Housewives Deserve More Respect!

[Sososinaxoxo]

I'm not talking about the Real Housewives of wherever franchise.

I mean REAL housewives, who actually cook and clean.

I noticed that a lot of people don't have much respect for housewives.

A lot of feminists think it's sexist that some women just want to stay at home and take care of the kids, while the husband/father is out working.

I don't see anything wrong with a woman who chooses to be a stay at home mom/housewife.

I wouldn't mind being a housewife or a stay at home mom.

I don't see what people's issue with it is?

If I choose to stay at home and clean, and take care of the kids, what's wrong with that?

It's not me living in the "stone ages".

It's me choosing to live my life how I want too.

If you want to work and run your household differently go right ahead.

I just don't want you tearing me or others down because I enjoy cleaning and cooking.

I mean when I was younger like six or maybe a little older like ten.

I dreamed of being a housewife.

I love cleaning and taking care of people.

I would cook all the time for my family.

I noticed that that's obviously not most young girl's dream now.

A girl I interviewed once said she wanted to be a stripper since she was sixteen.

If you're not going to clean at least play with barbies.

At least five?

She is sixteen.

She is fifteen.

These girls are not even adults.

These are actually a lot of young girl's role models.

This is why girls don't know how to take care of themselves and others.

They're too busy on instagram live twerking, while a bunch of creepy grown men watch.

I get their parents might be okay with it.

I'm just saying if she was my daughter this would not be happening.

If my mother ever saw me dressed like this she would beat the brakes off me on site.

Yes, my mother was very old fashioned.

She was way more strict than most other moms.

I learned that what she did to me has made me strong a person.

She made me what I am today and I appreciate her for that.

Can most girls my age say that about their mothers and mean it?

My mother was a housewife and she had the biggest job of all.

She was very busy taking are of me and my siblings.

I was the only girl in a house full of boys.

She still wanted me to stay feminine.

She taught me how to dress.

She taught me how to use my words.

She taught me how to be polite.

She taught me how to manage and save my money.

She taught me how to grocery shop.

She of course taught me how to clean.

She taught me how to cook.

She taught me how to dance. (Ballroom dancing! My favorite hobby now.)

She taught me how sew.

She taught me lots of things that I still know how to do.

Was she the the most loving mother of all? No!

Did she teach me things that got me ahead in reality? Yes, she did.

Are children being taught these things now? Obviously not.

Anyway! I vowed when I was seven to be a good mother and wife to my future children.

I would never hurt them.

I will homeschool all of them.

I would make sure the house is always clean.

I would make sure dinner was the most important meal of the day.

I would bake 10 pies for my husband everyday.

(Please keep in mind I was only seven when I wrote this.)

I'm saying that I've been in love with the idea of staying at home and caring for the kids has always been a dream of mine.

I don't mind working but it's nothing like caring for your children and husband.

I think housewives are awesome!

They deserve wayyyy more credit.

They do a lot for their family.

Don't take it for granted!

Love a very conservative, Angieee <3

[GuyAtEdge]

@Sososinaxoxo - well said. It's a choice for women to take care of the family. Such a decision has most often been the bed-rock for successful families, where the spouse can take care of the professional world. In several societies where joint families still exist (that is, one large family where the grand parents, parents, uncles and cousins all stay together), women who take care of home, are revered and respected. In select societies, matriarchal patterns still exist, where the head of the family is the grand mom/mom who usually has the last say in family issues.

Bottom line - if a man loves his girl like a doll and adores her, he would respect and support her no matter what.

[Guanfei]

Tbh the only ones who don't respect housewives are the feminists, who are ironically supposed to support women in their choices.

