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A commonly recurring question on this site is: "I discovered that my best friend's wife/whatever is cheatong on him. Should I tell him?"

My initial thought is that your best friend may not believe you and simply get angry at you for telling "such wild stories." And if that happens, you will probably lose your best friend, because. . . people don't want to hear what they don't want to hear, until they're ready to hear it.

So, if your best friend came to you and said that he saw your partner passionately kissing someone else in a place where they perhaps thought they would not be discovered, do you think you would believe it or tell your best friend to GTFO and don't ever come back?

I’m just wondering and would like to see the consensus here given insults can be seen as abusive in a relationship but cheating is also insulting to the partner who was cheated on.

Is it not okay at all? Is there room for context here, I would assume it is somewhat acceptable because it causes lots of confusion and sporadic feelings and especially when its fresh, is it more acceptable if your married, is it more acceptable when you find out years later, is it more acceptable if you find out through rumours, is it more acceptable if you found out in person, is it more acceptable if they told you to leave so they could finish and came back the next day asking for you back, is it more acceptable if you have a family together, is it acceptable if you keep finding out more secrets (maybe it’s been happening from the start, maybe it’s the person who popped there cherry, maybe it’s your best friend, maybe they got pregnant etc.)? If you think it’s okay, is there a time limit to stop hurling the insults, is trauma an acceptable excuse to continually do it or should there be a set grace period where said parter is allowed to blow there feelings up after being cheated on.

Sorry, messy question but I really wanna know what both men and women think about this and I don’t condone abuse, physical, emotional, sexual or physiological but I really wanted to ask this question. . how different the opinion here is and the general consensus if insults or the word “Whore” should ever be given to a cheating partner if you stay together. Please comment and give me you opinion and thank you very much!!