How the Media Makes Men Seem Ugly When Compared to Women

[ADFSDF1996]

I've recently noticed the negative tendency that men are thought to be ugly compared to women. There are two possible explanations I think men are viewed as "ugly": One could be biological misfortune or it could be societal reasons, specifically the media. However, I don't think that biological misfortune has anything to do with it. I think it's the media only and I'll tell you why. When I say media I am referring to almost all of the media in the world. This mytake is similar to my first my take.

Almost every society in the world has made men seem like are the only ones that pursue in the media (movies, T.V. Shows, magazines etc). Drama shows men always ogling women and approaching women. The women are always depicted easily rejecting guys while saying cliche lines "ugh pervert". The women are also depicted as not ogling men or approaching men as if women don't find men physically attractive.

Sadly people pick up on that and tend to behave in a similar way in real life. I've witnessed women behave in a similar way in real life, you are probably thinking "but society is accurately depicting human behavior." I don't think so, because not everyone follows societal norms. I don't follow norms. The women that I know tell me that they do ogle men and check out men in the same way men check out women(see my first mytake), they don't follow societal norms either.

Another social norm seen a lot in the media is using the word "handsome" to describe attractive men and "beautiful", "gorgeous" and "pretty" to describe attractive women. Since I am a straight man, I'll never understand what "handsome" is suppose to look like, but it sure doesn't sound impressive. Sure every once in a while you hear a guy get called "pretty boy", but those guys usually have effeminate features(No offense). Pictured below is what many would say is handsome and beautiful.

The thing that disturbed me though, is that a lot of "straight" women tend to find women more attractive than men, they say they find women more "aesthetically attractive" but find men more sexually attractive. I think the reason is because women tend to be depicted in a seducing manner by society.

At first I thought, "wow, us men are definitely unfortunate that women aren't attracted to us." I would then think that straight women viewed men in the same perception us straight men viewed men. If you read some of my questions, you'll know I was worried because I thought that women were also unable to love men, I thought women only valued personality and that they didn't even care if the man was good looking. The media made me believe all of this for a a while.

In a very negative depiction, women are thought to be extremely attracted to powerful men, whether it be physical, political, social or all three. The man is usually depicted as unattractive and has women crawling to him and cuddling with him as he poses with some kind of weapon. I've had women tell me they find certain dictators attractive which I find hilarious.

Even though male "beauty" pageants exist(mister international), I heard that the audience is mostly gay men(Not saying there is anything wrong with gay people). I don't know if it's true but if it is, then I think the reason why is because women don't want to get negative labels. Hence why women don't watch the male "beauty" pageants.

I'm sure a lot of people think "men are visual creatures, while women aren't" I highly doubt it, all the women I know admit that they do lust after men. I think why they told me that is because they've known me for a while, therefore they trust me. Also a lot of the women that shared opinions on my questions admit they do care how a man's face and body looks. Of course some of them shared anonymous opinions.

Lastly, I know everyone is different. So I don't speak for everyone. Some people might behave like the way society says, but I know men aren't ugly and that men and women can be equally attractive. Since I am straight, that might be the reason why I don't understand what is so attractive about men, but I'm sure women do.

[HookingSwan]

yeah

precisely

I hate it when I hear people (espcially women) say that men are not attractive

Their beauty is of another kind... You gotta be a real woman to be able to appreciate it ;)

jokin a bit

But yeah, I find men beautiful too. And I am more attracted to men. so that must be cause i dont exactly find them ugly :P

[ADFSDF1996]

Even though you were joking, I still understand you.👍

[sixnineanon]

An average looking guy looks way better than an ugly woman. Gender is irrelevant as to how attractive someone is.

[chopper1977]

If you want men to be seen as an equally attractive gender, and I personally think men are, then YOU, MEN, need to equally objectify men in the media. Men for the most part are the ones who keep labeling themselves as more visual, and well, 'that's why we need porn, tits, and nude women in the movies we watch'. Men do this. Women participate in the nonsense and are also to blame. Quit throwing tits in every netflix original and assuming us women don't want to see a penis. Game of thrones... man directed, good example. More often than not when nude men are thrown in the mix it's for comedy purposes. I can guarantee you that if they made Jason Momoa strip off in the GOT shows, women would take notice. To get to the point, I think men have done this shit to themselves... how dare a women get hot and bothered from looking at a nude man. Want to be scene as 'not the ugly gender'? Then quit treating yourselves like you are.

[ADFSDF1996]

The problem is how the feminists like to be hypocritical about it. They get angry when men objectify women but assume it’s perfectly fine to objectify men.

To answer your question, most research indicates that men are indeed more visual than women when it comes to attraction. The sight of a scantly clad man isn’t going to get women sexually aroused.

[chopper1977]

Yeah and the research is skewed due to years and years of bullshit. Feminst say either objectify both or do not objectify period. Again, I hear women talk amongst ourselves... we don't mind nude men in film. What we do mind is seeing a completely nude woman, 4 or 5 sets of tits, and oh gee, a mans but.

[ADFSDF1996]

Sorry but feminism isn’t really helping all. What you are saying is that it’s okay to objectify men but it’s wrong to objectify women?

[chopper1977]

What I am saying, is that either objectify BOTH, or don't objectify at all. I agree that the feminist are whacked in the head. I used to refer to myself as a feminist, but that was prior to the feminist movement evolving into a massive pile of shit. What I mean by that, is that it is NOT EMPOWERING, for a woman to pose topless for a magazine. So called feminist have somehow turned stripping themselves off, as something grand and great. When in reality, they are objectifying themselves, and providing the masses with wanking off material. What's empowing, is a woman saying NO, I'm not going to be completely nude in this sex scene without the man also being completely nude.

[DRad123]

Yeah, this does seem to be (or at least has seemed to be) implicitly portrayed in some media as the reality of the matter. I think I used to be kind of manipulated by this when I was a lot younger (in a way, but not totally). It is nice to know the world is not always as stupid as it's made to seem.

[LogicBomber]

Any female who says men are ugly has forgotten that women need makeup.

[Polocrew]

I've only seen on here these nerds talking about how chicks aren't visual lol