#Metoo Movement is Finally Changing the Way People Think

[Political_dude]

It’s been 12 years since #MeToo started. In 2006, activist Tarana Burke launched the #MeToo movement which encourages women to show solidarity with each other, specifically when it comes to sexual harassment. The hashtag that represents the social cause went viral in 2017 when Alyssa Milano used it in support of friend Rose McGowan's allegations of sexual harassment against Harvey Weinstein.

Here’s the first tweet of #MeToo campaign:

If you’ve been sexually harassed or assaulted write ‘me too’ as a reply to this tweet. pic.twitter.com/k2oeCiUf9n

— Alyssa Milano (@Alyssa_Milano) October 15, 2017

#MeToo went viral on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram and even become mainstream. Well of course if you’re doing something good then haters going to hate. Not every accusation made through #MeToo movement is false. I agree many attention seekers got involved and hence accused some celebrities falsely (maybe some are true) but I believe the majority are telling the truth and not even disclosing names of the assaulters.

I decided to write this take since whopping 39 percent of G@G users argued that "#MeToo makes no difference in real life.

Did this hashtag make any difference in real life? The answer is YES it did.

A study performed by MTV suggests that it might actually be doing its job, in terms of convincing young men to re-think their behaviors before they become the subject of yet another depressing, heart-breaking tweet.

MTV’s Insights Research department conducted a study of young male behavior late last year, polling 1,800 people about how #MeToo has affected the way they act and think.

Here’s what they found:

1.) It starts an important conversation, which is very important.

85 percent of young men think that sexual accusations start an important conversation. Rape and sexual assault is no joke. Taking about being assaulted sexually was a taboo in real life. #MeToo changed that fact and brought up this topic in the discussion of day to day life which needs to be taken seriously. Always remember, the revolution starts with conversation and discussion.

2.) Men are now afraid of women.

This is one of the obvious results we thought of. One in three men is confused what is sexual assault and what isn’t. Ansari’s case contributes to it as well. We’re much unsure than before and hence more precautious since hugging can be considered as an assault because of #MeToo movement.

3.) The #MeToo Movement Seems To Be Changing How People Date.

Forty percent of young men are saying the #MeToo movement has already changed the way they interact in potential romantic relationships. Clearly, the movement is promoting young people to reevaluate how they've traditionally thought about dating and sex. This challenges thought “If I paid for the date, she owes me sex” which is not true.

Source: http://www.mtvact.com/features/metoo

Those are the differences made by #MeToo movement. Did it change the way you think? Or did it affect your life in any way? Share below!

[madhatters4]

it didn't really change the way i think but i certainly respect the movement, the empowerment and the discourse it has created.

even those who find some reason to shame people for saying metoo at least they are talking about it which gives people a chance to give their perspective on all sides

[Wollu]

It certainly changed the life for women to the worse. Women will feel this backlash for many years to come. Their chances to get a job diminish. They lose the chance of being mentored by male senior employees and business owners. No man is to blame for his natural mating behaviour. Men do not blame women for theirs. But this is going to stop now. As we know, leftist and feminists are constantly up to destroy natural things. They want to change women and men alike just for the sake to prove their"influence". Normalising the odd behaviour of minorities while telling normal people to stop being normal. It's a grotesque, bizzarre situation. I'm happy not to live in one of those societies that are currently falling apart due to feminism and SJWs. Bye bye free world, welcome matriarchal tyranny.

[madhatters4]

@Wollu uh huh

[CHARismatic110]

I feel like there isn't one solid meaning of sexual harassment anymore. I feel like it's bringing awareness and making guys actually think now before acting, but I feel like the actual meaning is getting lost at the same time. If that makes sense.

[DamnMan]

It is.

[scooogy]

Let's just say I don't touch girls anymore.

[Gordo1970]

@scooogy Mate you can't even talk to them anymore

[scooogy]

@Gordo1970 yeah, their loss though.

[CHARismatic110]

@scooogy well you probably shouldn't have been randomly touching them any way lol

[scooogy]

@CHARismatic110 i had girls casually want to hug me, but I didn't even know them really.

[CHARismatic110]

@scooogy well if you aren't comfortable with it, then let them know.

[scooogy]

@CHARismatic110 i somehow blocked a girl off already, but on the other hand I sort of wish I ran into the girls who are viewed the same way most guys are, concerning the high sex drive.

[cherryphi82]

I won't say "Me, too."

Partially because most of you know that already.

But mostly because we shouldn't have to "out" ourselves as survivors.