[elizamichale2]

Good take honey
My mum has taught me all that too and she's been a very strong woman and centre of our family, she cared so much about each one of us and still does. She made all of us strong but still gentle persons and she was a working lady when we were growing and she still works with a charity for betterment of people
I dont have less or more respect for anyone i just respect everyone for what they are as long as its not damaging to anyone in any way but for me personally i can't see myself being a housewife

[elizamichale2]

Thanks for mho

[Sososinaxoxo]

You're welcome! ^_^

[Cammy137]

Why? They are staying home to look after the kids that they chose to have. If they don't have kids then they are staying at home to clean up their own mess.
There are women who work and still contribute to the child care and house cleaning roles, along with the husband.
Those women deserve more respect. Both my parents worked when I was a kid and yet the house was always spotless, I was raised with love and care, and my parents still had time for themselves.
If you enjoy being a housewife then that's fine but don't try and paint it as more deserving of respect than it actually is.

[Lish89]

Couldn't agree more! Once your baby is a yet old and more dependent, go back to work and not use your child as an excuse to be lazy.

[pleasestopthis]

Yeah, my mom worked as a nurse and she regularly had to do 24 hour shifts while I was being taken care of by a sitter. Not every working mother gets to work AND take care of their kids and that sucks. That way, being a stay at home mom sounds better than having a stranger at home to raise the kids.

[englisc]

@pleasestopthis

Yeah, this is why I think the idea of a working Mother being more respectable than stay at home Mothers ridiculous. Sometimes maybe they have no choice but to work, that's fair enough. But the idea that you'd choose to have stangers take care of your kids rather than care for them yourself is one I can't understand. I can't understand the logic. There's more to raising a kid than paying for them, you have to give them attention, teach them etc. It's not lazy to look after your own kid, it's smart.

Many women don't put their kids into daycare. Daycare is bad for kids for many reasons, so many hire a nanny instead. Are nannies lazy? Do they somehow do a better job than the kid's own parents? They're more respectable because they spend their time working for a boss and having a stranger raise their kids, instead of investing that time in their own kids? It doesn't make sense.

[OrallyFixated]

@Lish89
You think it lazy to want to raise your own children?

[Lish89]

@OrallyFixated no not at all. I worked in daycares for many years. I don't want someone else raising my kid. Dads get ripped off and don't get to stay home. I made a deal with my hubby to avoid daycare as much as possible. I get a year off and then he gets a year off. But we're in a financial situation to do that, some people aren't. The daycare I worked at charged $1700.00 for an infant fulltime! Most moms can't go to work evade you don't break even! It's unnecessary. I owned a daycare and worked in them so I've seen it all. I think it's lazy when women stay at home all day and their kids are in elementary school.

[Cammy137]

Exactly and this MyTake doesn't even focus on mother's who are looking after a kid who would otherwise have to be in daycare. This MyTake focuses more on someone who isn't a housewife because the situation demands it, but rather it's someone who is a housewife because it's what they want to do and have dreamt of doing since they were a kid.
The jobs that a housewife does are just chores that would have to get done anyway. Most people work AND do those chores. I don't see why someone deserves respect for basically wanting to not work and do the jobs that would have to be done anyway, all while still getting to go on holidays, buy new clothes, buy expensive ingredients for cooking experiments, have coffee with her friends, etc.

[errorgoodnameunfound]

YES! THANK YOU!!!

[Lish89]

@englisc
I agree, bur not everyone can afford to stay at home. Most families need two incomes to survive. So choosing to stay at home after your child is one and your family is suffer if financially is not good for anyone in the family including your baby. This leads to stress and parents fighting about money, which could lead to divorce and broken homes. I've seen this time and time again. Women now days are using their children as excuses to stay at home and be lazy. I had a friend of mine stay home for five years and her parents offered to watch their son (their grandson) free of charge so she could contribute financially as they were near homeless! It's not fair to put it all on the man to support everyone. It's inrealistic and it's selfish. Your a team and both have to contribute to support the family you both created together. Some are able to stay at home and be with their children. If I could stay home with my son until he was five, I would love too! But not alway the case.

[pleasestopthis]

@Lish89 Involving the grandparents in raising the children is the perfect recipe for disaster. They think they have the right to teach the kids the things they want, and think they have a saying in everything you do since they're taking care of them. I'd rather struggle a bit than having my parents or my in-laws meddling into my home.
My parents made great money but this I what I say: NOTHING replaces a mother's care.

