Why Is It "We" Laugh When Men Are Physically Abused By Women?

[Stacyzee]

In a perfect world, neither man nor woman would feel the need to put their hands on one another. We would all be able to communicate effectively through our verbal speech and words.

When disagreement arises we'd walk away and realize exactly how much of our valuable time would have been wasted; if we stayed and allowed situations to escalate to a higher degree.

We as mankind live in a world, in which we sin.

We are in control of ourselves and how we handle the encounters we may face.

Why is it "we" laugh when a woman feels the need to put her hands on a man?

Why is it "we" sit back entertained by her vile behavior and scornful display?

Why is it "we" justify in our minds, that the reason she is hitting him is acceptable?

When a woman makes a scene with her inappropriate behavior, the reaction by onlookers is what can either fuel the event or distinguish it like a fire.

Unfortunately, in many circumstances no course of action is taken.

A woman putting her hands on a man is usually taken very lightly.

Why shouldn't it be?

After all, he's a man!

He's supposed to be powerful and strong.

He can take the blows of a woman? Can't he?

He should have enough self control to not defend himself,

because if he does only then will violence be wrong!

We will get involved.

We will attack him.

How dare he, not just stand back and deal with it!

Obscured thinking is what has allowed "us" to subconsciously become advocates in that violence against men is acceptable.

No one should hit any one!

One's gender is not the say in what is right or wrong.

A crime is a crime.

If he were to come forward with his story of abuse, his man hood would be in question.

He's crying about a woman putting her hands on him?

Well, he can't be so powerful and strong after all.

In fact, he's just a wimp!

Lets add to the shame he feels by de-masculinizing him before his very own eyes.

Lets give him reason to feel as if violence is acceptable because it comes from a woman.

Lets aid in this man not wanting to speak out and succumbing to the abuse.

The chain of events has rapidly begun to start,

When this man finally builds up enough courage to no longer take the abuse and leave,

this woman may go on and do the same to others.

She will not be stopped, because she lives in a society that blindly says her behavior is right!

Lets change this way of thinking.

Violence is violence.

It is wrong no matter one's gender.

[99percentangel]

This is a huge issue that we have in our society. I'm glad you brought it up. It's not supposed to be funny or acceptable when a man gets abused by a women. It's not alright! It's wrong like you said no matter the gender.

[Waffles731]

good take

[madhatters4]

agree 110%

i think our society has guided this belief. the idea that men should be dominant and therefore not be abused. and in the case where a man is abused people laugh at it feeling that the man must be weak or the woman must have a legitimate reason for being abusive... of course this is a wrong mindset

[hellionthesage]

Simple no one cares about men. Women are placed so high up on a pedestal that their actions go unquestioned clearly as the video showed people assume that the man deserved it because a woman would not do harm unless it was warrented. Except that is false. Women are more likely to abuse their spouses (and children) then men are and the reason is because quite simply they never get punished for it. Men are taught from child hood "your not allowed to hit girls" women are taught from child hood "your not allowed to be hit by boys" this creates a double standard. Women know that their will be no legal social or physical ramifications for attacking a man so that emboldens them to do so. Society then rationalizes the behavior by claiming that "well he is stronger and that's why he isn't allowed to protect himself" or "he is a man so he is tough she isn't strong enough to do "real" damage"(funny, apparently men are not people and thus do not bleed or feel pain). The reason is because men always have been disposable and women have always been protected, this means violence against men is exceptable and violence against women is not createing an extreme double standard. Sadly it will only be acknowledged if women talk about it, so thank you for brining it up.

[frecklejuice]

I think it's because when men get attacked by women, they don't consider it as " no big deal," just shake it off. If they report it, men are ridiculed and made fun of for being beaten up by a woman. That's why large number of rape and violence against men go unreported. More than 40% of domestic violence are committed by women against men (and remember, this is the number of REPORTED cases, so unreported cases would be far higher I would imagine). The problem is that men ridicule themselves. Men make fun of each other if they get hit by women. You see this on TV shows, movies, everywhere. Have you wondered why being kicked in the groin is considered "comical?"