Because men have *always* seen the gendered violence happening around them (and/or being perpetrated by them)—they just haven't done anything about it.

Because it shouldn't matter how many women, femmes, and gender neutral & non-conforming folk speak their truths.

Because it isn't about men seeing how many of us have been hurt; they've been seeing it for a long time.

Because it shouldn't be on our shoulders to speak up. It should be the men who are doing the emotional labor to combat gendered violence.

Because I know, deep down, it won't do anything. Men who need a certain threshold of survivors coming forward to "get it" will never get it.

Because the focus on victims and survivors—instead of their assailants and enablers—is something we need to change.

Because we've done enough. Now it's *your* turn.

@#3 -- Good! It should change the way we interact in potential romantic relationships!

[MlleCake]

I agree with your feelings about it also, and you make good points. That's why I kind of like the idea of #timesup, which is saying "you had enough time to realize this was a problem, now fix it.".

Unfortunately, because we still have men, even in this thread, trying to discredit people who have come forward, we still have to keep having this discussion about how common the problem is, and if it really matters. The dialogue needs to move beyond that to solutions, real ones.

[Guanfei]

You know who else saw it and didn't do a thing? Yep, all the celebrities who are now taking advantage of a trendy hashtag, but who knew before and didn't care unti they could gain something from it.
And you know what else is crap here? The fact that you consider men as evil people who all agree with rape and stuff, when they don't practice it themselves, while the vast majority of men never did anything wrong.
That's why that movement is doomed, sooner or later. It's just an anti-men movement leaded by people who knew but did nothing, and speaking to people who don't care about justice or even the victims, but only care about having a way to hate on men.

[cherryphi82]

@MlleCake I agree 100%.

[MlleCake]

@Guanfei One can be both angry at men for things that they do, and love men.

[Guanfei]

@MlleCake Except "men" don't do it. Claiming that all men are unknowingly some kind of harassers, rapists or whatever is the same as saying that black people are all criminal or muslims are all terrorists. This is the same level.
It's taking some exceptions and generalizing it. Not only that, but women can rape, harass and even assault too, so under that logic, all women should be considered as rapists and harassers.
This is just a men hating speech in the end. Because it doesn't acknowledge any men who would have been victim of it, and generalize it to all men while only a small fraction of them are concerned.
I won't follow a movement that exclude people and stay blind to some victims because of their sex, as well as trying to set up some kind of hate based on sex.

[Anonymous]

What the #MeToo movement has done is perpetuate the image of women as children who are incapable of being responsible for their own actions and choices.

It has sent the message that women do not have to say no, or call a cab and leave when they are uncomfortable, because it is the responsibility of men to read their non-verbal cues or risk having their careers publicly destroyed by women who hide behind anonymity.

It tells women they can sleep with powerful men in exchange for advancing their careers and then ruin those men whenever they please.

It sets the expectation that a man and woman can have a 100% consensual relationship and then she can publicly destroy his career at any point simply because he was in "position of power".

In true feminist style, it removes all responsibility from women and places it in its entirety on the shoulders of men.

Most of all, what the movement has done is further erode the already severely damaged relationship between men and women in the western word.

Well done, ladies. Well done.

[readywriter]

I am not sure I'm ready for your world where men fear women. And that women should ban together to go after someone they dislike. It seems everyone is innocent except these guys. This group of people seem to relish that someone is just accused of something. Evidence does not seem to apply.
I will no longer hire women. The risk of a angry women is too much. Will one of the men hug someone who has suffered a terrible loss and later be accused of sexual assault? Recently one of the accusations was about a man 30 some years ago had patted her shoulder. At the time he was comforting her. I coached youth girls basketball 8 -12. I shutter to think of all the times I patted some girl on the back and pulled some back who was in the wrong place. Much less when I took a girl aside so that the others would have to her me correct her or give her bad news. I will never coach girls again. I sure as hell won't take the church youth group out water skiing again. The number of tops that have flow off and I might have seen a little bare chest is surely a hanging offense. I haven't seen any of those horrible tramatised women who got ahead by having sex with a producer those that nasty money they made in the bad mans face. I suspect that many are quite happy the did what they did and where it led them. If women want me to jump on board with more than words they will have to start showing evidence or some kind of proof other than a 50 year old actress who didn't make it. I wonder if I can get my mom arrested. After all she would strip us boys and shower us down with the house after swimming in the creek. Of course we were 7 or 8. I've had it with everyone being a victim.

