDR guy. Not hearing from him for days and weeks is not a real relationship, you don’t know what the heck he’s doing over there either, it’s all just not worth the stress. This other guy sounds promising, so it’s better to be single so you can give him a real chance.

[Guy13]

LDR never work. If you are in one and there is no communication then he is communicating with someone else. Downshift to friend and get local with your attention.