Should I Wait six years to get married?

[Emilyqew]

My boyfriend of almost two years has a good job, a nice place and we have a great life together. We are planning to move in together next year. I grew up religious and the fact I am moving in with him before marriage is astonishing and shows how much I love him. But when the topic of marriage is brought up he says 6 years. He is in his mid 20’s and now has a great job many would die for. We get along great! Our politics, faith in God and everything line up. It’s just the one thing marriage. He knows I want to be married and it breaks my heart knowing i will have to wait six years to marry the love of my life, being with him these past two years has been wonderful and I feel fully committed. He has said that if I left him for wanting to wait six years to get married it would be wrong. But it feels he is only thinking about himself and not what I wsnt. He wants to make more money and get more settled in his career which I understand, but couldn’t we do that married? I am not getting any younger. He wants to marry me, have a future with me and have kids in the future. It’s just going to be a long time. Do I waste these years unmarried or what should I do?

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, that's a tough situation. I can understand why you want to get married asap since you know he's the one. But I also get where he's coming from wanting to get his career in a good spot first. A few thoughts:

- Talk to him again about compromising - maybe in 3 years instead of 6? Meet halfway to make you both happy.

- Remind him that being married doesn't have to hold you back financially. Lots of successful couples build their lives together as spouses.

- If he's not budging on the timeline, you have to ask yourself if you're okay waiting potentially years without that commitment. Only you know.

- Could moving in together for now show him you're serious relationship material without legally marrying yet? Might make the wait easier.

- At end of day you both need to be fully happy with any decisions made. Don't settle if deep down you'll regret it.

This is tough sis but your happiness is what matters most. I hope you guys can find a solution that works for both of you! And know that whatever happens, you've got your friends here for support always. Keep your head up!

[bededazzle]

well, compromise can be important in a marriage. it seems to me a compromise would be appropriate in this case too. after you get married, he may put his foot down like this more. where does he get the specific number 6 from?

[boggboss]

If u would see waiting a wasting of your years just end things

[Tharithi]

How old are u both exactly

[ThrillSeeker01]

No, that would be a deal breaker for me.