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So I am in an exklusive dating with a guy who is 30 and I am 22. We ve been dating since October 2024.

I feel like there are some issues between us and also there are some problems on my part that I feel like may cause this relationship to end.

A month ago, I asked how he feels about me and if we could be girlfriend and boyfriend, but he said he is not read.

He says he likes me, and we do go on some dates every time we meet. But I feel like he is mostly interested in sex. Why do things that are done in a relationship but not want to have a relationship? Is it commitment issues or he just doesn't love me?

by the way we live in different cities so we visit each other. Like taking turns.

I want to love and to be loved deeply, but I feel like he does not love me and my feeling for him are decreasing, maybe because I am dissapointed. And for me, feelings is what makes me continue a relationship, which mean it's more important for me than sex.

I feel so insecure because of a lot of things

- that he does not show enough care. For example when he talks about his problems, I pay attention, care for him and solve them together. But when I talk about my problems, he just say it's gonna be alright and good night. No more comfort/care or whatever.

- he forgot my birthday

- I feel like he just is dating me as a second option just because other girls have not chosen him

- that my university grades are not so great right now and my family use me now and then.

- a lot of things has happened lately that makes me question myself, my relationship and my family. I see negativity more that positivity. I don't know if I am starting to become depressed.

I am a bit naive I guess.

I am thinking if I should break up with him because I don't feel loved the way I want or if I just should wait and see how it goes first and then decide.

I am also tired of dating and relationship that waste my time and feelings. I am tired of being used just for being kind. People treat me as an idiot and naive.

Me and my cousin are of same age and ever since we were kids, we would always be together in everything. play, fight, eat, sleep everything. we knew eachother's secrets and always had eachothers back. We would call eachother everyday to update what's happening and how our day went. suddenly from last 10-ish months he began avoiding me. no calls, no texts, no replies... but he would put on insta stories and call my father, but not to me. This really hurt me knowing that we both are legit like BFF'S that our entire relatives loved. So i asked him in a huge para about how horrible I'm feeling. all he said was he has a girlfriend and the only condition she kept for him was, him not talking with me or talk about me (she knew about me cuz he told her about me). I really don't want to keep my ego infront of me and kick him out of my life but also don't wanna loose my self-respect. I really love him (ofc not in anyother way) and ik he too. But do you think he did the right thing? And would you do the same if you were in his shoes?
Also let me know, what should I do?