[Juxtapose]

It didn't seem to be like this when I was growing up. What is up with this victim cult lately?

[tek555_pessimist]

A lot of these movements have modified/changed the social contract somewhat. Is this a good or a bad thing? Depends who you ask. The deleterious effects of some of the listed things include:
i) Increased fear of females: people with genuine intentions less likely to approach female in most situations, due to perceived risk, especially in the current environment where increasingly minor things are viewed as sexual assault (which can actually detract from outrage/attention for more serious abuses)
ii) Increased risk of employing females: if an individual has the power to cause you to be fired easily and without evidence, that makes hiring them a much more difficult prospect.
iii) Greatly increased risk of any sexual contact: sex becomes a dangerous game when one partner can destroy the other's lives easily by making an accusation.
There are positive benefits:
i) Female may feel empowered/supported to make accusations and this can warn others of an unsafe environment
ii) Public discussion of beneficial changes to such environments and society as a whole is force to the fore.
Some are neutral:
i) Females have increasing power in business and personal relationships

[Being_a_good_Indian]

Mainstream Indian feminism has tended to focus on issues such as child marriage, sex-selective abortions and dowry-related violence. It saw sexuality only in terms of extraordinary forms of sexual violence against marginal women, such as rape of Dalit (formerly “untouchable”), tribal, or Muslim women, or those living in the country’s military zones such as Kashmir or the North East

Situation is changing in India. Just #Xenophobic #Media #Houses aren't Reporting. It's fault of Media Houses who are manipulating the facts.

A Closer Look at Rape Culture in India from the Perspective of Indian Man ↗

What is unique about this movement is that it is a multilayered struggle. It combines freedom from sexual oppression with freedom from caste, ethnic and religious oppression. It had become a #holistic #movement.

[Anonymous]

People taking advantage of a serious cause like #metoo to lie and get attention are inconsiderate, not thinking about the bad you're doing to the society, it happens maybe because people aren't taught to think about the society but just about self, though that thinking will end hurting yourself too because you're part of the society, maybe some people are destructive (for reasons) and they don't care about society instead they just want to see it ruined to have everyone on their same level of misery...
Don't let bad thinking from others ruin good things, please everyone be considerate of your actions 🆗

[Political_dude]

Exactly! But not everyone understands that!

[Toad-1]

not just lie and get attention but using it to ruin peoples lives they don't like. thats dangerous

[Opinion Owner]

@Toad-1 yes really dangerous

[MlleCake]

I'd like to know exactly who has been lied about, so far, that any of you know of, coming out of the #metoo movement?

[Opinion Owner]

My opinion is a little bit general about good causes ruined by mischievousness, I don't know if anyone lied but I hope nope

[MlleCake]

@Plumy, just so you know, whenever this discussion comes up, it is not necessary to point out that some false claims are made. Everyone knows they do happen, but they are actually pretty rare, so constantly taking the dialogue about sexual harassment, abuse and rape over into the "but what about the false claims" discussion, derails the discussion about how to actually end these problems. It takes the focus off of how common these problems are.

It's not that there isn't a time or place to discuss the phenomena of false allegations, but only about 2-8% of rape claims are false, so it shouldn't take up such a huge amount of every discussion about such topics. It's a way of deflecting, and preventing people from really engaging in an honest dialogue about the actual problems of sexual harassment, abuse and rape. It's a tactic, and it's used on purpose. You don't have to participate if you don't want to.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you @MlleCake , I didn't know it, that is not nice... I will never participate again ❌

[Charleslvajr]

Your opinion is just as valid as the feminist hate mongers.

[Charleslvajr]

An interesting phenomenon in the American justice system is it's reliance on proof beyond a reasonable doubt to convict except with metoo. Now it's guilty, punished then try to prove innocence. Since it only happens to men the feminazis love it. It's an absolute disgrace to our legal system and basic morality but that never stopped any other cult so why would it impede feminism?

