All my life I was nice. I was so nice and sweet that I always throw myself to help people, have sympathy even for those who don’t deserve it and I was taught to be nice and sweet. I thought that me being nice and sweet will make people like me. I was WRONG. One time my friends and I were play fighting and people picked partners. Nobody picked me. I asked why wasn’t I just asked to join and I could be in a fighting match. My friends including my best friends laughed. I got confused and asked why they’re laughing. One of my guys said, “You in a fighting match? Yeah right. You don’t even have the hands to fight.” Even my best friend said, “Girl no offense, but you’re a doormat. A useless doormat that complains about not getting respect when you do nothing about it. You wouldn’t even last a minute fighting ring.” I can so! Another friend said, “You’re too nice for your own good that you don’t care about your self respect. You don’t have a backbone and and you’re very weak.” I wouldn’t believe what they just say that. My family doesn’t believe I can fight because they know how nice I am and I get taken advantage of, I’m naive and let people pushed around. My dad is very frustrated with me, got in my face and said, “See this is you will end up in an abusive relationship. Quit being so damn weak! It’s bad enough having a daughter, a young woman that can’t even stand up for herself and what are you representing to these young girls that are looking up to you?” I said I would kick their buts and throw them out, then my dad cut me off and said, “No you won’t. You’re just going to let people walk all over you. Like you always do.” My older sister said, “You don’t expect people to believe that, do you? Nobody is going to believe you. You’re too nice to put your foot down.”
How can I make people believe I can fight back?
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Well first get rid of those friends
Even if you were there's a way to say it and they said it completely disrespectful
And they said it because they don't respect yo ass
But with that being said , if everyone's saying it. It could be true
As far as what to do about it
It's simple, stop letting people walk over you. Firstly don't let people talk to you. Not even your dad. If you gotta argue with the mu fucka then do it. Because to me they were out of line as far as the delivery. Perhaps your dad said it in a way coming from him being worried but it's still not the way to do it.
If someone says some bullshit to you confront them. I'm not saying fight them or anything but definitely don't let them get away with it without even at least SAYING something
It's good to be nice and gmhavr a good heart but if you have it tooo much, that's when you start to let people take advantage of you. Which is where you're at
Also don't keep giving people multiple chances. If they do you wrong, let them know. Or just cut them off. If they ask why. You tell them exactly why.