Why Don’t You Smile?

[Anonymous]

I am not sad I am just not happy

So what are you?

I am "meh"

"You should smile"

Have you ever been told that? I have on many occasions

When people tell me to smile they are telling me not to be myself in my opinion. They are telling me to live for them and abide to their ridiculous request. That is why I do not smile when someone tells me to, as you may not jump when someone tells you to.

"Smiles are gifts to the people you encounter"

If a smile is a gift I will tell them to buy their own, some people are like Santa Claus but I am not one of those people

That is also why I do not fake a smile as I stride rapidly through a crowd of people. Why I enter a room filled with skepticism and a readiness to maintain my initial stature regardless of what occurs. I notice others unease and all I can do is pity them because they desire something from me that I will not produce.

"OMG she is so salty"

Just because I do not answer with a smile does not mean I am trying to be disrespectful, but I don't take talk like this lightly

I stare down those who try to give me strange looks until they look away, but their choice to look away is of their own accord as is mine to not crack a smile when someone says good morning. I am not customary nor do I wish to be, I am who I am and I will never change who I am for anyone, no one on this Earth is important enough for me to allow them to rule over my life and decisions. I smile for myself of my own choosing. I reluctantly smile when something genuinely funny forces a smile across my face because it is a drastic change at times. Good news is usually a reason to smile depending on how "good" it really is. I do not smile walking around I look serious as some describe my air, but I can not even will myself to be any different.

I know that many guys might find girls who don't smile less attractive but it is a lifestyle of mine that I can't pardon with. It is who I am.

Some ask me what is wrong, but nothing is wrong with me so I ignore them or say what do you mean. I usually feel mutual some may call it "meh" but feeling "meh does not open doors for a smile to make its way across my face, only a line that means nothing. I am not sad, I am not mad, I am not emotionless, I am not depressed, I am "meh". So my facial expression matches this feeling.

[Joelski440]

This was pretty good, I have been getting stuff like this for a long time. what's wrong? why are you mad? I'm not mad & nothing is wrong that's is just how my face looks. I'm not happy, I'm not sad I'm not entertained that's just ky neutral face. I've never been one to put on a fake smile.

[myTake Owner]

Yaaasss! That is me all the time, except now because your comment made me smile, I am not alone

[Joelski440]

😊 I guess they have a name for my condition RBF (resting but he face) unfortunately someone advised me I don't have RBF I'm just an asshole. 🤣

[beebella]

Unless I find something funny, I don't smile. And it's very annoying when people tell me that I should smile. For what? It doesn't do anything for me. I'm fine with people thinking I'm salty. Lol

[Toad-1]

bad RBF :P

[lilaqua]

Happens to me constantly. I think I just have one of those faces if I look like ethan bradberry so be it.

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[myTake Owner]

Jajaja, muy divertido 😂Muy bueno y triste yo reí cuando vi este.

[torken]

Interesting,

I just read the chapter in How to Make Friends and Influence People that is about smiling. That book would STRONGLY disagree with you.

Smiling is a great way to disarm people, to get them to treat you better, and even to make yourself feel happier. Contrary to what might make sense, but your body and brain are kinda easy to trick. If you're feeling salty, but force yourself to smile and act jolly, you'll soon start to actually feel those positive fake feelings you were going through the actions for.

That said, when a man tells a woman to smile, its kinda seen as a sexist action. So I'm not telling you to smile haha, I just think its crazy cause I literally just read that chapter and it made great points.

[windknowsmyname]

I fucking love this post. I have a resting bitch face and i dont smile to fake it either. if something is funny id smile, if something im thinking of is a good idea ill smile, but give me a reason to smile then i would. hate when people trying tell me, oh you should smile more, no one wants to talk to you cause they assume your angry and dont want to be bothered. like not smiling is end all be all. why? so i should smile at nothing to please others. no ma'am no sirs.