[Lish89]

@pleasestopthis I actually got really lucky with ours. No micromanaging for us from them. But we both have child development education so they know we will call them on their crap. But other people don't have that situation too so I can see how that's a disaster. But again.. I'm not disagreeing.. nothing is better then mom and dads care.. but some people don't get that choice.

[MermaidMotel]

Agreed. When I was growing up, my mother was a trucker and worked days, while my father worked late night into the early morning as a post man. That's how it was for years. My parents could not afford for one person to sit at home cleaning all day. For people saying, "well.. if you can afford it" Are people planning for the future? You should miss out on an opprotunity to earn extra income, you never know when you, or your child may need it. Children are very prone to getting into "accidents" and catching illnesses and sicknesses. I shouldn't even have to explain unplanned expenses..

[BattleKitten77]

Amen sir. I worked full time went to school full time. Never took foodstamps bought my own house never shacked up with different guys and was a housewife. These cunts that want a fucking award for feeding their own children make me sick. Most bitches are lazy as fuck. I worked with so many cunts that sat around the break room and bragged sbout how they cry every morning ehen they leave their kids. Bullshit bitch. You are just trying to guilt your husband so yiu dont have to work. by the way the lazy cunts were not really working at work. Either fucking somebody or trying to get other girls fired. I fucking hate women. If you knew what i knew you would never marry. The more they act like christians dont cuss act like they get drunk after one beer. Watch out. She is fucking one at work at the gym and next door

[Allie_Oops]

Housewives get the respect they deserve now. Being a stay at home mom or wife is not a noteworthy thing. They probably have the one job that literally anyone can do.

[Brunhilde]

When you can simultaneously homeschool five kids of different ages, keep a four-acre lawn mowed (push-mower) and the house clean, keep up a two-acre vegetable garden, can some eight-hundred quarts every year, take care of forty head of goats, two milk cows (no automatic milkers) and thirty chickens, cook every meal for twenty-plus years, and still volunteer to be a Sunday School teacher, then you can criticise my mother's lifestyle choices.

[JimRSmith]

Nailed it.

It's a valid lifestyle decision, and should never be disrespected.

[Lish89]

Okay so I became a stay at home mom six months ago when my son was born. I work (Ed) in child development so I know it's very beneficial for baby to be at home with mom until at least 6 months of age. At 5-6 months, babies go through their stage of "stranger danger" and stranger anxiety. They become super needy with their parents and usually will want constant attention from you. This will also be the time where baby screams when you leave a room. I've been in daycares where a child under six months was there and it was horrible. So that being said, a woman should be able to spend a year at home with their baby who're returning to work. Get them of the breast, eating solids, solid nap rountines, pass the early teething, good separation trust and so many other benefits. Those are integral if you both make the choice to have babies. I took care of children as a career so it was an easy transition for me but OMG was it exhausting. No sleep, no time for a shower or to eat sometimes.. meanwhile your trying to complete small tasks while being interrupted every few moments. Imagine being a painter as your job and you spend all day trying to paint one wall and get interrupted all day lol. Women where a lot of hats as SAHM. We don't clock in at 9 and out at 5. We are 24/7. We do a lot during the day plus we serve homemade lasgna and blow jobs after the day with kids are done lol. It's the most exhausting job I've had in my life. It takes all of you mentally, physically and emotionally. It's also super rewarding knowing your making sure your kids aren't being raised by another person who could make your child an asshole. I love my job, but like any other job, you have those days of not wanting to get up.. doesn't mean I don't love it, just means I'm human. However, women who stay home pass the preschool stage are just milking it at this point. When you CAN go back to work, GO BACK TO WORK! Sitting at home when your children can be in preschool and elementary school is just lazy. Don't call that work when your kids gone all day and your house is in clean condition. It's unnecessary.

