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Is the belief or ideals of Monogamy inherently toxic?

For example Hollywood ideals we have come to know such as true love and soulmates demand both partners to be perfect for the entire marriage or relationship! Or otherwise it was never true love!

When we all know that human beings are inherently imperfect creatures, make lots of mistakes, and grow and change as person over time including our interests and dislikes.

Jealousy, suspicion, and mistrust is a huge part of monogamy! even though they will never admit it they will always have some doubt in the back of their heads. Why were they nice to x person or say x to that person or act in x way.

There are so many stipulation to marriage such as limiting interactions with the opposite sex, obligatory huge expensive weddings, obligatory expensive wedding ring, obligatory children, etc. etc.

If by some chance you are both miserable, divorce is a taboo and frowned upon and you are forced to stay with a person you hate for the rest of your life! And if you do get a divorce both partners fight tooth and nail to get as much from the other as possible and get control of the kids. etc. etc.

What do you guys think? Is it fair to trap a person to be with you for your entire life for your own selfish desires, beliefs, or insecurities?

What is wrong with loving every human being instead of being forced to just be with one for your entire life?

Hey. Honestly.. I'm starting to become less of a fan of this marriage between my mom and stepdad.

Idk…it's starting to seem more fake every day. I'm a fan of authentic relationships that share much of the same values.

These two are completely different people with almost completely different beliefs. One loves minorities, cares about the suffrage of Palestinians, loves Muslims. The other barely tolerates minorities (doesn't really care about them), is a huge Bible thumper, and he allegedly dislikes Muslims.

I think had my mom been with any other person, this would not be a problem. But I'm starting to get more worried. My brother, who is only 12yo, is literally calling other players on Roblox "monkeys", "h*mos", and sometimes even "n–––er" (I've actually heard him say that at least a couple of times). I never would have used such language.

My brother makes a mistake or even asks a random question about food, his dad reacts as if he's made a terrorist threat. But my mom is usually gentle on him, though there are times when she has to go along with his dad.

Edit for more info: I'm 23 going on 24 (also a male), and both parents are around 50.