To Breastfeed In Public Or Not To Breastfeed In Public, That Is The Question (Page 3)

[106473]

Do its natural but still be aware of where you're at.

[Anonymous]

I suppose if so many people are against it it is quite an antagonistic thing to do in public.

[mutedaisy]

Americans are generally stupid...

[SüßeJäger]

Why not, just cover up.

[cpzpbx3]

How often do you enjoy eating with a blanket covering your head?

[SüßeJäger]

@cpzpbx3 I don't enjoy being swaddled, carried, constantly covered in blankets, pooping my pants but I'm not a baby. Why is it such a bad thing to cover up? There's little kids around, teenage boys etc. Breast feeding is a beautiful thing but it is kinda a private, intimate moment with mom and baby, is it not?

[cpzpbx3]

Have you ever tried to cover a baby's head while they eat? Because I have. My son hated it. He cried, pulled at the cover, and refused to even latch until I took it off. Meanwhile, I'd pissed him off so bad and made him cry so loud that I drew WAY more attention to myself than I would have if I had just quietly and nonchalantly fed him and gotten it over with. No one can see anything anyway, the baby covers the nipple and most of the breast. Covers and blankets just aren't an option for everyone. Assuming that a baby won't mind being smothered while they try to eat is ridiculous. Some will allow it, but certainly not all.

[SüßeJäger]

@cpzpbx3 I never said or assumed one size fits all. I'm sure there's babies that are the opposite and want to be covered while eating. My daughter didn't have a problem being covered while breastfeeding. Assuming a baby hates to be covered while feeding is ridiculous too. Why can't there be middle ground that respects everyone involved? There's breast feeding rooms all over where I live, they're a great idea. It's private for everyone, especially if the mom is very modest like mine was, there's a quiet room and a room for crying babies. There's changing areas, diaper dispensers, paper towels, wipes everything you could imagine. We absolutely loved them. Is that an ok thing or is that terrible too?

[cpzpbx3]

I would love it if there was a special room for me to feed my child everywhere I went, but that just isn't the case. I make do with what I have. If I have to do it discreetly in a booth at a restaurant, then that's what I have to do. No one can actually see my tits, so I fail to see the issue.

I don't think all women should be expected to cover their babies just because some babies don't mind it. I literally said not all babies hate it, so I get that. But I felt guilty trying to do that to my son, he acted like I was trying to kill him. I never did it again. I don't see why people can't just get over it. It doesn't hurt anyone, and it's hardly obscene.

[cpzpbx3]

I don't know where you live, but I've never been to a place that had breastfeeding rooms. I wish they had them all over. They just dont.

[SüßeJäger]

@cpzpbx3 true, they don't have them everywhere but it's a possibility. I don't think it's obscene but sometimes, in some places showing a breast wouldn't be a good idea, not that you do or are. I live in Idaho and there's lots of Mormons and family oriented people. It's very family and baby oriented. Families with 5-88 kids are common.

[SüßeJäger]

*5-8 kids*

[cpzpbx3]

Family oriented people should understand more than anyone. A mother who has nursed 8 kids isn't seeing anything new if she sees me do it lol. Nursing isn't "showing your breast" anyway, because you really can't even see it. People are so thin-skinned about stuff that really isn't offensive, yet so immune to things that should be. It's crazy to me, that's all.

[SüßeJäger]

@cpzpbx3 I'm not offended by it and I don't think really anyone would be I'm just saying, there's some places that it's probably not a good idea. I know there's nothing to see and of course a mother with 8 kids is going to know how it works. Nobody is thin skinned about it. If you're somewhere you're pretty sure it might make someone uncomfortable (not offended or angry) why not just be courteous and cover up or go to another room or whatever. You don't have to be defensive or angry. Why is it bad to be courteous and think of others? I'm sure there's many places nobody is gonna care but it's good to think of others first and it's good for them to think of you first too. Do unto others, you know? I think we're on the same side just misunderstanding each other a little. I don't want to offend you or belittle your situation. If I was just me in a place, I'd say knock yourself out. If you need some help, just holler. I'm not thin skinned at all and I'm not shy or easily embarrassed.

