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Don't Take No Crap Off Of Nobody.😶👊🏽

Don't Take No Crap Off Of Nobody.😶👊🏽


This goes out to ANNYYYONNEE who has a hater and still lives their life holding their shit together. This gif is for YOU, because you are a #BADASS 😎👊🏽


Don't Take No Crap Off Of Nobody.😶👊🏽


Also,


IN B4 THE GRAMMAR NAZIS: as an English major, yes I am aware of the double negative. The title is intended to draw attention, and because I LOVE Cool Runnings! Sorry for ruining your fun lol.😇



I decided to create a mytake about critics and being on the receiving end of criticism, because frankly, some shit needs to be cleared up.



So you know you have 2 types: Positive [constructive]➕ and Negative [destructive]➖.


Positive aims to build you up, negative to tear you down. Simple.



In my view, it goes like this:



Positive criticism is something you should accept and consider, whether you like it or not. Negative criticism should never be absorbed. Ever. It will eat away at your thoughts until you start to believe it.



Where the Lines Blur.


The problem A LOT of people have though, is wording their criticism. It leads to a few issues such as these:



- You can have good intentions, but come off a complete asshole.


- You can be trying to send out a good message, but intertwine that with personal attacks to get your point across.


- You can be comparing that person to yourself or other people to make your point.


- You criticise based on assumptions and not things you can confidently say you know to be true.


- Criticism is based upon a judgement.


- Criticism is based on jealousy, resentment, hate, hurt, betrayal.


- When you criticise someone's present mistake by recalling their past.


- When you attribute a person's flaws to who they are and who they will become as a person.


- 'Positive' criticism saturated with negative language.



aaaand so on. #hatersgonnahate


Don't Take No Crap Off Of Nobody.😶👊🏽


Let's get some things straight:


1. When someone decides to stand up for themselves, it doesn't mean they can't take criticism.


2. When someone responds to your negative criticism just as negatively, don't be fucking surprised.


3. When someone ignores your criticism, it doesn't mean they have nothing to say to you.


4. If you want a civil response, be a civil critic.



Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that dealing with criticism is an easy thing. We all fall short of it sometimes, and I'm putting myself up first. Sometimes I fire back when I shouldn't, and sometimes I don't fire back when I probably should. It happens. Lol, we're human goddamnit. The important part though, like anything in life, is harnessing your mistakes and working on them to improve yourself.



If I were to give 5 Keys To Better Dealing With Criticism, I'd list them like this [I'm sorry, I realise this is my 3rd list in this take lol, but it helps me think]:


1. Stand your ground, but don't be ignorant.


2. Remain civil. Don't be crass.


3. Silence is golden- not every criticism is worthy of a response.


4. If you don't know them, don't judge them.


5. Don't be afraid to be controversial. You shine.



"To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing."



- Elbert Hubbard



The TL;DR:


Increase your self- awareness when it comes to the words you say. Once it comes out, you can't take it back. Yes it's more effort. Yes you have to think. Yes you need to consider the feelings of the person you're talking to, but if you want to improve your overall strength of character, you will thank yourself for it.


Don't Take No Crap Off Of Nobody.😶👊🏽


#prodbyHB - P.S: I miss you. 🐻



~j.B🍌

Don't Take No Crap Off Of Nobody.😶👊🏽
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