[Anonymous]

I am writing about the American version of #metoo. It was created to make people understand that there is nothing wrong or embarassing about reporting inappropriate activity. Ok, that's great. The earlier you report a criminal the lower the chance of him or her attacking another potential victim. That's great. Fewer criminals on the streets, in the worplace, and wherever else these acts happen. But a little later popular women saw this as an opportunity to raise their status by making any actiion they were not proud of as a way to kick men out and replace his position. Some began doing it for revenge. For some reason, courts and even police avoided asking for evidence. Men became "Guilty until proven innocent" which is against the law in the United States. Then it lead to fake accusation by popular AND regular women because they thought "Hey, look how easy it is to ruin a man's life just by randomly accusing him of something". So fake accusations arose. Now the man has to prove his innocence instead of the woman having to prove his guiltyness. Yet, even if he proves his innocence, some men still face consequences such as losing their job, future opoortunities, and possibly jail for doing nothing wrong. This lead to men avoiding women whenever possible from fear of being thrown in jail or at least losing their job by doing nothing wrong. Men are now hiring fewer women to save themselves and their business. Fewer single men are approaching potential lovers from fear of being accused just by offering a handshake or giving a compliment. So in the future there will be fewer women at work, fewer marriages, fewer couples, and more lonely people.
Well done #metoo

[Good_Behavior]

My concern is that if this stays a sexist concept (that only men commit these acts) then it will actually make things much worse. Ever since about 2004 when people started to shed the idea that women did no wrong we've seen a rapid increase in the number of sexual harassment cases against women but with hashtags like this essentially belonging "to women" you'll have some kind of stake and claim towards the idea.

This was the exact same problem with rape as a crime because rape literally became the crime of forcible sex with a male assailant and didn't change for hundreds of years. I am more than aware of the danger of a society who thinks, and in fact has enforced for years, the idea that "If a woman shows interest no matter how it is shown a man should suck it up but men must be wary of women."

As long as a society believes that one sex controls sex in entirety then while things do change they don't change in ways that are necessarily good for all of us. They will benefit only the group that controls the situation at large.

[VaIiant]

I feel like it’s made a worse impact. It’s encouraged the false sense of victimhood, that everyone is a victim. It’s ruined careers on one claim- which is sometimes untrue. It overall hasn’t benefited society in any way- it makes men more skittish to approach women, because now “unwanted flirting” is harassment. (A year ago in high school the counselor came in to discuss that topic of unwanted flirting = harassment) it’s basically taught that any woman can say anything and if you doubt it you’re sexist. It’s disgusting...

[NJ_Casanova]

So true... like the accusation about Azi Ansari... he didn't do anything wrong.

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[VaIiant]

@NJ_Casanova agreed... sure, he didn’t pick up the signals, but she basically ruined him because she didn’t like the foreplay... that’s not sexual harassment, she never said no. She can’t blame him for HER actions.

[NJ_Casanova]

That's the real Problem... Girls and their "So called signals" If you say Get the fk off of me... that is 100% clear. A slap to the face, drink in the face is 100% clear to a too aggressive guy.

The girls that didn't say No, do the things above don't have a leg to stand on in my book. I don't know ANY GUY that can Read minds.

[NJ_Casanova]

If you have defensive wounds, scratch him and have DNA under your nails... that's PROOF he did something wrong. Only excuse that I would accept for not defending yourself/getting out of there is if she was asleep.

[VaIiant]

@NJ_Casanova yeah, exactly. She still did it... it wasn’t sexual assault, and saying so is ridiculous. She didn’t say “no”. Women now are just in a perpetual state of false victimhood. Almost all of society is.

[NJ_Casanova]

I think if they really want to "Fix" society, they should charge women that make false accusations. Even if it is dropped, the women recants... the damage is done.

But in the USA at least women get special treatment.

[VaIiant]

@NJ_Casanova definitely. Like, the women who made all those claims against Donald Trump, they weren’t charged when they came out as false... and it happens so much.

[roland77]

I made your 18th up-vote. :-) Thank you for thinking like that. Bad sex != rape (read: is never).

[cinderelli]

every movement or a positive initiative does meet some hurdles and people who claim they're a part but they actually ruin it for the real victims.. same goes for this me-too movement.. there are women who are and will try to take advantage of it.. those kinda women make me sick.. like that Ansari's case.. he might be a douche.. sure.. but that wasn't assault.. and we as people need to be able to draw the line and know the difference.. having said that I'm glad it's out now.. the conversation is at least on the table.. we can't solve a problem without acknowledging its existence.. I'm glad it's out.

[Guanfei]

Men are just now more scared to approach women, because, unlike what you said, it's not men who doesn't know what harassement is. Metoo showed that it was women who were quite confused about it, not knowing the definition of harassement, and making any little thing into harassement or sexual assault, or "micro-agression" as they say.
You said that men changed the way they interact with women. They did, but because they're scare to be labelled as harasser or rapist for any little for, for a simple flirt, or even a look.
Meanwhile, celebrities are using it to spread an anti-men propaganda, and become more famous while they didn't say a thing before this movement was created.

