I just wish things were different ☹️🤧 how can you be hurting so bad yet be happy for that person?

[Ametria]

Listen I was dating someone who was 49 years old a year and a couple months ago and I was living with a relative in a different state... she pushed me back to Florida and I lost my relationship with this man and also hurt him as well but he did mislead me to think that he wasn't gonna give up on us so I worked really hard to get myself back to that state and him which I did within that same year just to come to find out he didn't want me long story short this man had asked my step dad could he talk to me and my step dad said yes so my step dad told me to give him a call and the talk was short he was just checking to see if me and my family was ok behind the storm ian so I find out he just posted that he's in a new relationship with someone and I'm trying so so so hard to get a good grip of my feelings because I really do care... it just hurts so bad :(

how can I be happy for him and hurt at the same time 😭

[Guy13]

You have every right to be angry and hurt. You need to grieve so that you can move on. Regret is common when we fall in love. The plus side is you still love hard. Many people have become numb so you are blessed that way. It ducks that it this kind of pain to realize it though. Take care of yourself and I hope Ian didn’t take everything from you guys.

[Ametria]

I have a heart of gold and I did learn that I can't hold grudges towards anybody. I did try to get back to Georgia so I could be with him but his heart was broke when I had up and left so I mean... I have no choice. I don't understand why he called to check up on me after eleven months of no contact, you would think he wouldn't care but I'm always gonna want the best for him. Sadly speaking to him did open up wounds that I worked so hard to try to heal so now I'm left with nothing but feelings of the past but I wanted him to know there was no hard feelings towards him that I'm OK

[Guy13]

Yep, that will bring him some peace as well... loving hard can hurt like a... too. Hang in there !!

[Avicenna]

You don't have to be happy for him. If you can be, that's fine, but it's totally normal to feel hurt. That will pass with time, though, as much as it hurts right now.

[Ametria]

Thank you , :(

[Avicenna]

You're welcome...