[Anonymous]

I respect somebody that can both be a house wife (meaning, do basic chores and take care of kids that THEY agreed to have), yet be full on ready to work a job as well and be at least decently educated. Ofc this is the SAME WOMAN who gets offended by a slut walk and doesn't like feminism. Well, ya know what?
YOU. ARE. LAZY!
YOU. ARE. A. GOLDDIGGER!
You are basically a sex toy
You are basically a cleaning/cooking robot with little difference between said bot!
You lack brains.
And you enjoy lacking brains.
And you shame women that WANT to have brains.
So no, SHAME on YOU and women like YOU!
As many have pointed out, you just do what's expected of ANYBODY minus having a JOB and making MONEY because you LEECH on your HUSBAND in trade for SEX which again, ANYONE can give sex! YOU aren't special for it!
You are bragging about being a fuckin servant!
Fucking slave mentality and you are PROUD of it!
No, you don't get praise. You get the opposite.
I don't LOVE all of feminism, but I HATE golddigging know nothing slave wifes like YOU!
It's 2018!
Men are marrying LESS AND LESS because of women LIKE YOU.
Men are LONELIER NOT JUST because of feminist hypocrites, but because of women LIKE YOU!
YOU want to FUCK MEN OVER because you are a WOMEN and think you can!
You are a NARCISSIST!
One day, if I gain political power, mark my words, women like you will either change or be KILLED. I wouldn't have narcissists or saidsts allowed in my country, no matter the gender.

Now I know this was harsh and perhaps, I was wrong about you in some way or another. But I hope this gets you to THINK about your mytake a little bit, THINK about your views, and actually mold a sustainable future for your kids! You can respond all condescending, nasty, mean, like many CONSERVATIVE, yes you heard me, CONSERVATIVE/GOLDDDIGGER women do, or, you can CALMLY respond to this. And this goes for ANY replies. Or you can ignore this and stay in your echo chamber, no doubt dooming your children's future. Let's see what happens.

[Opinion Owner]

I forgot to add, as many point out, you do the BASIC chores ANYONE does and want a REWARD for it, yet these women that give no fucks about reward or attention, meaning they dress however the fuck they want and actually care about women advancing FORWARD past the age of CAVEMEN... you criticize THEM? WTF LADY?

[ChrisTruthseeker]

I like your take.
I definitely think being a housewife or even just a more involved parent in general is something to be celebrated.
I think when you have parents who both try to work full-time it really makes it hard to properly bond with your children.
It's strange that people leave their kids with babysitters all the time and then some how they expect their kids to listen to them.
You have to seriously put in the time to raise them yourself in my opinion.
My ex didn't want to be a housewife so I chose to work less and stay with my son more because I wanted to raise him. I didn't have him to leave him with babysitters.
I had to sacrifice money, but it was worth it. I have a true bond with my child and I'll never regret being there for him as much as possible.
That's why I think housewives are great.
Children need at least one if their parents to be around, to be there for them daily.
Whether they're sick or whatever.
Housewives make some if the best parents and it shows in the kids they raise.
I'm all for parents spending more time at home.
I appreciate housewives for sure.

[SirRexington]

Feminism is cancer and has destroyed the social bond between men and women.

Women should choose and have the right to make their own decisions just like everyone else. No two women are identical or have the same interests or goals. Limiting them to a false set of gender roles that exploited natural ones to the extreme is not okay, nor is denying that said roles do exist to some extent at all. We were at one far end of the spectrum and now we are reaching too far the other way.

It is apparent that women in countries where gender equality is most prevalent, their decision making has an observational set of behavioral patterns that indicate gender predispositions due to some extent, exist. That of course does not minimalist the females human rights, merely that very same right shows their natural behavior. Obviously not all women subscribe to that typical behavior but clearly there is an average.

The only people nowadays focusing on gender, and gender suppression, are the gender obsessed SJWs.

[Massageman]

Well said.

