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Me (26) and my girl (25) been together over 6 years, first year we were together she cheated on me very cold heartedly. On New Years I was supposed to work the day after so I couldn't make it but my boss let me off last minute so I surprised her at the bar she was going to with her "friends" caught her rubbing her ass on a guy, beat the shit out of him & got kicked out & wait outside the bar 4 hours til it closed and she walked past me with him and went home with him, I went to her house to grab my shit and he answered her door in just underwear. Traumatic af. Day after she came to my house to apologize and for me to break up w/ her and while she was crying in my washroom I went through her phone (she'd cheated on me multiple times with multiple people & fucked him before I beat him up in his hotel room & also secretly had a STI, I tested and didn't have it). Broke up & I hated her for months. Got back together via seeing her at a bar and hooking up, I stated no guy friends, no going out past 1, no hotels w/out me. Years have past and things have been smooth & live together, she's in Law school now & ever since she got in Law school she has forgotten all my boundaries. She's going out to parties and friends houses until 5am, she went on a school trip to a big hotel (majority of the students in her class didn't go too) for over a week (wouldn't text me until the noon after every day) & she has a Mexican girls trip now planned for this summer. I don't want to control her, I feel silly enough and honestly our past haunts me & she knows this because I've made it extremely clear but I don't trust her in those situations and personally I feel like it's avoidable to stay out every weekend until 4-5am & I would be down to go on trips with her too. Is it fair boundaries that If she can't change her current habits of hers I've mentioned given out past or is that unfair?

I’ve been with my girlfriend for 2 years and our plan is to get married by December.
My girlfriend is dead set against us having kids. She doesn’t want kids but wants me to be a second dad to her friend’s kids. She’s even leaving her will to her friend’s kids.

I’ve never fancied the idea of kids. I don’t even like kids, accept recently I’ve been thinking it would be cool to see a mini me. What’s even worse is she’s pregnant right now and has an abortion appointment booked.

I’m ok with her not wanting kids, her body her choice. But I don’t wanna be responsible for someone else’s kids either. I never wanted to date a woman with kids, but I kinda think this is worse than dating a single mom.

So please tell me. Am I selfish? Or is she?

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLFkVtav/

of course men are gonna say friendzoned and women are gonna say fuckedzoned. but then again I dont see anything wrong with getting fuckedzone because at least you got to do something intimate and romantic with that person you were interested in.

when you get friendzoned in the other hand that person literally dogged you 100%. they didn't even give you an opportunity to share any sort of warmth and intimacy with them.

till then I dont know what the bimbo above in that TikTok video is talking about and I think she's being a total selfish bitch by claiming that women are doing something "positive" to the guy they friendzoned but suddenly acts like a victim towards of women getting fuckedzone because supposedly they lost a "friend" in the process.

like wtf? if I'm gonna have a "friend" I want to be a real friend to that person and do things and help him/her out like real friends do. not just tell that person "yes we are friends" but never allowing ourselves in each other's lives