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I'm very conflicted undergoing social anxiety complex trauma and depression and anorexia nervosa. Im very down. The last time I was so down was with 16 when I landed in the ER. It is really bad right now. I tried to explain my boyfriend I don't have any energy for our relationship but he had a good childhood he never experienced depression. He will never understand my behaviour and my pain.

he just reciting John legends: all of me. But this isn't it. He told me I should give him a chance and not break things and I opened up about everything I'm going through that's why I wanted to end things bc I'm afraid I make him down too. But when my life sort out I want to relive our relationship again.

Today he said: "I'm afraid you will break up you was distance"

Why can't he understand that this the fcking reason of course I love him and tell him but also I just need time for my own. I can't be a lover right now. Love us not a medicine. But everyone tells me: it is your sickness that speaks. But even though. I hurt him with the way I am because I won't be pretending anything. I don't know what to do. He told me if I break up now or of I insisted in a breaking pause it would not last. But what makes him so sure about thst? I just wonders if that is something because he deep himself thinks this relationship would not last anyway or if this a stated fact?

My Ex boyfriend of 8 Months told me at the month 8: "I enjoy what we have in the present, I'm not sure if it stays. I don't see a future for us" For me that was a reason to break up. Because till month 8/ he wasn't able to communicate our future, his emotions or anything in regard of our relationship. He wasn't even sure if he wants to move away from home. If I didn't asked I would have never knew how he felt.

My second boyfriend now: After all that I shared with him in the 1 year of our relationship he opened up to me in month 6 but after I ask. Now little by little he can talk about things regarding our relationship but it is still a long way till he can tell me without me asking him what hurts him or not. This makes me very sad. As for now, after all the things I sacrificed for him in regard of time and money he told me: let's try out if it works out."

Am I pathetic to end things because the person doesn't see a future for us?

I dislike that my boyfriend appears to ONLY value men’s opinions. Anything I or any other woman says to him goes in one ear and out the other. But let a guy say the same thing and he's all ears and ready to take the advice.

Anyways, it made me question whose opinions I tend to value? I am very stubborn and not many people can get through to me. I can only think of one girl who has just really gotten through to me but I guess I notice that it’s mostly been guys, thus I value men’s opinions more.

I don't know if my guy simply values the male view more because he’s so insecure and intimidated by other men, which he says all the time. But I value the guys perspective because I want to know how to captivate, communicate with, and better understand the gender that I’m attracted to.

Some may call that a “pick me” but I don’t consider it the same thing. I feel pick me’s seek validation while I more so want advice and guidance. Who better to understand a guy I’m into than a guy himself?

If I wanted advice on how to improve my appearance, dress style or to better control my emotions, then I’d seek a woman’s advice since we better understand one another’s insecurities and reactions. I rarely ask other women for advice on guys though because so many take it as competition to go after that same guy. Its so weird. Girlcode always seems to go out the window.

Another thing could be that I grew up looking up to my grandpa more than anyone else. I also got along best with my male cousin and my uncle. My friends have always been 90% guys. Like, my mom held it down for a bit but her inconsistent behavior and broken promises really got to me. So I stopped looking up to her. Maybe she, my grandma and a bunch of flaky female friends and cousins ruined it for other women too.

Some men have wronged me but never as many men as women. I guess same can be said for my boyfriend since he feels more women have wronged him yet all I ever see these days is men treating him badly. #FeelFreeToList