[FatherJack]

Smiles are rare here in the UK , no-one has any business telling others to smile anyway... someone that smiles at strangers is regarded as odd / suspicious over here , most expressions are as cold as our current Siberian weather !! I'm a stony faced bastard !

[myTake Owner]

Cool the UK! Thanks for replying!

[themetalhead]

totally relate to this! I have a bad case of RBF (Resting Bitch Face) like i'll either look blah or pissed off all the time without realizing. plus i'd rather smile for a reason than go walking around with a creepy ass grin! anyone who knows the 90s mtv cartoon "daria" they'll know her quote of "I don't like to smile unless I have a reason to" XD

[grimtigress]

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[InTimoreDei]

It's not the smiling that matters most. It's the tone of voice. Some girls I have met just always answer or speak so condescendingly. In Irish slang we call those people "saucy". Smiling is not what matters to me. It's the tone of voice and how one projects themselves.

I was listening to a group of people talk inside a cafe one time and one of the girls just repeatedly used a sarcastic and condescending tone. Can't stand that stuff.

[ryancg]

I don't smile much either. Not in a bad mood or anything like that, in fact, I'm typically a pretty happy guy, but smiling just feels weird. Seriously, I'm even trying to smile now as I type this and smiling just makes my face feel weird. It just doesn't feel natural to me.

[btbc92]

I got that plenty of times by people. It's another form of bullying. And people wants to knwo WHY people grow so distant and anti-social. Mind your own business. If you have nothing to offer that person, why should they 'smile' for you. If there isn't anything to smile about, I won't smle. I'm salty? Do me and yourself a favor, stay in your corner, and I will stay in my corner. I don't want to know a disrespectful person. That's all! :)

[RaspIsDie]

I heard people smiling to strangers on streets in USA. I live in Ukraine. Ukrainians and russians would probably think, you want to sell or steal something if you smiling to strangers with no reason.

[myTake Owner]

Ha that is a great response, I wish I lived there a little, just so than I can be the norm. Thanks so much for commenting!

[RaspIsDie]

Careful with your wishes.

[myTake Owner]

yeah, you're right Lol

[EvanR]

I agree, I'm not one for smiling and have overheard people say they don't talk or approach me because it looks like I'm always in a bad mood

[brainpancakes]

I have a resting bitch face... but the reason why I don't smile is cause when I do, I want people to feel happy that they got to see me smile :)

[myTake Owner]

true, true

[TheChocolateWriter]

I don't smile because these two people in color called me ugly when I smiled in high school. So now, I just make funny faces.

[Robot257]

So then why dont you forget them on move on?

[legalboxers]

love the mytake. I refuse to smile because when a crude joke aimed at me they say "its a joke" to avoid culpability. I can't smile,

[myTake Owner]

I've been there

[Unknownooo]

Smile makes you look more presentable and approachable. No need to grin... just a slight smile would do the trick. Don't do it because people want you to.. do it for yourself.

[Logorithim]

Smiling makes a person appear more approchable and more sympathetic. There are real benefits to doing it.

If I don't smile it's because I don't want to be approchable at the moment.

[Gedaria]

True you don't have to smile. But it is a outwood expression of your state of mind. Iknow it makes me so sad to see a person not smile. But that is your choice in a way you are making yourself look unapproachable ...

[myTake Owner]

The opposite, people want to bother you even more when you look stern, they constantly ask you if you are alright will walk up to you when you are trying to go somewhere just to ask "why the long face"

[Gedaria]

True it can go the opposite way.. There is one consellation people do care about you...

[Bourne96]

Great take! And ur right we aren't in a bad mood were just meh

[myTake Owner]

Thanks

[Wolframium]

No, it’s not just your opinion. They don’t want you, they want someone positive, smiling, fake. Like themselves.
What you’re describing with “meh” is just neutral.

[chrisbigman]

It's hard to smile when your soul is being sucked out of you. Oh, and you work night shift - even though you've requested to work day hours.