There are also a large number of men who wouldn't defend themselves against women no matter what even when they're attacked. This is because hitting a woman is considered "unmanly" and "uncool." If a girl physically and verbally abuses a guy in public, bystanders generally won't interfere. They assume that the guy did something to deserve it. Then if the guy fires back, then all of a sudden, everyone freaks out. Men will be the ones who will interfere, and tell the guy that he needs to calm down. Now the guy became the bad person. Why do you think that is? There are men who will do anything to defend women, and such behavior further reinforces modern feminists' twisted delusion that only women can be victims. This kind of behavior shows you that men are victimizing themselves. They are the ones who are reinforcing double standards against themselves.

[atira]

Have you thought about why those men do that? Why they don't stand up for themselves but stand up for women all the time?

[Anonymous]

I do agree it's disgusting, and if somebody did that to my brothers... well, it's over for her. He can't hit them, but I will, and that will be worse for them.
Really though, it's just like that because of all the years of women being abused and literally not being allowed to leave him or get police help with it. It wasn't that long ago. The only thing I don't get is that if our generation has now grown a better society where we see violence as wrong, why have we gone backwards in accepting it against some people.
A man attacking a woman is wrong, a man attacking a man is wrong, but a woman attacking a man is funny because "haha look at the little woman trying to hurt him when he's stronger than her" it's ridiculous.

I've always used adults hitting kids or teens as an example of men hitting women, because the strength difference. A man could fuck up a woman easily. An adult could fuck up a kid easily. So I always say they should restrain the girl or push her away or get her in a lock, they don't need to hit her like she's a man, just like we'd all do if it were a teen or kid trying it when we know we could batter them... that being said, even though a kid is weaker than us, their hits can still hurt! Even my friends 1 year old hurts me sometimes... just like women with men, yea she might be weaker, but her hits can still hurt a man. People shouldn't laugh at it for that reason alone- he might just be stronger, yes, but that doesn't mean she doesn't hurt.

What a lot of people also fail to realise is that most often physical abuse doesn't come alone. It comes with mental abuse. How can we laugh at that? How can we laugh, when so many people who do leave an abusive partner, after their scars have healed live, sometimes forever, with mental scars.

[sovetskii13]

Great take. Good to see that there are other people who understand. I've been in this situation two times with the same girl in high school. I got slapped in front of several students. I just took it and said "What's your problem?". The next day she tells everyone that she beat me up. And a few jerks laugh at me later. The next day she tries to slap me again but I stopped her arm and pushed her back. Later that day a few students who saw that said "Why did you hit her? How could you hit her? That was so lame of you, etc.". If I'm attacked then I have the right to defend myself no matter if my attacker is a guy or a girl. I'm in danger so I need to defend myself. Unfortunately majority of our society doesn't understand that.

[BuchitaBuchys]

I agree with this take and don't condone violence.

I don't agree with these, but it explains why they don't take domestic abuse from women as from men:
- women are typically smaller than men. So they either find it funny like a child beating up an adult, or don't think she has the strength to hurt him.
- Most people I know from the hood come from homes that the father beat up the mother. My dad tried to kill my mom in front of me. And it strikes more nerve to see a woman getting beaten than a man, I'm not saying it's right, but it happens. So they're more likely to intervene if a woman is being abused. I have plenty of male friends who are like this.
- Many people will just let people get abused, and won't intervene regardless.
- men are typically seen as more aggressive and strong, some will think "he can defend himself".

It's wrong to let anyone suffer in my opinion. At least call the cops. Don't pull out a phone and laugh at them.

