So...some guy by the name of Stefan Molyneux says that women should not waste their beauty on vanity and money , but instead get married and have children at young ages—specifically in the 20s. Early twenties, I am assuming based on context.
And to my lack of surprise, many agreed.
What confuses me is how backwards our minds are. As a group, as a society, we can never come to any agreement.
Many believe that women should use their looks to get ahead in ways such as making a “family” or to just settle down in general (babies possibly in the future). The message is that women should not have too many sexual partners and should stick to one man, early on in life. Her value rests in her alleged purity and ability to bear children.
Apparently there is power in a woman’s youth, innocence... and we know this. And then you have women looking for security and wealth because when a woman has those things, it means nothing. Her value is in her looks alone.
How come when women exercise this weird “hypergamy”, they are called out as gold diggers? Why are women called out for being vain when they go out of their way to please the male gaze (makeup, jewelry, eating less to stay thin, hair extensions, etc) when everyone else is telling them that all they have to offer is their appearance?
Yet there are so many men who will complain that women bring nothing to the table...WHEN THE BAR IS ALREADY SET SO LOW!
And then these ideas are further enforced when you have cases of husbands cheating on their wives because she “let herself go”.
As if beauty is supposed to last forever? Weight gain, loose skin, baggy eyes, disfigurement, etc...a lot of that is normal (for most). It’s apart of dying. It’s how life and death works. Metabolism slows and time moves faster.
Then there are women who do manage to work around the rules of life...they maintain a youthful appearance but then they STILL get cheated on or left for someone else.
There’s so much weight being put on women to look their best 24/7 when in the grand scheme of things...it means absolutely nothing.
Clearly there’s so much more to men and women than just money and sexual appeal...but as a society we don’t push that narrative.
Instead we push for toxic codependency and power struggle.
How can we fix this?
Men are constantly putting each other in a crazy competition of Cash Cow...which I do not believe is the fault of women (entirely).
There are so many women who spend their lives on men who have next to nothing in the bank. So it confuses me when men believe that all women are attracted to their wallet. They put so much pressure on themselves to be hyper masculine with a Fortune 500 company and 2 dozen cars sitting in the garage of their 4th mansion.
And us women aren’t fucking helping! The handful of parasites makes us all look bad.
All around the board, this is just a hot mess. And this take is more of a rant so I apologize for the disorganization of my thoughts.
I am only addressing a problem. I have no solutions...other than nuclear war 😋
This video (Beauty is a bad Investment) will better explain my point: