How do I get him to understand or am I being ridiculous?

[Anonymous]

I feel depressed not having income or reason to get out of the house. Working gives me a sense of purpose and worth again, not to mention a much needed break from my kids. I'm back to being at home all the time with my 2 toddlers. I don't have hobbies. All I do is cook, clean, and take care of people and their messes. I don't get to go anywhere without an inevitable meltdown from 1 or both of my kids. I have no support system and with no income I can't afford $20/hour babysitters all the time. boyfriend said that I'm being a complainer for no reason. He has a full time job and goes to school for photography which doesn't even need a degree to do. He gets to go pursue his hobbies, hang out with friends, and even travel all over the U. S. 5x a year, while he expects me to be home 24/7. I was going to school for surgical tech but boyfriend said no. I had to put that on hold for 3 years until the kids are old enough to go to elementary school. I'm not supposed to have any hopes, dreams, desires or feelings at all. I just get yelled at for bringing it up. I guess I'm just in survival mode for the next 3 years.

[Anonymous]

You need to take control of your life and stop letting that man walk all over you. Unfortunately he’s put you in a position to where you’re 100% dependent upon him, and because of that, he feels entitled to living how he wants and you can’t say shit about it. You will never be able to get him to understand simply because he doesn’t want to. He wants a woman who is a homemaker and happy to do it, but that lifestyle isn’t for everyone, especially not for women who have dreams and ambitions that their boyfriends/husbands don't support or give a damn whether they pursue it or not. That shouldn’t even be the sort of man you want to influence your life choices, he’s already brought you down so low that now you just accept this. I don’t think that your silence and readiness to abide by his rules is healthy for yourself to go through or your kids to witness. Whether you realize it or not, they will notice your moods at some point, they’ll notice the tension when things go wrong, and at some point you could mentally check out because you’re so depressed and sad.

[ProbablyClueless]

Why are you trying to get him to understand? He never will until he experiences parenthood for himself. You're talking to someone who is too immature and unempathetic to understand anyone's experience outside his own.

[LaterZ]

Sit down and explain how u feel. If he doesn't respect u, and how u feel, then u might not have the right partner