The reason I am writing this take is that I am have a bit of a crisis in confidence at the moment. I was in my new crush's house the other day and I noticed all these pictures on the wall.
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I asked her about it and she said it was her "Real Man" wall. I was a bit confused, so I went to gym and asked my gym buddies who responded "Yeah, you are so buff, you are a real man to us". I was still unsure so I contacted my ex and she said "Don't worry, I loved your false tan and the way your body shone with lotion, I often wished my body was as smooth and hairless as yours, you are a real man to me". I was feeling a bit better but couldn't shake the insecurity so I went home to ask my grandma, if I was an alpha male. She said "I was her number one alpha male and a real man to her".
(1) The Introduction Was Just A Bit Of Fun:
It was basically just an observation that a lot of people who think they are alpha males spend an awful lot of time and energy telling people that they are alpha, who are they trying to convince us or themselves. For research purposes, I checked up the definition of an alpha male
The dominant male animal in a particular group.
A man tending to assume a dominant or domineering role in social or professional situations.
To me, that sounds very much like a leader. What do I think are the qualities a leader requires in human society. A person (male or female) who will act for the betterment of the group they are in charge of, in the short and long term even if it is at a personal cost to them. Being a leader is not a time for self aggrandisement or narcissistically stroking your own ego or expecting others to do so. Real leaders act, while egomaniacs talk about how great they are and how they will change things (when they finally stop talking about themselves). Real leaders don't need faint praise and fawning crowds to do the "Hard Yards", they do it for the team. Real leaders don't need to be noticed if their team or group or society is performing well.
(2) Confidence Can Be Exuded Not Preached:
To me, a quietly confident person is much more admirable than a braggart, who has to tell you how self confident they are. I, for one do not really care if I am alpha, beta, gamma, iota or chi. Most people will not care about the size of your manhood, how many girls you have slept with, how many beers you can drink before puking etc. If a girl turns you down, it is not because she is a lesbian or a feminist, she might just not be attracted to your personality, they could even think you are boring.
(3) Quiz Time:
I googled for a "How Alpha Are You?" questionnaire on the internet and did it seriously https://www.playbuzz.com/thisguyinc10/which-greek-symbol-is-your-personality . The results for me are an owl and a PSI/beta personality which I am very happy with.
You got PSI. A PSI personality is one that is contemplative and soft-spoken. Like a beta you are introverted and unassuming. You enjoy cognitive recreations like reading or puzzles. Nothing about you wants to be the center of attention. You are content letting the other more dominant personalities play out their social politics while you stay on the sidelines and enjoy your alone time. When you do socialize you are drawn to likeminded softer personalities, however when a more dominant personality befriends you, you value that friendship greatly as it is as window to the more sociable side you rarely see.
I am glad I got that result because my definition of alpha might be different to the quiz's, I could see myself being a good leader. I think I am finding fault with society's current definition of "alpha" and somehow it has become intermingled with good leadership qualities which I believe to be false. In the current conditions, these guys would probably score "alpha" and therefore be good candidates for leadership positions.
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I think I am advancing the theory that all the show in the world will not make you a good leader. I am looking for leaders that will provide a positive, constructive example for future generations.
Thanks for reading.
* This take is for the #BATTLEROYALE contest.