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I fully and adamantly believe this is false, by the way. This earlier post I said explains why:

"Considering women are, and ALWAYS HAVE BEEN, the gatekeepers of sex and love, you have no one to blame by yourself if you haven't found the right one yet by your 30s. Women have probably rejected dozens of quality, marriage material men by then, for being too short, not wealthy enough, not good enough in bed, etc.

It's a completely different game than what men have to go through, where we have to show our value to women to even get noticed and aren't seen as desirable merely for existing, like women are. Most men don't get to that "valuable" phase, until their mid to late 30s."

Women have it EASIER, but some (very few, but some) women still have bad luck finding someone. Men have to demonstrate value, in order to be "worthy" of love though, and most men are not guaranteed success, winning the genetic lottery, or being arrogant AF, to be seen as worthy 100% of the time.

I have an opportunity to marry a younger woman who has an excellent personality and is a very hard worker. We have been friends with for a few years now. It was her idea is purely for economical reasons. It would benefit us both.

But I am not in love with her and she knows that. She said she doesn’t care if I date and sleep with other people. This would be a paper marriage.

I have gotten advice for a few trusted people about this. All but one person said it’s a bad idea. I am leaning towards no myself but besides the economical arrangement a part of me wonders if I’ll ever find an ideal partner given my age.

Ever since I hit 36 (in my early 40s now) my dating life has been hell on earth trying to find a truly decent woman I feel attracted to. I have had a few flings with attractive women who would make horrible wives. I tried dating a girl who i felt so so about physically just for her personality. That slowly got agonizing. I ended up breaking up with her and that ended very badly (she went psycho).

However of me just WANTS this life milestone. But I don’t want to be an adulterer. Even though she understands I might date other woman I do have spiritual beliefs. Oddly the Bible doesn’t say anything direct about premarital sex (but it heavily implied that’s not alright). But it is VERY clear about adultery. I wouldn’t feel comfortable cheating on my wife. Even if it really is a paper marriage and it doesn’t sit well with me.