As the eldest daughter of three, and living in a modern-day wog home, I wouldn't say I've had the hardest time being allowed out, but having a boyfriend was a completely different situation.
Being 18 years old, up until recently I have never had a boyfriend, mostly because of parental rules. I have been "protected" or so they say. When I try bringing up that they in fact got together at my age, my mum says "times were different" and I feel like saying how? HOW? The guy still had a dick and needs, and the female still had a vagina and was able to fill those needs. How is it different?
I completely understand they want what's best for us, but is it really best for us, to be shut out from the world and then all of a sudden, when its time to grow up, throw us into the cold water?
As I was saying I have recently found myself in a relationship, but I must keep this a secret because a) my mum is so awkward to talk about guys with and doesn't understand that I have needs (yes, sexual needs too but not exactly what I'm implying here). b) my dad is SUPER strict and is a no-go.
We teenagers crave the feeling to be wanted, needed, especially by someone of whom we are attracted to. If parents understood this, and encouraged healthy relationships instead of saying no (and we have to go behind their backs) then it would be sooo much easier for us!
I'm not at all saying, allow me to bring him in my bedroom, lock the door and kaboom...not at all. But by allowing us to have a place where we can be together encourages a healthy relationship and reduces the risk of us doing things we would regret.
So to all the parents out there, no matter how much of a good child your daughter or son is, needs are needs and I can almost guarantee you, if you don't stop for a minute, realize they are growing up and treat them like an adult, they will go behind your back (once again, not talking about sex explicitly but talking about romantic relationships).
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