If your best friend told you that your spouse/SO/girlfriend/main squeeze was cheating on you. . . would you believe it?

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A commonly recurring question on this site is: "I discovered that my best friend's wife/whatever is cheatong on him. Should I tell him?"

My initial thought is that your best friend may not believe you and simply get angry at you for telling "such wild stories." And if that happens, you will probably lose your best friend, because. . . people don't want to hear what they don't want to hear, until they're ready to hear it.

So, if your best friend came to you and said that he saw your partner passionately kissing someone else in a place where they perhaps thought they would not be discovered, do you think you would believe it or tell your best friend to GTFO and don't ever come back?

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

if this is coming from my best friends, then I would have to consider what they say, yes...

and they would also have to show me all of the details about what they actually know and the things they don't know... and then I would have to talk it out with my partner...

no assumptions of it whether it is true or false, would just be something that I would have to talk through, with everyone involved

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

I would believe my friend, but would also want to verify it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

no. she often likes trying to make my life miserable just by doing and saying other things. her sister told me that she hated that her sister wore a crop top because she couldn't because she is overweight. so... i don't trust her judgement. she's very spiteful.

desperatelyhungry · Accepted Answer

Yes I would but I’m sure if actually in that situation if your so has never given you a reason to distrust them it would make it very difficult

Finchie40 · Answer

If it’s my best friend then yes I would Tell them the truth , I would even take pictures to prove it to them that I witnessed it with my own eyes

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I would consider it because I trust my best friends.

I would for sure raise the topic with my partner and ask about his feelings/opinions.

The rest depends on it. I can learn the truth from my partner (cheating/misunderstanding) or be left in the void of assumptions. My relationships were always based on trust, so a lot was needed to convince me that my partner was lying to me.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I would believe him yeah because I know he wouldn't lie to me about something like that. But I'd still want to verify it for myself just to make sure because it's always possible that he just saw a situation and misunderstood it. As that can happen sometimes.

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

Voted D. It's the most reasonable course of action. I love my wife, but I'm not stupid. I would want proof before confronting her and open that can of worms.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Trust but verify. If a claim like that is being made, I want dead to rights evidence of it.

strateguy632 · Answer

if i was already suspicious then i would believe but if i assumed loyal i wouldn't believe.

exitseven · Answer

I would believe it enough that I would check it out myself.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I would accept it as the truth and do my own investigation.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I'd believe it. We have been best friends since 1999 and we look out for each other like good siblings would.

worldscolide · Answer

I would need very strong and photographic evidence. I truet my wife implicitly.

Guido · Answer

It would never be a problem as I know without a doubt that my wife would never cheat. I'm more than she can handle and she let's me know it.

Starrrboy · Answer

Since they're my best friend , I would take it into consideration and investigate it myself..

Likes2drive · Answer

I would believe them but would have see for myself

Anonymous · Answer

Well yeah because it happened to me. Not my best friend but a good friend. And he was right.

RavenLoverEndeavour · Answer

I would speak to my partner as people deliberately LIE to ruin relationships!!!

Unit1 · Answer

I treat it as a rumor but not to be dismissed as a rumor. As such it would need further investigations. Hard Evidence would be useful.

msc545 · Answer

I would investigate further.

Liketotry · Answer

I would check it out further

Agape93 · Answer

Absolutely

Massageman · Answer

Hardly.

If your best friend told you that your spouse/SO/girlfriend/main squeeze was cheating on you. . . would you believe it?

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I would accept it as the truth and do my own investigation.