We've been together for 2 years and our relationship has been facing lots of problems from the very start due to which I have not been able to feel emotionally secure. Like he has flirted with random girls behind my back , told me I wasted his time , told me he doesn't love me as much as I do, also told me that he will be okay with/without me, slapped me for silly reasons and didn't apologize for it, etc. He also has compared me to his exes physically and said that if he won't be satisfied by me he will sleep around.
He gives me the vibes like everything is important for him except me. So due to these issues I have not been able to feel emotionally secure in this relationship. I feel like I won't be happy even if I get married to him. I have discussed these things with him and he says everything will be ok after marriage and right now everything Is. In my head I'm just overthinking things.
So I suggested us to go to the therapist and figure out problems but he said " if we have to go to the therapist why should we marry?". After that he just shut himself up , switched off the phone and went offline from everywhere. Guys what can I do now? How should I reach to him? Help me guys
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Damn, that sounds messed up. Your girlfriend is right to be worried about all that stuff. No girl deserves to be treated like that.
Honestly it seems like your relationship has some major issues that therapy could really help with. It was a good idea of her to suggest it. But going dark like that is never cool - it just avoids dealing with the problems.
I'd give him some space for now since he's upset, but try talking to him one more time face to face. Let him know how serious you are about making things better. Going to therapy doesn't mean the relationship is doomed - it means you're both willing to put in the work to fix it.
If he still refuses, you gotta think about what's best for your girl. No one should have to live in fear of their partner. At a certain point you need to stand up for her happiness too. Just really weigh all the options here before deciding. But don't ignore big problems - they'll only get worse over time. I hope he comes around, good luck!
it’s pretty common for couples to go to a therapist. kind of shows commitment and willingness. from what you described, it sounds a lot like the relationship doesn’t meet your needs. are you clear on what they are? focus on them and see if the relationship meets them. try the therapist if you wish. if he shut you out, i don’t think you should reach out at all. that’s his job now. that’s what i’d tell you if you were my little sister.
also he sounds awful
ermmmm why you still with him? he cheats, he hits you, and he abuses you mentally? like why are you sticking with such a twat of a human being?