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I was talking to a girl a few years ago. She was really interested in me and wanted a relationship. I kind of pushed her away because of things I was dealing with. It definitely seemed like a rejection from her viewpoint. I always felt awful about rejecting her, so I apologized and told her what I was thinking. I said it was my fault and she didn't do anything wrong, and that she is great. I told her it was my anxiety and depression and I didn't handle it well and I didn't want to reject her. I owned up to everything, took full blame and shared what I never was comfortable sharing with anyone. Her response was to ignore my apology and then post a picture of her all Dolled up trying to look as good as possible. Her hair done, makeup, trying to look like an Instagram model. She doesn't always post pictures like this, so the timing felt intentional. My impression of it was like a, hey, I'm great this is what you're missing type of thing.

Noone owes anyone forgiveness, but I am put off by this response. I went from feeling sad I hurt her feelings to feeling grossed out by her character. I told her she was great, and it was my anxiety and depression, and she responded like I had rejected her. I don't know, no response at all would have been one thing. But to kind of rub it in someone's face with a "Screw you im the bomb" post after someone talks about dealing with depression. That seems kind of messed up to me.

Where do you stand? Noone owes forgiveness or her response was a red flag?

We have been together for 2 years. She is 30 and I'm 34. I had a previous relationship in which I had sex basically twice a day or once a day and it made me feel satisfied. But in my current relationship we only have sex about once a week and it is absolutely been killing me for the past year. I have tried so hard to make it more romantic and watch a movie or go out together, give her all the space she needs and wants. But it just never really got better for longer than a few days.

I’ve tried to talk to her about it but she has such dumb excuses n lies every time. She even used to be an escort. An even bigger red flag 🚩

Even though she doesn’t want sex. She still wants to spend all her time with me. For example, she wants to go everywhere together, and cuddle n kiss each other to sleep every night. She even tells me “I love you” multiple times every hour and wants to be affectionate. She even wants me to text her regularly and keep my Snapchat location on so she can see where I am. She also gets jealous when I speak to other women.

But mostly says no when it comes to sex. I love her but I can't handle this for the rest of my life to be honest. I broke up with her before and she was really sad. I took her back and she was crazy sexually submissive, but again it was only for a few days.

We are on vacation in Chicago at the moment. We came here for her family reunion. When we come home I’m gonna get rid of her permanently. I have therapy appointments already set up to cope with the coming break up. Should I tell her the reason or just let her go?