A housewife is worth more than money could buy. Her husband is confident in her abilities. She helps him and wouldn't harm him, and with her aid, he attains his full potential in the town, sitting with the elders in the region. She is creative and a good shopper. She is the first one up in the morning to start the day for her family. She negotiates and buys some land and even plants a garden to provide food for her family. She is a vigorous worker in whatever she does, and is a strong, yet dignified woman with whom to deal. She negotiates sound investments and purchases for her family, yet she is still generous to others and helps the poor. She is an excellent seamstress and is skilled at making clothes and fine sewn goods for her family. Her sewn items are so good that she sells them to others (maybe on Etsy?) as a second income to help her family financially. She is wise and teaches children; the younger people depend on her useful suggestions about life. She is never lazy as she diligently manages her household's affairs. Her children are thankful for all that she does and her husband also praises her above all the other local wives, saying, "Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all."

So, honor the housewife for all that she has done and let the results of her skills and talents bring her praise and recognition in her town.

Prov 31: 10-31

[Anonymous]

At the beginning your take was great, because everyone should be able to do what they love without feeling ashamed for it. But at the end you start judging other people, expecting everyone to respect you while you don’t do the same. We deserve respect as a human being and we should be able to do what we want without feeling bad about it. So why are you making others feel bad about themselves? You want to be a housewife? Great! I want to be a doctor, a police officer, a lawyer, doesn’t matter. I, too, deserve respect! And I will have to take care of children, clean, cook and do all those things too while working my ass off! I don’t expect extra credit for that, but you expect more ‘respect’ for choosing to stay home and just do the formers? You know, my mother is my role model too. She is a psychologis, and aside from going back to university to study and persue her passion, she raised me and my brother, cleaned the house, cooked two meals a day and did all these things housewives do. And I respect women like her far more than women who just choose to stay home. Because they earn it, while you are just entitled to it.

[tartaarsaus]

If they wanna do it, that's fine. However, the 21st century exists. Dishwasher exist, vacuum cleaners exist and so forth. Cleaning the house, unless you got a pretty damn big house, doesn't take long.

Next to that, my mom had 4 kids and worked. She could still take care of us. So many moms who work can take care of their kids as well. It's not like there are somehow only two extreme forms in terms of working and taking care of kids.

Next to that, it's very risky to be completely housewife and often not economically feasible. Most people are risk-averse, hence it's dying off. But if one wants to be a housewife despite the risks to clean a home (which can be done in far less time) all day, and take care of kids (which can be done while having a job as well), then go ahead.

Annoyingly, if they do actually choose to he housewife, they'll often still try to apply for welfare pretending to be looking for a job. So they try to leach off the system to compensate for a lack of money they caused themselves. Then there is the aspect of them not building up their retirement money. So unless you have kids at like 20 and quit taking care of them at 35-40, you're screwed.

So sure, being a housewife could be nice. That is, if you don't expect to have a full time job anytime in your life nor ever divorce a husband with a large income. Economically a very poor choice

[tartaarsaus]

I don't think staying home to clean, while machines do a lot of that, and to take care of kids, which so many can do that have jobs, is something particularly demanding of respect. Especially since it's, when you think about it rationally (or actually with human bounded rationality), a very very risky choice

[CubsterShura]

You are right when you say that housewives don't get enough credit or appreciation for what they do. It is a big thing to devote yourself to your family. Just how a woman who wants to work should not be forced into being a housewife, someone who wants to be a housewife should also not be forced to do work outside.

That being said, I really think that in the last part of your post, you somehow gave an impression that woman who are not housewives are not very dedicated to their housework, and it is children of women who are NOT housewives whose daughtera turn out to be like the example you gave, which is so wrong. My sister does a highly professional job besides her education and she is still a great mother to my niece.

One thing that I would suggest however, is for women to have enough qualifications to be able to do a job that makes a good amount of money. Just in case you are ever in a situation where you need to do it, you never know. What if your future husband- good forbid- gets sick somehow and he in unable to work but you need money for treatment? Financial dependency sucks, at least in real life. So even if you don't work you would still know that you are prepared and capable for it when you feel like you need it.