[AdamThomas]

Most people just don't see it as big of a problem because women aren't as strong as men, it's like being hit by a child, people just watch in shock, find it funny and think "little bastard". Thing is if you just stand there and take it, it still hurts. I've fought in muay Thai and boxing, I still wouldn't just stand there and allow anybody to beat me up. As for self defence, the biggest problem is that when men defend themselves all of a sudden people want to step in and save the woman from the man she's just been beating up, which makes no sense at all.

Anyway I've seen things like this happen in real life and after watching these I've always stepped in to cool the situation down. Every single time, even though the woman was very clearly the aggressor, they try to convince me that the guy is bullying them and not the other way around. One guy after I saved him told me the girl who was beating him up just beat up his friend the other day with a frying pan and split his face open.

[FakeName123]

I think part of it is biologically. Many people think since men are physically stronger - even the weakest of men is usually stronger than most women - he can handle himself.

In the past that was the case, but today we - as a progressed society - look down on violence, especially male on female violence. Thus guys don't dare to really defend themselves while our mindset is still in the primal state of "he could do it with ease". Thus a cognitive dissonance gets created and makes the violence from women towards men somewhat funny for many people.

[Jager66]

This is 100% spot on! Down with Gynocentrism in any form, be it Traditionalism, or Feminism, we need equality for all!

Slowly but surely things are changing,

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4BNxVAWcu7Q

[Prof_Don]

Most people will see a woman physically hitting a man and think "he can physically defend himself if he wanted".

Men in particular, will see a woman physically hitting a man, and not want to be put in a legally compromising situation, and just walk away. Combine that with the "he can physically defend himself if he had to", and unfortunately I can see why many men don't intervene.

Think about it. Why legally risk myself in a situation that has NOTHING to do with me by physically defending against this woman for another man, when 90% of the time he is the physically stronger one when they are both unarmed? He should defend himself!

[atira]

There's risk in a men defending himself. Defending yourself physically against a woman might get you arrested or socially outcast. That's why men rather do nothing just wait for the woman to stop.

[Prof_Don]

@atira if the man being attacked by a woman doesn't want to defend himself due to that risk, I'd be damned if *I* take that same risk for two strangers that I dont even know!

[chrisbigman]

I personally don't find it funny for anyone to abuse anyone. And men should not take the abuse. That doesn't mean they need to hit the woman - unless she keeps going at him and he needs to do something to protect himself. But under no circumstance should he "just take it".

"He can take the blows of a woman? Can't he?" - He shouldn't have to take it, and he shouldn't take it. And some women can hit rather hard. Which brings me to the next one...
"He should have enough self control to not defend himself" - Um, anyone who tells a man (or a woman) not to defend himself (or herself) - even against a woman is a moron. Any strike to a person can be devastating. Even if it's not immediate, they can become lasting effects down the road.

[martyfellow]

Good luck with changing the mindset about this. Feminist media dominance means it's getting worse, not better.

[madhatters4]

do you think it's just feminist media that bring about this behavior? perhaps some radical feminist feel this way and perpetuate the notion that a man being abused is laughable but i also think it's just a society thing. a society that for so long said men are the superior and dominant being and so the notion of a man being on the wrong side of an abusive relationship is somehow un-masculine

[martyfellow]

@madhatters4 Media is reluctant to talk about this in the first pace. When they do, they say it is minor compared to violence against women in every other sentence.

[madhatters4]

agree most media does do that. but again i don't know if we necessarily can blame this on media alone. perhaps to an extent but i think the greater issue is overcoming centuries old gender roles and the notion that men should be dominant and therefore a man who is abused by a woman is somehow a joke or less of a man

[martyfellow]

@madhatters4 Yes, that gender sterotyping does also play a big role. /But I think it's secondary compared to the media. In current times.

[genuinlysensitive]

@madhatters4 its not just the media its the lobbying groups that have politicians' ears. And they are not lobbying for "traditional values."

[sdistotallyme]

I agree. I had a random white trash woman physically assault me in a bar and try to get me to hit her so I would be thrown out and/or arrested. However according to feminists "the woman is never wrong"...