Yes, metoo changed things. But not in a good way. And soon, only angry lesbians or feminazis will be the only one who enjoy the change.
The rest of the women will see that men doesn't approach them and even avoid them, except the assholes who didn't care about it anyway, even before.

[Anonymous]

If by changing the way people think you mean you can now make sexual harassment claims against someone and they are then guilty and fuck proving if they are innocent or not because who care; yeah it changed.

As for young men being afraid of women. Yeah that makes sense especially when those women can pretty much ruin your life just by saying the right words, true or not. And it changed how they approach potential dates since they known it's a fucked up situation which can royally fuck their life up so it's just best to advoid the situation all together.

The #MeToo did change everything but not for the good. It pretty much made it so a woman's word on sexual harassment has more power then the actual legal system does. And made men want to avoid women out of fear of their own social safety. Also I highly doubt MTV, the same people responsible for Jersey Shore, are a creditable source.

[Gordo1970]

It's gotten to a point where a man is already judged as guilty because of an accusation, even when the woman has made it out of spite. No one cares about evidence anymore, if a woman cries harassment straight away the guy is considered guilty. This is why the MGTOW movement is becoming so popular with men, quite frankly we can't trust women not to stitch us up if we upset them

[CasaNorba]

kick ass article bro!

not bragging or anything but growing up in such a place where women are extremely jumpy and will accuse you of sexual harassment just by looking at them funny I think I have possessed this mentality way before this movement started

[1derfulguy]

Okay, so I visited this dating site for swingers, and anyone feeling sorry for women should go there. It's basically full of men sucking up to women. A lot of the women are fugly AF. Still they have hordes of men kissing ass in the hope of getting laid. Read the women's profiles. Many of them are extremely rude and aggressive. I want THIS, THIS, and THIS, and if you can't provide it, GTFO. Small dick? GTFO. Short? GTFO. Incapable of grabbing my attention with a clever and playful message? GTFO. Etc. etc. etc. That is the mask slipping. That is what feminists will never acknowledge, though it is true: Men are horny motherfuckers, and women have them exactly where they want them in that department. Men powerful? Ha!

[youtoo]

Wow, that's crazy. It reminds me of what Camille Paglia said about how the power of female sexuality in ancient times hasn't changed much since, it's just been repressed mostly, causing it to come out in uglier ways, like the debauchery of 3rd wave feminism. Other people have said that feminism just a lot older women hating on younger women. Interesting though

[standardguy]

There are issues in your essay:
"Not every accusation made through #MeToo movement is false. "
Even one wrong accusation made through #MeToo destroys the authenticity of the #MeToo movement or the authenticity of women claiming sexual abuse.
"One in three men is confused what is sexual assault and what isn’t. "
A man can't commit sexual assault unnintentionally. The problem is that he planed to use a woman (for his sexual pleasure) or to assualt her to humilate her. If he hasn't planed it he was just an unsensitive idiot but no sexual harasser.

[Anonymous]

It makes men aware that a large percentage of Western women are anti-male and will enjoy ruining a man's life on a whim , also it seems women in general WANT men to stay WELL AWAY from them , not sure if it's their misandrist nature , or the anti-male brainwashing they have been fed since they were girls.
Perhaps the solution would be develop an effective male sex drive / attraction killer , that has no adverse effects , and men truly went their own way... after all this is the age of " I don't need no man " , true , women don't need men... time to give them their wish !!

[Anonymous]

This is a bad thing. The guys saying that they are reevaluating the way they interact/ date, is bad for women.

Guys are more cautious now which means, women will have to take the lead and be more accertive when it comes to dating and sex. We all know that is against the nature of the average women, so girls get use to chasing. Lol

Furthermore, in the workplace, guys would start avoiding women which is going to have a negative impact on women getting promotions and developing good coworker relationships. So good luck ladies. Lol

[Juxtapose]

^^^ this.

[Kuraj]

The problem lies in what people's definition of "sexually harassed" is.
I have been harassed/assaulted sexually, verbally, mentally as well as physically.
As was probably any other human being that had the pleasure of interacting with other human beings in their life for any significant amount of time.

I'm sure a lot of the people #MeToo-ing would go to such extents of describing "harassment" that it would include every person on the planet.
And then, it quickly loses its meaning.

[OnAColdWinterNight]

you tend to forget that buisnesses are now less likely to hire women.
And that men are avoiding women in the workplace.
What will result of this revolution is a backlash against women, feminism and the creation of great and awesome male spaces.

litterally, no downside.