[Aynsof]

Ok sounds a bit like a rant... gets quite negative along the way
That being said I guess in a way I agree that they deserve respect the same respect any others deserve the people whom you speak ill of too
If their family is in a position where one partner (man or woman) can stay at home and devote their time and effort to their family and household I say good for them I do genuinely think it is better for the family as a whole though I do not believe it automatically has to be the wife mind you but while it is great that women can pursue their ambitions and use their potential I don't think both parents working full time jobs have been all that great for families and the children who grew up with that
The reality is though that financially it is difficult for a lot of families out there without slipping into poverty
And of course there are a lot of other concerns as well that make it a practical impossibility often
But where it isn't impossible yes absolutely any stay at home parent regardless lf gender taking care of their family full time it certainly deserves respect

[JMghow]

I have a decent level of respect for housewives who live up to their role, but not simply for stay-at-home wives. A marriage is a business contract for building a family unit, and it should be equal. That means equal valuation of time and effort. If a man works 60 hours to provide for his family, his wife should put in the same time and effort towards that goal. Period. Telling a man to take out the trash when he just got off a 10 hour shift and she's been watching reality television all day is just repugnant. That said, feminists need to quit bullying women. Women should have the right to live their lives freely as individuals, not be told what to do by a feminist collective in lieu of a husband.

[WeirdCinderella]

Actually, being a housewife is up to you and only you. People shouldn't judge or criticize. But feminism (or me at least) don't consider that being a housewife is the only way to be a good wife, its not a necessary thing to be a good wife and mother. If you made the choice by yourself, then its a very good thing as long as you're happy with it. What would be morally wrong is if you made that choice because of the society pressuring on you.
But since you're happy with your decision, I totally respect it. And yep, housewives and working women should get the same amount of respect.

[Kurαȷ]

*Unpopular opinion*

Danielle Bregoli might be a stupid 15 year old skank, but she has already achieved far more than any housewife ever will and thus I would consider her a better role model than any stay-at-home wife.

Housewives are no different from junkies who refuse to be productive members of the society and instead choose to be subsidized by food stamps paid for by other people.
I mean, if you find a husband who feels like marrying someone like that, more power to you.
But there is nothing on housewives that would earn them respect when it comes to me personally.

[lilaqua]

Sure feminists can be assholes but can we take some time to acknowledge conservative ideas that devalued the labour of domestic chores and infantilised women whilst doing it. It makes me sick

Also i'm kind of confused what you're talking about with the whole stripper/provocatively dressed thing. Women are sexual. Some women have always had the desire to act in a certain way. If anything it's less prevalent because generally marriage and sex gets delayed a bit. And this is 'normal' and they aren't role models, they're actually akin to a modern day freak show. If they were considered normal no one would gawk at them how they do.

[Skateranon]

My girlfriend love to do house work I think that's awesome. I also love to do it. If she choose to take care of our kids I'd be eternally gratheful to her. If she was the one with the bigger pay at some time I wouldn't mind being a stay home dad.

I just wouldn't trust any babysitters with my kids on how crazy things are getting

[btbc92]

My late mother was a housewife and tried to get good paying jobs but they didn't want to hire her because my father already made too much money. She had whatever she could take. What I realized growing up, is that they aren't being respected just for being housewives. They're being disrespected because too many people are too into your business, and they want to judge, criticize and gossip about you because of this feminist crap. So many complain about a woman staying home, especially other women, yet so many of these same women can't even keep not 1 man, and always have to find another man to replace the last one. Hilarious! ^^

[RolandCuthbert]

I don't even understand.

In American society, it is not possible for most families to live off one income. If your family can, congratulations! My fiancee when I get married probably won't work unless she is bored. She will mostly be a housewife.

But the men of GaG blame the demise of Western Civilization on Feminism. .. and not on simple basic economics.

I think most women would prefer to stay home if given the chance. And most men would prefer to be the sole wage earner if they could live comfortably.

And it is simple deception to pretend this is not the way the majority would want to live.

[Schrodingerscat]

No one deserves respect. They earn it.

Housewife, working woman or a house-husband, it's choices people make for themselves and don't deserve any extra credit for making certain choice. They don't deserve flak for their choice either.

Do I deserve respect for choosing chocolate ice cream over Vanilla? No. Do I deserve to be hated for choosing it? No.

Its just individual choices.