[cpzpbx3]

The thing is, you never know who is going to be offended and who isn't. I am courteous when I can be, but I'm not going to spend my life walking on eggshells because someone may or may not be offended, either. I don't like seeing people chew their nails--it actually makes me gag--but it would be silly for me to expect total strangers to consider my potential feelings when they carry out their habit. So I simply don't look, because I don't like it.

[cpzpbx3]

I feel like people could treat nursing mothers the same way. If you are bothered by it, look away. I don't do it because "fuck everyone else" (just like that probably isn't the mindset of the guy biting his nails), I do it because it's convenient for myself and my child. You can't please everyone all the time. I don't live to please strangers, either. Courtesy is not cutting people off while you're driving, not intentionally getting in line in front of someone who was there before you, using a turn signal... things like that. But I won't modify a behavior that doesn't directly hurt anyone else just because someone may not want to see it, when it is much easier for them to just look away and leave myself and my child alone. You know? I leave other people alone. Why can't people show me the same courtesy?

[cpzpbx3]

And I wasn't saying you are thin-skinned. But some people are. Like the same men who message me telling me how hot my profile pic is are the ones bitching about women nursing in public. Lol so they only like my tits when there is no baby attached to them, I guess. It's mind-boggling to me.

[SüßeJäger]

@cpzpbx3 I understand your point and it is good and valid. I don't think anyone would expect you to walk on egg shells around anyone. It's just that sometimes at some places it's probably for the best to do what you can. There is not any more noble or wonderful job on earth than motherhood and those who do it willingly deserve much more than one Sunday a year to celebrate it and be recognized. I agree too that society should be willing to cater to them rather than the other way around. I'm glad you're a mother and I'm sure you're an amazing one at that. I hope for and wish you the best. Everyone can give and be respected if they choose to be.

[cpzpbx3]

Oh I always do my best to be discreet. I make a point to not draw attention to myself. But sometimes it just isn't possible to go somewhere else or to cover up.
You're very sweet. I'm glad you could have a mature conversation about this. Some men really struggle with it. Guess they can't handle the fact that tits aren't just for their viewing pleasure (though of course they can be).

[SüßeJäger]

That's all I'm saying, do what you can to be discreet. At first, I was under the impression you were one of the types of people that intentionally tries to bring attention to yourself just to be controversial cuz you don't like how this issue is handled. All that does is harm their cause. I realize it's not always possible to have the best possible scenario all the time but I'm sure you do what you can do. Lol well most people aren't capable of having a mature convo and critically think about things and put themselves in another person's shoes and see it from their angle. Thank you for your compliments, you are a sweet young lady too. Tits are most certainly great for viewing pleasure haha. What's your first name?

[cpzpbx3]

No, I never go out of my way to make a spectacle of breastfeeding my child. That's why it irks me so bad when people go out of their way to bitch at me about it.
The only time I want my tits getting any attention is when there is no baby near or attached to them. In that case, I don't mind it lol
My first name is Charlot. Most people call me Charli though.

[SüßeJäger]

@cpzpbx3 I hope I didn't offend with that last statement. I didn't intend it to be offensive. I was pointing out how I was mistaken in that direction of thought. Nice to meet you Charlie, that's a cute nickname for a girl. I'm Landon.

[SüßeJäger]

*Charli* damn auto correct.

[cpzpbx3]

Oh, you didn't offend me. I'm not sure which statement you mean but none of it offended me lol. Nice to meet you. :)

[SnowHearth]

It's something natural, I breastfed my daughters.

[jacquesvol]

Nobody SHOULD care about it.

[danejones]

No problem... if somebody stares he is a jerk