[Rcjh1987]

I would never laugh at something like that EVER, having been in a domestic violence relationship 4 years ago I'm constantly reminded of what happened, I've seen numerous videos of staged violence to see who would intervene with violence and every time it was a man abusing a woman every time someone stepped in, but not a single person stepped in when roles were reversed, and that is disgusting

[Rissyanne]

We shouldn't. A woman I work with was fighting with her husband. She picked up a knife and stabbed him. Barely missing his lung. The dumb guy covered for her and said it was an accident. A couple of months after that he was in the car with his daughter (not hers) about to drive away. She picks up a brick and smashes the windshield. Nothing was ever done.

[Kylesar]

"... Because if he does only then will violence be wrong!"

I love this part. I see it so damn much, the woman hitting and assaulting the man and no one bats an eye, but the moment the man hits back, all I hear is "violence isn't the answer."

Only when the man has to defend himself does "no one should hit anyone." When said at that context in that timing, they're STILL condemning the man

It's all bullshit and one of the reasons why women do it so much these days. They KNOW society's on their side. All they have to do is start crying and their natural born victim card activates, be it to police or people in public

[meatballs21]

Totally agree. There is a double standard. Unfortunately, it's deeply ingrained in society, supported by women who will abuse that privilege - they'll hit and hit knowing they won't face retribution, and if there is, they can cry and wail and become the victim.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SzfLVyNHJgQ

[LionlyRose]

hahaha oh man... one has to admit that guy looks like a pussy hahah

[JRICHARDS1996]

Thank you for finally saying what needed to be said for a long time. For the longest while, I was afraid that it was normal or even acceptable for women to use physical force against their husbands because I had observed it so much in the world around me. But seeing this Take has helped me to see that it is not normal nor acceptable to ever hit anyone regardless of their gender.

[Nothanks700]

Yes, it is immature and a silly way to try and resolve a dispute from either party. However, those people are not my relationship. If a woman beats a man, sorry but it is laughable. He should probably find another woman. A man beating a woman is much different because the woman often can not leave due to fear of being attacked or killed. Now the same can be said the either way, but much less often. Men can usually handle themselves against women physically, especially ones they are partnered with.

[hellionthesage]

That's incorrect. According to most studies women are far more likely to be verbally and physically abusive and are more likely to kill their significant other then a man. In fact its men who make up 80% of all violent crime victims and 70% of nonreciprocal domestic violence victims are male. So that's just incorrect. Further more men being able to "handle" being attacked by women is just an idiotic statement since its illegal and socially condemned for them to act while it is not for women thus preventing them from using their physical strength in the first place. Case in point Ray Rice who was condemned for defending himself against his abusive wife despite surveillance footage showing her attacking him several times before entering an elevator, again as they entered and then her lunging at him resulting in him finally defending himself. He had his contract terminated ie lost his job for defending himself against an abuser. So no, what you said is incorrect.

[Stephen775]

You must be a white knight

[Kylesar]

Severe white knight here
Have fun being a complete tool

[Nothanks700]

@Kylesar lol. First guy made valid points. The other two are just idiots m. "White night" what a dumb fucking term

[Kylesar]

Dumb doesn't make it invalid

With that comment you made, I'm definitely not the idiot here, and the other users seem to agree

You have no logic at all. I could've spent time disecting your idiotic comment, but the first guy said it all, and I don't want to repeat what's been said

[ADFSDF1996]

This is a great myrake, I'm glad people are starting to realize that men can be victims too. Better late than never. 24.media.tumblr.com/...m6s15wvpZ61ranhnao1_400.gif

[ADFSDF1996]

*mytake

[beebetree25]

Violence is violence. A woman should never hit a man, never belittle him or degrade them.

I respect men who can restrain themselves with women who are hostile like that..

But I believe respect goes both ways.. No guys shouldn't be slapping a woman around either.

Everyone just play nice.