I wanted to ask this guy if he wanted to be friends with benefits. But I think I ruined it. I don't get why he'd ghost me?

[Candycanelove]

I’ve met up with this guy three times. The last two times I’ve gone to his house. We cuddled and talked Sunday I made dinner for him. He told me to let him know when I got home. I text him Sunday saying “hey baby I made it home” he didn’t say anything. And then I texted him again asking if he slept good last night. He didn’t reply I think calling him baby messed things up. Even though he called me baby during sex.

While I was there he told me he liked hanging out with me and that he enjoys my company. So I want to be friends with benefits. But I think I’ve messed up. I don’t want to keep texting him when he’s not answering. I was going to wait for a few days and then text him asking if he’d want to be friends with benefits.

I sent him a naughty picture of me and if he doesn't reply I'm not messaging him anymore. And I'm going to talk to another guy that I've been talking to.

[FilmGuy93]

People get weird when sex and feelings are involved. Give him a little bit more time to respond, but don’t hold your breath and don’t take his lack of response personally. This is his issue to work through

[Candycanelove]

I'm going out with another guy I've been talking to.

[FilmGuy93]

Okay. Maybe that fact is part of why he responded the way he did.

[Candycanelove]

Responded the way he did? He hasn't and he doesn't know about the other guy.

[FilmGuy93]

The guy who told you want to be friends with benefits with.

[Candycanelove]

I did not actually tell him I wanted to be friends with benefits. I said that's what I wanted to ask him.

[FilmGuy93]

I know that. What I'm saying is that calling someone "baby" implies something more intimate, and hearing him say that probably freaked him out.

[Candycanelove]

He called me baby during sex, I really don't see what the issue is with me saying that.

[FilmGuy93]

There is no issue. Human emotions are just irrational things

[Candycanelove]

He responded to the photo I sent him.

[FilmGuy93]

Was his response good or bad?

[melanieeeB]

The same reason why I would ghost a guy for asking this, no interest and thinking badly about the offer lol

[Candycanelove]

No interest? I never actually asked him if he wanted to be friends with benefits I said I wanted to ask.

[summiter]

What did he say about the photo? You did not screw up at all I think. Just call him and talk rather than text. How was the sex with him... did you like it? did he like it?

[BJP21]

The only thing I will say about being friends with benefits, is make sure you are both on the same page. If one of you catches feelings and the other doesn't, one or both of you could get emotionally hurt.

[Candycanelove]

He said he likes hanging out with me and he enjoys my company.

[BJP21]

Thats a positive thing.

[Anonymous]

so you're confusing love with sex the guy doesn't give a damn about you only about that hole between your legs he can stick his dick in and fuck

[Wise4myage]

Was his response positive?

[Candycanelove]

I said should I ask him.

[Wise4myage]

So he gets a naughty pic and has no reply? Sure, ask him.

[Candycanelove]

He did reply

[Wise4myage]

Ok was it good or bad?

[Wise4myage]

I don;t think you ruined anything.