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I don’t think he does based off something that happened today, but I definitely have strong feelings for him.

This is a long story so buckle in.

I’ve been friends with this guy who’s almost 10 years older than me since I was 19. He went to back to college, and that’s how we met. We’ve always just been friends and never crossed any lines with each other and are part of the same group. He graduated 3 years ago and moved back to our hometown (turned out we’re from the same city), but we’ve stayed in touch and I see him almost every time I visit.

Last year we were hanging out and the topic eventually went to dating (not each other just in general). I described my perfect guy and he said something like, “oh like how we do?” And that’s the moment the light bulb clicked in my head. Ever since then I’ve been developing feelings for him. I felt like he wasn’t returning my feelings, so I backed off to try and readjust my emotions.

A couple months ago, he called me out the blue and we’ve been texting/calling/watching shows through zoom together practically every day the last few weeks. My feelings for him are back and are definitely getting stronger. I’m not sure how he feels. It’s like he’s hot and he’s cold, he’s definitely sending mixed signals. He’s asked me what my plans for grad school are, wanted to know if I’d move out of state to go to the same school as him, stays on the phone with me while I share my location while in traffic, etc. In a show we watched recently, they were talking about date ideas and he kept telling me he wanted to take me to those places, so I started to feel like he might feel the same as me. Today I finally had enough of wondering and texted him that I’m wanting his attention more and more, and he deflected it and made a joke.

When we met 8 years ago, I was just a kid and he was pushing 30. I’m worried he still thinks of me as a kid and doesn’t see me as the woman I’ve grown into.

Is he just a good friend? Does he want more? What do I do?

Here is my first post

I got a lot of different replies so i did a poll.

Basically he is everything I've ever wanted but he's very close to his best friend. She has an amazing body angelic face and great personality. She makes me insecure.

1. Before we started going out she basically lived with him. They both have there own penthouses but she would cuddle with him in bed while wearing his shirt every night (They stopped this after we stated going out)

2. He greets her by calling her Babygirl, Kitten, Princess while back hugging her. He gives her piggyback rides and randomly picks her up sometimes.

3. When he is drunk she is usually all he talks about or he call/text her

4. When he goes back home to visit his parents she comes along. She is basically a part of his family

5. He has her period schedule on his calendar. He says he keeps track for her because she always forgets to write it on her calendar. He also does it so he can prepare snacks and ice cream, movies to watch, and music to listen to. He makes sure she has pads and tampons and if she has run out he will buy some for her. He is really organized and she is kind of go with the flow and doesn’t prepare for things, so he does it for her. He sometimes even builds a blanket fort for them to watch movies. He does all of this to distract her from the pain. When it’s really bad he plays with her hair and sings her to sleep. He also buys her “period prizes”. Apparently her mother used to buy her gifts when she wasn’t feeling good, so he took over and started buying her a present whenever she doesn’t feel good.)

6. I walked in on him moaning and her straddling his bare back as she massaged him in his bed. (She saw me and offered to do me next)

7. He has also canceled some of our dates when she wasn’t feeling well or was upset. She never asks him to do anything for her but he always runs. And he will do literally anything to put a smile on her face when she is upset, no matter how stupid it makes him look.