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This is in response to this question below:

Let's settle the debate, which is worse, female cheater or male cheater?

My answer above question is of course that both men and women are equally scumbags when it comes to cheating.

Yes men generally have impulsive sexual needs. Yes women generally have emotional and attention needs. But neither have an excuse to cheat. It’s natural to feel occasionally tempted however both men and women can have the willpower to abstain. If the temptation is getting to be too much they can break up first and then do what they want.

However a better question to ask is who owns up to their cheating bs better when they are caught or feel too guilty and confess?

From my observations cheating men are usually A) sociopathic lying scumbags who feel no guilt (maybe sex addicts) or B) normal guys who got blindsided by lust and caved in.

The A guys can’t be trusted or forgiven. But the B guys will usually be extremely remorseful and guilt stricken. That doesn’t mean B guys should be let off the hook. But they will own up to their crap. They won’t blame their girlfriend/wife for their shitty decision even if they were upset with them earlier

However I find that women who get caught cheating will often try to gaslight their boyfriend/husband. They will say “oh you weren’t there for me” or some other crap. Not all women but many of just have egos that can’t accept that they are cheating whores. So they try to placate their conscious through mental gymnastics vs. just saying “I cheated and I was 100% wrong. You didn’t deserve that and I accept the consequences”. I just do not see that many women doing the latter.

I couldn’t be with a girl that still looked at other guys.
I know I wouldn’t bother looking or caring to look at other women. As they’re not mine.

I fully and adamantly believe this is false, by the way. This earlier post I said explains why:

"Considering women are, and ALWAYS HAVE BEEN, the gatekeepers of sex and love, you have no one to blame by yourself if you haven't found the right one yet by your 30s. Women have probably rejected dozens of quality, marriage material men by then, for being too short, not wealthy enough, not good enough in bed, etc.

It's a completely different game than what men have to go through, where we have to show our value to women to even get noticed and aren't seen as desirable merely for existing, like women are. Most men don't get to that "valuable" phase, until their mid to late 30s."

Women have it EASIER, but some (very few, but some) women still have bad luck finding someone. Men have to demonstrate value, in order to be "worthy" of love though, and most men are not guaranteed success, winning the genetic lottery, or being arrogant AF, to be seen as worthy 100% of the time.

The whole premise of this website is to ask the opposite gender about dating and relationship questions. Given we are anonymous it’s easier to ask questions and get responses without worry about losing face.

And yet I find that most women I talk to do NOT often give good dating advice. I feel that they usually respond to “protect the team” i. e. tell me what to do which is in best interest to another random woman vs. really trying to understand my POV.

For what it’s worth it’s extremely difficult to think and understand the opposite gender. But I don’t always respond to “protect some other guy” depending on the circumstance a woman is going through and asking about.

Sometimes i see women talking about emotionally abusive relationships and encourage them to get tough and draw the line. They struggle because they have feelings which are compromising their judgment (can be true on the man’s side as well). But I don’t like seeing dbag guys get away with that crap. I sure as hell won’t tell the girl to keep enabling them.

But I feel that most women on here (and in general) always give the other woman the benefit of the doubt when they are giving advice to guys. Guys aren’t looking for the answer they want to hear on here. They want the truth so when we ask questions we rarely embellish our circumstances.

Anyway when I am dealing with tough dating situations I find that other men usually give better advice then women. Reason being they are feeling emotions I am feeling so they can look at issue more clear headed. It might be not what I want to hear. But what I NEED to hear. That is what matters.